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writes:My boyfriend recently allowed his brother and sister-in-law to move into his house with him. My boyfriend is 25 and his brother and sister-in-law are 21. He has a pet name for his sister-in-law, he calls her clair-bear even in front of me. It makes me cringe when he does this and I have told him that them living there bothers me. I also recently discovered from "clair-bear" that my bf told her that I don't like to have sex with the lights on. This is very personal info and I was humiliated when she told me. I feel like he is catering to them and I just don't know what to do or feel. I really want to know if I am being too selfish by being hurt about all of these things? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 December 2009):
You're not being selfish at all. I think you need to tell him again straight to his face you don't want him talking to them about personal stuff, and that perhaps they should be moving on. If it continues, and you're feeling second best, then the chances are you are second best and it's time for you to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): did you talk to your boyfriend about this? let him know that you're not happy about him sharing these intimate things with his sister in law. maybe he thinks that it's ok...well, now you must let him know that you're being bothered by his words. just be patient and calm , and find a good time to tell him this. don't be aggressive or angry with him, i'm sure he'll understand you if he really loves you.
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