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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 22 May 2012: I agree with Eyes. You should avoid all that pain and leave now.... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead with the PhD? Or not?
Q. I'm currently in a massive state of indecision about my future and I was hoping for some advice. I'm 8 or so months into a postgraduate degree in chemistry, and the option to extend it to a three year PhD course came up a few months ago. At ...
A. 19 May 2012: Do as Annalisa said. Go for the Ph. D. If you're bored, whatever, then you can travel.... (read in full...)
How can I get a cougar woman? This is a personal choice of mine, and I wish to get me a relationship with one.
Q. Hi, everyone. I have a specific goal that I wish to acheive. I'm in my early 20's, I still am a virgin, I STILL don't know what a kiss feels like, etc. So, I figure, to kill 2 birds with 1 stone, I should get together with a cougar. However,...
A. 19 May 2012: Women can see through any man, and the "cougars" will see through you like you're the Hollow Man, only with boundary lines for easier viewing :-).
You Wish, he only wants the sex. He can do what you suggested, only he needs to know that he'll be... (read in full...)
Who's gonna' want a 33 year old nobody who has nothing?
Q. Where do I even try to begin? I was with my partner for 10 years. We have two beautiful children. We had a nice car. A nice house. On New Years Day my partner announced she had been having an affair for 2 years. She wanted me out. We fou...
A. 19 May 2012: I think you've hit rock bottom. You can only go up from now on. Don't let the past ruin your future. Let your being broke be your motivation. It's obvious that you can do much more than where you are now. Just get a grip on yourself and do ... (read in full...)
Should I lose contact with her? Or should I continue pursuing her?
Q. Okay I haven't asked any help for awhile, but I am starting to have problems again. So I have a friend that is also in my English class. We started as friends and soon we started dating. We were fine for the first two weeks we started dating u...
A. 17 May 2012: Don't talk to her unless it's unavoidable. Ah, and make sure you pass that course. Once you don't HAVE to see her, don't see her.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I cheated on him but I didn't!! I was with the other guy just to pick out a birthday gift for my boyfriend!
Q. So I'm 18 and my Boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 15. His birthday is coming up in about 3months and I wanted to get him something special for his birthday. And he's been wanting a guitar since forever. So I was planning on getting him ...
A. 17 May 2012: Tell the stupid that you were buying a guitar for him, and show the thing to him.... (read in full...)
She's a beautiful woman but very demanding and I'm confused and disillusioned
Q. I am in a relationship with a "now"divorced woman of 52 yrs.We regularly have discussions,and Im told repeatedly...Im shouting at her/raising my voice,but she has 50%hearing loss in both ears,she wont wear aids....she feels like because she pays ...
A. 17 May 2012: I think the first thing she needs to do is wear her hearing aids :-). That would help a lot in your understanding each other :-).
Seems you two are not made for each other.... (read in full...)
How does a man feel when he's in love?
Q. I know this might sound weird but How does a man feel when he's in love or when he really loves a girl and how he feela he's willing to do ?!! I know it sounds stupid but me as a girl I know how girls feel about a guy when they really love him and ...
A. 17 May 2012: He feels great, and no, he doesn't run for the next girl.... (read in full...)
Her mother has heard my wife is escorting, how should she discuss this her mother?
Q. my wife has been working as an escort since 2009 and is quite satisfied with what she does. it causes no problems in our marriage. we are financially stable now and invest 75 percent of everything she makes. she pays her taxes and even lists her ...
A. 17 May 2012: I think your wife is old enough to do whatever she wants. There is no need to discuss anything with the mother.
Now, the mother is also old enough to have her own opinions and act in consequence. If she doesn't like her daughter escortin... (read in full...)
I've been interested in my friend for over 3 years and our mutual friend asked me not to tell her yet, only for me to find out that he's been having sex with her!! I feel so betrayed by both of them!
Q. I have been interested in a girl for over three years. I've never looked at another woman the same way. We are very good friends and we share a mutual friend. The reason I never said anything to her was because I discussed it with our mutual friend ...
A. 17 May 2012: When did they start their relationship?... (read in full...)
I really want our kids to have my last name!
Q. I imagine this question is going to spark a lot of controversy.Me and my fiance have been talking about kids lately. Why I have no idea. But she keeps saying about the kids have her last name. but she has already said that when we get married she is ...
A. 17 May 2012: I would really like to start by saying that this is very much a problem of a society where children are supposed to have one last name only. This discussion would not make sense in Spanish or Portuguese speaking countries, because the children ... (read in full...)
What is the average age when a man feels ready to settle down?
Q. Hi this is just a quick question. I was talking to a male friend recently and he mentioned an average age that men feel ready to settle down. I was just wondering what is a mans average age to settle down thanks ...
A. 17 May 2012: No average.... (read in full...)
I get excited by dumping women and crushing them emotionally... what can I do to fix it?
Q. I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've gone to prostitutes for a few years now, but only to get a physical release to substitute porn. Though, in recent years I've for some ...
A. 15 May 2012: Is this a real post?... (read in full...)
Can a man become friends with a woman while already being in a relationship?
Q. This is probably a very common question but i'd like to get some answers from both girls and guys perspective. I've been with my bf for 8 months. He's very outgoing, chatty and charming and he loves to meet new people. He happens to be attractive as ...
A. 15 May 2012: I believe that men and women can be friends with no expectation of sex. People can be interesting friends even if you're with someone else.
That said, maybe the women don't see him as "friend" only. Do you think he would act if a woman showed h... (read in full...)
Is it worth commiting for a visa?
Q. I have recently traveled to a European country to be with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is both a US citizen as well as a citizen here. He was able to get a research position that will take another 3 or 4 years to finish and asked me to join ...
A. 15 May 2012: Would you marry him even if that were not necessary for the visa?
If yes, then marrying him and staying with him is the right choice in terms of love (I can't know if it's convenient for you or your career).
If no, then you're better off leavi... (read in full...)
I haven't asked out a girl in 2 years for fear of being rejected
Q. For the past two years I have failed to ask a single girl out and need to know how to overcome my fear. I really want to be able to approach attractive women that I don't know, but I feel terrified and worried about what to say. I'm afraid tha...
A. 9 May 2012: If you were a salesman, you would get rejected nine times out of every ten. And the one person who would give you the time of day wouldn't necessarily buy. Such is life.
If you don't keep trying, then you will never have anyone.
See it as a m... (read in full...)
I really want her to be my girlfriend but every time I ask she says no! How do I get her to go out with me?
Q. hello everyone! I am 13 years old and in year 8. there's this really cute girl at my high school in my class and i really have very strong fellings (and thoughts) about her i even think about her when i masturbate. 5-8 times a week by the way....
A. 6 May 2012: You can't. Don't waste any more time.... (read in full...)
She broke up with me so why does she want to be friends now?
Q. Im having trouble understanding whats happened in the past four days. My girlfriend, well ex now, has decided to leave me for someone else.. someone she met the day before she told me it was over. For the last two weeks we had been arguing because ...
A. 6 May 2012: Nobody falls out of love in a second. Your ex hasn't been in love with you for a long time. Now that she found someone who caught her eye, she decided to dump you. Up to this point, one could say she hurt you by leaving but actually she hasn't ... (read in full...)
Do you think that you can fall in love with someone after just spending half a day with them?
Q. quick question here, do you think that you can fall in love with someone after just spending half a day with them? because i've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months now and we met at college, had coffee, talked for hours on end until we had...
A. 6 May 2012: But you can really, really, really like the person.... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 5 May 2012: Seeing this from the perspective of the guy, and in the world as it is, the 19 year old will be happy to have slept with the 42 year old. He will realize he was being used only years later, and then he will feel that, after all, he had his fun, ... (read in full...)
How do people cope with the knowledge that their spouse probably had better sex with at least one of their exes?
Q. I realize people are tired of the never-ending retroactive jealousy questions, but please try to bear with me. Believe me, if it were possible to solve this by simply telling myself it's irrational, dumb, pointless, a double standard, the past ...
A. 4 May 2012: This is not retroactive jealousy because you're not worried about some guy your wife slept with, but, instead, you're worried about not being the best for her in sexual terms.
Feeling that your wife would rather be with someone else if the deci... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 4 May 2012: Your call.... (read in full...)
Found out g/f sleeps with men to support herself. She says she'll stop if I can support her. I can't. What to do???
Q. OK folks, I have a real dilemma. I am hoping you can help. There is this girl I know who is from a middle eastern country. She is here on a visa. Very pretty, sweet. We started seeing each other, and then got involved. I thought things were perf...
A. 4 May 2012: One never fully knows a person's circumstances, so we can't be 100% sure of what we say. But I have the feeling that this is blackmail.
First, the situation is this: Support me (and my family back home) or I will sleep with other men.
Second,... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only lasts 5 minutes!
Q. My bf is 14yrs older. I notice now that I dont get more thsn 5 mins of sex with him. He lasted longer before. I dont know why. I just want an orgasm too. But I never get it....
A. 20 April 2012: I would say that the thrill of being with a 22 year old is taking its toll. Anyways, you have to tell him that this is not what you like.... (read in full...)
Can we really live happily ever after when we are so different?
Q. I am wondering can two people who are so different stay together and get things working? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years. We are from different upbringing (his parents happily married for 30 years, mine fought for 20 years an...
A. 20 April 2012: It seems to me that you would live in the countryside if you could. Can he be solely responsible for the renovation?
Sometimes you just don't get along with someone, but it seems that is not your case. If someone asked me what chances I gave for... (read in full...)
Worried that a future partner won't be as financially stable as my ex
Q. Hi All. Okay me and my long distant boyfriend of 9 months have just recently split up. The relationship was like a rollercoaster from day one, he would ignore me for days, accuse me of being with other people, act secretive i.e his phone, we split ...
A. 19 April 2012: Exactly :-). That keeps the bad ones away.... (read in full...)
How can I convince her she misunderstood me?
Q. I was talking to a girl I like online (we have been talking for about a week) and she asked me that if she was there would she be a girl I sleep with. I replied with this exact line: "no way you would not be" (notice the lack of comma, it is a ...
A. 19 April 2012: Oh, those punctuation marks! Does anyone even learn how to use them these days?
It's not your fault if she misread what you typed. It is unfair that you have to pay for it.
You can't double check everything you type just in case someone mis... (read in full...)
I really hate being the first born!
Q. I've always hated my birth order. As the first born your parents always rule you with an iron fist. But with the younger siblings they ALWAYS treat them differently no matter what. As the first you always have to be responsible and cautious. Yet ...
A. 19 April 2012: I wonder if the question is even real. "What should I do about being the firstborn?" What can anyone do?... (read in full...)
Cant perform during sex because I have been so used to masturbating for 20 years!
Q. Hi this is more of a sex question but Im hoping someone can help. I have been single for many years, and my only sexual outlet has been through masturbation. I have of course become quite used to getting myself off and can get hard quite quick...
A. 19 April 2012: Masturbation has the same effect on some young studs. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: Maybe she is not fooling around, but that doesn't matter. This won't end well.
She will never leave her husband.
If you stay in the relationship, it will mean that you accept the situation as it is. Or, if you stay in it in the hope she wil... (read in full...)
Worried that a future partner won't be as financially stable as my ex
Q. Hi All. Okay me and my long distant boyfriend of 9 months have just recently split up. The relationship was like a rollercoaster from day one, he would ignore me for days, accuse me of being with other people, act secretive i.e his phone, we split ...
A. 19 April 2012: It is always reassuring to think that, because I don't have money, no woman will ever have this kind of concerns in my regard. She will love my warts, and I will know that is why she is with me.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like my breasts and prefers smaller ones!
Q. My husband does not like my breasts. Whilst I am a dd cup he prefers smaller breasts. I am not prepared to undergo surgery however this is really undermining my self confidence with him as I feel self conscious. Knowing that he loves me and marr...
A. 19 April 2012: The usual complaint is that breasts are small. I agree with Tisha: Did he say he doesn't like them?... (read in full...)
I think my wife is getting too friendly with her college friend. Am I over reacting?
Q. I don't consider it cheating, but I certainly think it's inappropriate behavior and my wife thinks otherwise. My wife and I are married for quite a few years. I (we) paid for her to go to college and when our kids started being in school all day s...
A. 18 April 2012: Question. How often do people usually hug each other in the United States? Is a hug a usual way to greet people? Is a kiss on the lips the usual way to greet a friend of the opposite sex?
I say this because I'm a Latin Ameriocan and we are well... (read in full...)
4 women that want me, but if I'm honest I only want my ex! What should I do?
Q. A few months ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We talked about it and she told me that we had grown apart. She said that there is no chance of us getting back together. It sucks, but I've come to except it and I've put it in my mind that I've ...
A. 17 April 2012: Say that you don't want to hur them by making them a rebound relationship.... (read in full...)
Guys, you know porn is fake, right?
Q. Okay, so this is another porn question. I know I know, this seems to be a rather popular topic But I am straight up just curious. Obviously a lot of men like porn and a lot of women as well. This is a question for men, both single and in a ...
A. 17 April 2012: Ted Bundy was putting the blame where it did not belong. "Porn made me do it". He never said "Someone made me watch porn", because no one did. He was a sick person.... (read in full...)
Condom question, is this normal?
Q. I have a condom question.... I was having sex with my boyfriend, and I noticed that when he had pulled out, there was semen both in the end of the condom, but also some had appear to move down the shaft towards the base of the condom. None ...
A. 17 April 2012: I figured the law of gravity would do what it does.... (read in full...)
Condom question, is this normal?
Q. I have a condom question.... I was having sex with my boyfriend, and I noticed that when he had pulled out, there was semen both in the end of the condom, but also some had appear to move down the shaft towards the base of the condom. None ...
A. 17 April 2012: I assume you were on top :-).... (read in full...)
Condom question, is this normal?
Q. I have a condom question.... I was having sex with my boyfriend, and I noticed that when he had pulled out, there was semen both in the end of the condom, but also some had appear to move down the shaft towards the base of the condom. None ...
A. 17 April 2012: In simple terms:
The semen moving is normal.
If semen gets into your body, then you might get pregnant. If it didn't, then you won't.... (read in full...)
25 year old friend of mine having sex with a 16 year old, is this wrong?
Q. Short question for you all. A male friend of mine is 25.He is dating a 16-year old girl,and they are having sex. I can't help but think it's wrong.Am I totally out of line??...
A. 16 April 2012: If it is legal in the United Kingdom, then, whatever we say about it, there is nothing the poster can do.... (read in full...)
Guys, you know porn is fake, right?
Q. Okay, so this is another porn question. I know I know, this seems to be a rather popular topic But I am straight up just curious. Obviously a lot of men like porn and a lot of women as well. This is a question for men, both single and in a ...
A. 16 April 2012: I think the best way to answer your question is to ask you a question as well:
When you watch a movie, do you know it's fake?... (read in full...)
I usually have high standards, so why am I into this average looking girl?
Q. Usually I have very high standards (it takes a fair amount of beauty to get a 8-10 mental rating from me), but I have recently met this girl who I would have never looked twice at in the street and I don't know why I am so taken with her...?...
A. 16 April 2012: I'm under the impression that you feel you've lowered your standards. Poor girl.... (read in full...)
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