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writes:Hi agony aunts. I was seeing a guy for about 2 months. It started out with us hanging out casually and then one night out of the blue he we made out no sex. (worst kisser i have ever had). After that the friendship bit got hazy, i tried to ask him about it once but he said he was busy at that time and didnt really want to talk about it. Although he never spoke about our pasts, just about the present and the future. Not wanting to come across as needy or pushy i decided to back off and see how he would react. He totally became nonchalant and distant. Although he has a pretty busy work schedule he stopped calling and texting all together. Only communicating through FB. Now last week i saw him online on skype and tried to strike up a chat but he was just so preoccupied with work, then he sent me a message on facebook saying i was a show off because i never make time for him which is untrue because everytime i tried to call or sms him he was always busy. But later on he said he was hopeful we can always be good friends and i can get in touch with him anytime. It stung like crazy because i was hopeful i could be his girlfriend but i played it cool and just pretended to be content about being his friend again. A few days later he posted on his wall he kinda hinted that there is a new girl in his life. I felt like shit and just blocked him on FB. Now i can understand that he wasnt into me, but i really dont want to burn bridges because he is quite influential in our business circles and i might need his assistance with some of my projects. Do i explain my actions why i deleted him on fb or do i just forget about it. Somehow the whole experience has left me feeling stupid and am now trying to act like i am not hurt but rejection from this guy has left me doubting myself. As i write this i have 3 guys asking me out but they are boring and uninspiring the same way this guy whom i liked probarbly feels about me. So again do i apologise or should i lick my wounds in private.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 March 2012):
 Same thing applies. Follow Ciar's advice.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (23 March 2012):
 Don't announce that you've deleted/blocked him on Facebook, so no apology either.
Continue to be friendly, but formal. Keep a polite distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe dont work together, we are just in the same industry.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (23 March 2012):
Don't get involved with people you work with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Sounds like the chemistry wasn't there for him and the 'making out' confirmed it.
Don't see why you should apologise, just leave it now. Sounds like he has moved on.He also sounds a bit of a jerk from what you've said.
If you go quietly then he will be more likely to use his professional influence should you need it.You may as well use him if required, then at least you get something out of it all
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