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writes: My story is this:I am currently divorced from my second marriage. My first marriage was over in 2003. And I had a son and daughter and my husband had a son and daughter. So basically I had a step son and step daughter for a little ovr 6 years. It was his second marriage.Now my former step son I was never really that close to because they still lived with their mom and was only around us occassionally. Now he is 23 and he has found me on facebook and we have been writing back and forth checking up on each other. Well this past weekend he asked me if I would be up for hanging out sometime. I found it a lil awkward but I know its weird but I actually got a little excited of the taboo I guess? He has an apartment with a roomate but I ended up agreeing and we met out for a dinner and we had a good time. He def has grown up! Well I ended up following him to his apartment. His roomate was not there. Well we ended up having sex. I can say I was up for being with him. Definitely a good looking young man. Should I continue. It was fun. I had a great time but as far as dating or continuing in a sexual relationship I'm not sure what to do. Any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): I was looking for an appropriate word and Danielpew you hit it on the head:" delayed incest".
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 In case you didn't notice, the young man just slept with his father's woman, and you helped.
I have the feeling you two had this sort of attraction when you were still married to his father. So this is some sort of follow-up, pending business. "Delayed incest", I would call it.
Like others said, this is just wrong, and you have always known it. And then you just have to tell the world about it. I suppose you and your first husband did not end it politely, but this really is backstabbing.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 I suppose it would be acceptable if real life was an extract from a 90's soap opera.
It's not. You're an adult woman entitled to make your own decisions, but I'd suggest you think a long, long time before thinking about venturing into this relationship. Taboo sex is only fun until people find out.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I don't think there is anything wrong with being with him given the fact that you weren't really a mother to him, it was only a matter of circumstances. The biggest deciding factor in whether or not you continue being with him are the possible consequences as The Realist mentioned. Do you have any kind of relationship with his father still? Will that ruin it? Could it jeopardize his relationship with his father if he found it?
Just use common sense when proceeding, that's all.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 OMG.! If your ex husband was sleeping with your daughter, were you gonna like it?calling it 'sex with an Older guy but not just an older guy'...? I find this kind of an insult and self degrading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): You never learn do you?
Two failed marriages and now you mess things even further by having sex with your husbands son, your step son! For goodness sake I am all for liberated females but sleeping with your ex's son is pushing boundaries too far.
Are u not concerned about the consequences yes he may be excited banging his ex step Mum but for goodness sake where is your morals?
There should be many single available men for you to drown your sorrows after the second divorce but hand picking your step son is way off limits.
If u were a man and if u slept with your step daughter can u imagine the outcry?
What will your ex husband have to say about this?
Oh I am sure you are comparing father and son (plse don't be a hypocrite and deny it) but can u not see what a division u will be causing bet this father and son? What will u do when father and son start comparing you in the sack?
The aftermath of your sexual indiscretion is going to affect many many lives. Right now all you can think about is getting your itch scratched but when sanity returns how do u deal with this problem?
Its very exciting for an older woman to feel sexually emancipated by a younger man but when it is your step son it just makes the affair even more sordid.
Time for sanity to return, step mom!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I think this is one of those things that is better kept as secret fun because your kids may not react well to this. It is probably just the excitement of the situation but I don't really think that you could see having an actual relationship with the guy.
As for continuing that really depends on how you weigh the fun against the possible consequences. If I was in your position I would probably go on with it till I got bored or someone found out but that isn't the best choice.
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