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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I want sex all the time. Am I an addict?
Q. I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it all the time. My wife had sex with me last night (I admit it had been a long while) and then we cuddled and she fell asleep. I woke her up in a couple of hour because I wanted to have sex again. ...
A. 3 June 2011: This is great news! "The Machinery" still works.
I think you're just enthusiastic because of some reason; maybe the fact that "it had been a long time since".... (read in full...)
Should I let him go because I might not be able to have children....even though I still love him?
Q. Hi everyone, my situation is this, I have been with my bf for a long time since I was 18 and I am currently 26. We are going on 8 years together and I love him dearly. When we began to have sex, I did not use any type of protection basically because ...
A. 3 June 2011: He has already said he doesn't want to leave you, children or not. Believe him.
If it ain't broken, don't fix it, OK?... (read in full...)
Pros and cons of being friends with an ex?
Q. What are the pros and cons of being friends with an ex? Im trying to decide what i should do with my first love now that she is my ex. It is hard to decide because the reason we broke up is because she started liking someone else and decided to date ...
A. 2 June 2011: This ex is a former girlfriend, not a former wife. When the ex is a wife, and there are children, then you can't choose, for better or worse: you have to stay in touch.
In this case, while I think it's good if you can put grievances in the past... (read in full...)
Is this "If I ignore him he'll go away"?
Q. I have been friends with a lady work colleague for a few months and we got on very well, however we have now moved apart and now work on opposite sides of town. She went on holiday and I sent 1 message to her on Facebook, a month ago, to which th...
A. 26 May 2011: Most probably she won't say what the matter is. I would just avoid her.... (read in full...)
Oral sex with a canker sore?
Q. so i perform oral sex on my gf and i had a canker sore... im super scared and so is she...can she catch somthing from it??? and if so what?? ...
A. 26 May 2011: If it truly was a canker sore, nothing will happen, although perhaps you shouldn't have performed oral sex on her.
If it is a herpes sore, then you may have given it to her by now.
I think you should see a doctor and make sure it's just a cank... (read in full...)
Is this "If I ignore him he'll go away"?
Q. I have been friends with a lady work colleague for a few months and we got on very well, however we have now moved apart and now work on opposite sides of town. She went on holiday and I sent 1 message to her on Facebook, a month ago, to which th...
A. 25 May 2011: I say, let go of her. The silent treatment may be that she's busy, or whatever, but I believe that women who are interested in you do send you messages and do find a way to keep in touch.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to reject someone nicely?
Q. Hi, This is just a short question but is there any way to reject a guy nicely? this guy keeps asking me out and I haven't ever given him a straight answer because I just dont want to offend him, any ideas? We are quite good friends, but he is ...
A. 25 May 2011: I agree that there is not a nice way to tell someone you're not interested in a relationship. It will always hurt, no matter what you do. But you may do it respectfully.
It seems you have already told this guy that the relationship just can't ha... (read in full...)
Is anyone else annoyed at Facebook?
Q. I hate Facebook. There, I said it. I hate the way most people use text messaging, too. I do not participate on Facebook, but most of my friends and family do. That's fine. It's a nice way to connect with a lot of people at once and share thos...
A. 13 May 2011: If you don't like Facebook, you don't like Facebook and that's OK.... (read in full...)
How do I stop imagining how my wife cheated with this older man?
Q. Please help! I am still coming to terms with my wife having a full-blown emotional and physical affair with an older man. What I absolutely cannot get out of my head are the thoughts and images of these two people going at it - this man doing t...
A. 13 May 2011: I don't agree with Eddie on this:
"that somehow her betrayal is your fault -- or that you were lacking in someway in the bedroom."
If I understand correctly, this is not what the therapist said. She wants you to think of the man as a metapho... (read in full...)
He wants a baby - is it a good idea?
Q. I am a single mom of 2 boys ages 16 and 10..I'm 36yrs old and have been dating a man for 6yrs who has a daughter who basically he see's every other weekend!!He's been asking me to have a baby so that we can be a family cuz he feels that he has ...
A. 13 May 2011: I agree with Eddie85.... (read in full...)
My crush has a BF but she wants to sleep with me. Should I do it?
Q. So here's the deal : I have known this girl for a long time and we are best friends. I fell in love with her like a year ago. She has a boyfriend for like 3 year now and I quess they seem happy together. I expresed my feeling toward her like ...
A. 13 May 2011: You don't seem like a guy who just wants to get laid, but you would do very wrong to sleep with her.
It should be enough to say that the girl is taken. But I know that love dies hard, and one's judgment is clouded when one is in love and young li... (read in full...)
What did I mean to her?
Q. Sorry for my grammar. I met a girl recently online and for a few weeks we literally spent half the day talking to each other and watching movies etc. We got close very fast and I got strong feelings for her very fast. She returned them and ev...
A. 12 May 2011: I would combine the posts by Cupidus and Hannah76. You're young and she's female, and that's why it happened, but you let her be in control. Now she's gone. I'm sorry to say this, but very likely you never meant anything to her. My opinion is ... (read in full...)
How do I make her realize that I love her beyond our religious differences?
Q. Hello. Since 7 months I've known a girl who was just a friend in the beginning but as I got to know her more and more I was deeply, very deeply attracted to her. It's just that only I see her that way and since she doesn't want to get into ...
A. 11 May 2011: It seems to me that you haven't told her anything about your love just yet. I think that's the best you can do.
I'm pretty sure she realizes you're a good guy. I'm not sure whether she loves you, however. So you shouldn't even try approach... (read in full...)
Husband left me for another woman even though he knows shes no good!
Q. This is an SOS call, I feel like my heart has been smashed into a thousand pieces. My husband has left me and now I feel I have lost my best friend, my sole mate and my lover :o( We've been together 6 years and married 2 years on 3rd May! Sum...
A. 24 April 2011: I think you start with wrong assumptions: If your husband complains about your behavior, and you recognize he is right, then the relationship was not fantastic. At least, not for him. And he was cheating on you. In my opinion, an unhappy husband ... (read in full...)
Men: What were the first signs that you were losing interest in a woman?
Q. To Men Only: If you have ever been with a woman you loved, lost interest in her what were the first signs of your disinterest?.,,,Thank you....
A. 24 April 2011: People do give out signs of having lost interest, but I don't think it's right to think that a particular action or omission is a clear sign of anything. Except, perhaps, in extreme cases.
People who are truly interested do not lose interest... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have a threesome with another guy!
Q. Well I have a question: My boyfriend has asked me if I would like to have a threesome... with another guy. I really dont know how to react to that, what should I do? Does that mean he is bi-curious or what? Please help me....
A. 23 April 2011: I know that many people will disagree and will probably call me names, but, in my humble opinion, the idea of being naked with another man in a sexual activity hides some homosexual inclinations. Which are none of my business, as I will be happy to ... (read in full...)
I want sex, but my boyfriend doesn't
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a while, and he's told me that he has really bad sexual temptations; which is why i don't understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me. I'm not a virgin, so i can see why he wouldn't like that. But i alwa...
A. 23 April 2011: Ask again, Dinosaurexx. And if he avoids the subject again, say that to his face. He needs to give an answer. If not for this particular issue, because you can't let him get away with not giving answers if he doesn't want to.... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy only wants sex or does he really care about you?
Q. Hi guys. Can you tell me how you know a guy only wants to sleep with you? Are there signs, things he does, says, etc. that shows you he only wants sex with you? And if he really cares about you as a person and has feelings for you besides the...
A. 22 April 2011: I am convinced that women see through men and are capable of detecting this kind of things even when a man thinks he's hiding his true feelings, but I see there's always an exception or two.
Definitely, a man who truly loves you will act differen... (read in full...)
I want sex, but my boyfriend doesn't
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a while, and he's told me that he has really bad sexual temptations; which is why i don't understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me. I'm not a virgin, so i can see why he wouldn't like that. But i alwa...
A. 22 April 2011: Dinosaurexx, just ask your man why he does that, will you?... (read in full...)
Confused about threesome.
Q. Hello. I never asked anything about that before, so it's kinda weird to me right now, but i really need some advice. Here's is what is going on. A few months later i had a threesome with my girlfriend and a female friend of ours and it was very ...
A. 22 April 2011: You want to sleep with the other girl, but know that it wouldn't be right. So, either you don't do it, or you do. And the two females have to know.... (read in full...)
I want sex, but my boyfriend doesn't
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a while, and he's told me that he has really bad sexual temptations; which is why i don't understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me. I'm not a virgin, so i can see why he wouldn't like that. But i alwa...
A. 22 April 2011: Obviously not. Something else is at play here. Maybe religion, because that's the only reason why I would expect someone to say "bad sexual temptations". I think you should tell him that you're not getting what you want, and you should also have... (read in full...)
How close can a guy be with a female friend, when in a committed relationship with another girl?
Q. How close can a guy be to him female friends when in a committed relationship with a girl? What are the things that a boyfriend can and cannot do with female friends when he is committed to someone?...
A. 22 April 2011: My impression is that you'd know all this, without asking, if you weren't already trying to overstep.... (read in full...)
Can dating a woman who is separated be legitimate if her husband doesn't know about it?
Q. Hi, Thanks for any help on this. I have recently become involved with someone who works close to me. It started out simply as emails which graduated to a certain intimate aspect. We have since become physically involved. She is currently sep...
A. 22 April 2011: "Smells shady to me" plus "do you want to be part of it? - how long do you put your life on hold". Things did not just got to the point they are now. It's not that one thing lead to the other. She wanted it to happen. You are where she wants ... (read in full...)
G/f gives me bj's just to make me happy
Q. Hello, i have half a problem. Basically my girlfriend didn't give bj's much because she didnt like them. I wanted to boost this number so i read tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good about giving bj's, and not pressuring her and stuff. ...
A. 21 April 2011: I think the problem began when you read those "tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good" about giving you oral sex. In my books, that is called manipulation. You sort of made her give you more oral sex, and she gave in but still doesn't ... (read in full...)
Wife is away, does husband want to play?
Q. Can anyone please tell me why a married man has made it a point to tell me that his wife is out of town on business for a few days? Is this an innocent statement or is there a reason he is saying this to me?...
A. 19 April 2011: Wife's away and Cat wants to play. But, as Eyes said, the real heart of the matter is why this is important to you.... (read in full...)
Would you date an escort?
Q. Would you date a girl who was or is an escort? but she is really loving, smart, honest and does everything for you. It's just her job and she's only doing it a few years to save up some money and invest in something good. (house, car etc) ...
A. 19 April 2011: It's interesting that the poster is a female. This post could be about lesbian love, but I have the feeling that the girl who works as an escort is asking the question.
Which is not my business, and is not a reason for me to think any less of ... (read in full...)
She told me God was telling her things wouldn't work out!!!
Q. My girlfriend n I have been going out for about 4 months now. Everything was going great, we both were happy n life couldn’t have been much better. About 2 weeks ago she told me "she thinks she loves me" n that "I am perfect for her." She was crazy ...
A. 17 April 2011: I agree with Caring.... (read in full...)
Views on kids before marriage?
Q. Hey Agony's :) I just wanted to get the older and younger generations views on premarital children. I see that a lot of people nowadays are having children before even thinking of marriage. I was just curious as to what all of your opinions wer...
A. 17 April 2011: Dearest Birdy, I think you are right about why people don't give that much importance to having both parents at home. I never had both, so I cannot possibly know what it is like. All I can say is, I lived my life, the only way I could.... (read in full...)
Views on kids before marriage?
Q. Hey Agony's :) I just wanted to get the older and younger generations views on premarital children. I see that a lot of people nowadays are having children before even thinking of marriage. I was just curious as to what all of your opinions wer...
A. 16 April 2011: May I only add that, in my opinion, a stable family is a great thing, but, in my humble opinion, this shouldn't happen because tough laws demand it so. Or because public opinion would be against you.
I wonder if I will not make myself misunder... (read in full...)
Views on kids before marriage?
Q. Hey Agony's :) I just wanted to get the older and younger generations views on premarital children. I see that a lot of people nowadays are having children before even thinking of marriage. I was just curious as to what all of your opinions wer...
A. 15 April 2011: Where I live, many people had and still have children before they marry, if they marry, that is. Society used to frown on this, only not too much and not for too long because most people did it anyways. My view on this, then, is that it should be ... (read in full...)
I'm Chinese and her mom hates Chinese people!
Q. I have a little problem. I have met my current girlfriend online and have known her for over two years now. We recently began seeing each other but she hasn't told her mom about me yet. The problem is that her mom hates chinese and I am chinese. She ...
A. 15 April 2011: You can't get around the fact that you're Chinese. If you and your girl are old enough, however, there is nothing the mother can do. That is the way to go, in my humble opinion.
She has a problem with Chinese. Let her be. Just don't let that... (read in full...)
Do I confront him to what my psychic said or do I keep quiet and say nothing?
Q. i am at my wits end. I just dont know how to go about this situation, i am hoping i get some advice on what to do here i go .. I saw a pyschic the other day, and he was spot on about a lot of things that he could not possibly know of. but the one ...
A. 15 April 2011: I can shoot your psychic if you want me to. Her lies are complicating your love life. That is bad.
Don't tell your boyfriend anything about this. He is probably seeing his mum (granted, that is a woman). You don't know if the crystal ball was... (read in full...)
Does anyone think online dating can work?
Q. I joined an internet dating site. Some people said it’s worth a go, a lot of people warned me off, and told me there are a lot of users and losers out there. I met a guy, he was nice (although he seemed to have dated a lot of women via internet...
A. 14 April 2011: I haven't had any personal experiences with this, but a cousin of mine got married to a girl he met on the internet. They divorced, but only after several years of marriage, so I think the internet is not to blame for that.... (read in full...)
At what age is a woman no longer attractive?
Q. When does a woman lose her "hotness"? What age is considered no longer attractive? I would love to hear all opinions from women, men, all ages. Thanks!...
A. 13 April 2011: Eyes, you will always be lava hot, whatever your age.... (read in full...)
A bj with a hooker while on a break and dirty talk with a girl while we were broken up. Why is she mad at me when we weren't even together when this was happening??
Q. hey all. Im in a LDr relationship with my gf. and we both love each other. theres no doubt about that. weve been going for a year and a bit, and weve had a couple of rocky patches. lately ive been thinking about these rocky patches and I wonder if ...
A. 13 April 2011: I think you two should just break up. I am afraid that eventually you will. The long distance relationship isn't working.... (read in full...)
Why do guys get clingy after sex?? I just want to have fun and not be tied down.
Q. Hey. I need some advice. I am 18 and nearing the end of my first year of college. I am very independent and am not looking for a relationship. I just want to have fun and not be tied down. I figure now is the time to get the party girl out of my ...
A. 13 April 2011: In my opinion, dropping hints is always a bad idea. Speaking your mind is the right thing to do. Hints are based based on the assumption that you won't have to say things upfront for people to "get it". That is just not so. I'm afraid that hints ... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair, no protection and now I won't touch her
Q. Wife having an affair This went on for a year and i didnt know. she said no condoms were used. That was it , I left. I got tested and no std's. she wants me back but all that goes through my mind was his fluids. I know after sex they leak out of h...
A. 13 April 2011: I don't think any part of him is still with her.
I understand you left her already. Like others said, it seems you haven't forgiven this. If that is the case indeed, I think you shouldn't go back to her.... (read in full...)
What do the men look for in a woman? Do they only want sex?
Q. Question for guys Its a pretty simple one but you see i am finding it hard to find a guy who wants me for me . Only want me for sex really im not nasty at all or ugly... Broad question for you all What do guys look for in a woman ?...
A. 13 April 2011: It is impossible to give you an answer about all guys. I could only speak for myself.
It is possible that a man wants a specific woman for sex only, but I don't think many men will marry or have a permanent relationship with someone on that bas... (read in full...)
Do men's sex drives decrease after 40?
Q. Do men's sex drives decrease after 40?...
A. 13 April 2011: The answer is no.... (read in full...)
At what age is a woman no longer attractive?
Q. When does a woman lose her "hotness"? What age is considered no longer attractive? I would love to hear all opinions from women, men, all ages. Thanks!...
A. 13 April 2011: I am in full agreement with Mr. Grant.... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I take due note of Moon River's comment and, for the record, I can but agree that oppression of women does exist, and that, while much has been gained, much remains to change.
I also want to say that I live in Latin America, macho country,... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I don't know for sure, but I think it is already possible to buy "porn for females". I'm sure you can find it in the internet.
I understand Brad Pitt appeared in "Troy" in a way that aroused more than one woman. Yet it's true, there are not so m... (read in full...)
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