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*osdog101
writes:If you have been a bad boyfriend but you know she still loves you and misses you do you give her space when you break up with her and realize you messed up? I went to counseling and all kinds of other stuff to change into a better person. I broke up with her like a retard and she was the best thing I ever had. Now I tried to get back with her and she says she needs space to find herself. She basically meant hanging out with her friends. She's someone I can't live without honestly. I'm afraid giving her "her space" is just gonna hurt me because she's either gonna find someone else or forget about me. Any advice?
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reader, livelaughlove23 +, writes (14 December 2010):
She probably really does love you, but when a female says they need space, they really need space! Don't take it personal. If she wants to be with you she will be back and she will be a much better person after the break and this will make you love her even more! imagine that! Give her what she asks for, and once she sees you're okay with that...she'll be back. Make some space for yourself and see if you don't feel like a better person all together! You can't just forget about someone that easily. It is impossible to just forget. good luck hun
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 When a girl asks for "space", she means she doesn't want you around. Sorry. If I were you, I would pack my bags and leave.
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reader, daydreamer247 +, writes (13 December 2010):
Maybe she honestly needs her space, in that case you should respect her request. If you have been a bad boyfriend like you said, she probably needs time to think. You know, weigh out the pro's and con's. Just because she is hanging out with her friends doesn't mean she is trying to hit on other guys. She needs to be comforted by people who care about her and having a good time is not a crime. Give her time to make up her mind, while checking in with her to see how she's doing and if you still have a chance.
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reader, Sensativeguy010 +, writes (13 December 2010):
if she wants space, then give her space. She's either gonna miss you alot or move on. id give her 2 weeks to a month at most. if by then she still doesnt know then move one dude, you CAN live without her. Everyone moves on, ive done it three times this year.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Well, we don't know in what sense you were a bad boyfriend, but she apparently still has feelings for you, while requesting time to herself - i.e., "space."
I expect she means she needs time to sort out her feelings and to evaluate the relationship, in addition to looking at what is important to her (i.e., "finding herself") as well as what she wants in her life, and/or in any relationship, and equallly important, what she does not want.
I suppose you did let her know you went to counseling to sort yourself out, and that you realize breaking up was a mistake?
If so, and she heard you, but still wants time on her own, then you really have no choice but to accede to her request and see what happens over the course of the next few weeks or months.....you say she might forget you, or find some other man. It is also possible that neither of those things you fear will happen. She MIGHT eventually meet someone else, but probably not any time soon.
She also MAY decide she still loves you and sees you are now a "reformed character" and decide to continue with you after a period of absence.
I'm afraid you're just going to have to face up to these possibilties and take your chances for the time being, at least......
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