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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I love her but she has a boyfriend, what do I do?
Q. VERY strange situation, I have asked numerous people for advice and they are all just as baffled as I am. So at my job, there is a girl who has been coming in for about 2 years now. We began talking a little over a year ago, exchanged numbers and ...
A. 3 July 2011: You're in the "friends" zone. You can choose to be her friend, but get a grip of yourself and don't continue to develop feelings for her. This will be difficult because you enjoy her presence, she's cool and she's good looking. But I am afraid ... (read in full...)
Feeling withdrawn, depressed and fearful after a break-up. Is this normal?
Q. After breaking up for good with a girl I have been seeing and communicatin constantly with for the last 2 years or so I don't want to do anything but sleep or stay at home. i am ignorin calls from friends and really dont want to do anything at all. ...
A. 3 July 2011: Oh, it's normal. Just make the conscious decision not to feel miserable. Go out, have fun, pamper yourself, and, above all, get your work done, and well done.
If you broke up, it would not make any sense for you to feel this way even if she were... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls, such as myself, go for complete JERKS?
Q. A general question, for everyone out there. Why do so many girls, such as myself, go for complete JERKS? I'm meet these lovely, kind, hard-working and attractive men, who have similar interests as me and whom I can really talk to, but I'm just...
A. 30 June 2011: Interesting. I see ChiGirl's point and I fully agree with her. Being "nice" is not the same as being "a wuss".
On the other hand, I wonder if you girls have heard the Spanish expression "Amor serrano", "the love of the mountain man". The expr... (read in full...)
Does anyone else sneeze when they get horny?
Q. Does anyone else sneeze when they get horny? I have had this happen to me for many years. Whenever I get really horny, or think of something very erotic, I often start a sneezing fit. It's like the blood or adrenaline rushes to my head and ...
A. 30 June 2011: No. I get horny when I get horny.... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls, such as myself, go for complete JERKS?
Q. A general question, for everyone out there. Why do so many girls, such as myself, go for complete JERKS? I'm meet these lovely, kind, hard-working and attractive men, who have similar interests as me and whom I can really talk to, but I'm just...
A. 30 June 2011: Good question. Women should answer that. It's well-established fact that "nice guys" just don't get girls.... (read in full...)
Why do more white women than white men date outside of their race?
Q. This is just a simple question, not one with a lot details or anything. I was just wondering what people thought...um...why is it that there are more white women to date outside their race, then there are white men? I know this can be a ...
A. 30 June 2011: ChiGirl: many men want the white woman, and this is true around the world. The reasons vary. I won't say that white women are invariably more beautiful because that is just not true. But, for many non-whites, being accepted as an equal partner ... (read in full...)
My son is taking after his aggressive father. What should I do?
Q. I have a son who will be turning 4 at the beginning of September. He is a sweet little boy and loves giving hugs and being silly; however he is very agressive the past few months. He primarily likes playing alone, occassionally he enjoys playing ...
A. 30 June 2011: It seems that something is the matter, but certainly it's not his biological father's example that he is following. Look elsewhere. He seems to be a nice little boy, so his anger must be due to something.... (read in full...)
How can I drop hints to let her know that I like her and how can I prepare for possibly asking her out in September?
Q. Alright so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year. So here is my problem, for most of the school year she...
A. 30 June 2011: By the way: NEVER DROP HINTS. Always speak your mind, shoot straight, say what you mean and do what you say you'll do.... (read in full...)
How can I drop hints to let her know that I like her and how can I prepare for possibly asking her out in September?
Q. Alright so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year. So here is my problem, for most of the school year she...
A. 30 June 2011: You don't know how she sees you. Try to become a closer friend first, get to know her, bla bla bla, and then you'll know whether you should make a move.
Her going away could be a good thing. Try to stay in touch with her while she's home. I... (read in full...)
Why do more white women than white men date outside of their race?
Q. This is just a simple question, not one with a lot details or anything. I was just wondering what people thought...um...why is it that there are more white women to date outside their race, then there are white men? I know this can be a ...
A. 29 June 2011: I don't have the cold and hard facts on this, but I think the poster is somewhat correct in his appreciation. I have seen many more mixed marriages where the woman is white than those where the man is white. And this is particularly true of black ... (read in full...)
Empty nester thought she found the one.
Q. I met a nice guy almost 2 1/2 years ago. We are both 46. I have been divorced about 16 years. He was just getting a divorce when I met him on yahoo personals. This was his second divorce. I asked him at the time if he needed time to sew his wild ...
A. 29 June 2011: I think we need some more information about your disability, yes. Also, what his reply about "sowing his wild oats" was.... (read in full...)
What's the deal with guys and big boobs?
Q. What is it about big boobs that guys like so much? I have small breasts, small waist and a big, round butt! My friends tell me I have a great body and that I should be proud, but there's something I don't get. I don't seem to receive that much ...
A. 29 June 2011: Well, big boobs are just nice. That said, it doesn't mean anything is the matter with you, or you're not attractive, or whatever.
Think of it this way: Some men, for whatever reason, are more attractive than others. Should anyone base his self... (read in full...)
I lied to my best friend to try to help her, and it backfired!
Q. My best friend and her boyfriend have been dating for the past 3 years. It is a really unhealthy relationship. He mentally abuses her and is very controlling and manipulative. The last year they have been through so much. Off and on. It has gotten ...
A. 28 June 2011: I will assume you really want to help your friend, as opposed to just run her life. If this is the case, there is a hard lesson you should learn: you can't save people from themselves. It's very hard to accept that, and some people only do it ... (read in full...)
Me and my lesbian partner want to have a baby, how would we go about in vitro fertilization?
Q. hi i am a female and i am in a serious relationship with another female. We have been togeather for just over two years now and we have just been starting to think about the future. We plan to have children however we do not want to adopt but go ...
A. 28 June 2011: I think the best idea would be to go see a doctor.... (read in full...)
First love or soul mate? Which one is more devastating to lose?
Q. Is losing your first love comparable to the feelings experienced when losing a 'soul mate'?...
A. 28 June 2011: I believe losing a soul mate hurts a lot more.... (read in full...)
Am I an ass?
Q. Honestly am I? I've realized something, I can't seem to get over my ex. She was my first serious gf. Like I really loved her. We had a good year 1/2 or 2 together. We broke up bc I found out she cheated. It took a year before we were able to be cool ...
A. 28 June 2011: You're not an ass, but you should move on. Make the conscious decision to do so.... (read in full...)
Is this enough of an apology or should I do more to show him I was just really stressed and upset last week?
Q. I've been in cross-cultural, cross-religious, cross-everything relationship for the past 2 years! I'm 27, my boyfriend is 33. We live 80 miles apart and have been seeing each other about every 2 weeks lately. Our relationship has been tough with ...
A. 28 June 2011: Cindy: No problem with what the poster is now. I just wouldn't recommend any woman to live in such submission as Muslims demand from their women. I don't think any lover is worth it.... (read in full...)
I'm in a FWB with a married woman who used to be more loving. I'm confused, what happened?
Q. I am a married separated man in mid 40's, i have been separated for 5 years and am still friends with wife, we see each other 3 times a week but there is no sex. I have had 2 serious relationships in the past 5 years, niether worked out because ...
A. 28 June 2011: I agree with You Wish. The fact that she wanted to end it is the moment when the emotional separation happened. The physical separation will ensue. But it shouldn't be a problem.... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 27 June 2011: That said, I'm with Chigirl here. And I was raised and grew up in a Catholic and impoverished country, where men expect the women they marry to be virgins, while they (we) sleep around with the "bad" girls.... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 27 June 2011: I don't think I ever cared whether my girl was a virgin or not. At my age, that is hardly a possibility anymore; and, on the other hand, something would be the serious matter with her if she were a virgin by now.
Now, this changes from man to m... (read in full...)
Men and porn!!! Why do they need it?
Q. I need help! I don't understand why my boyfriend has 2 look at porn!! I'm beautiful why can't I be enough? He says I wouldn't understand. We have been together 6yrs an he's hid it the whole time until I cought him! I told him 2 make me understand an ...
A. 27 June 2011: I can't tell you why "men", nearly half the world's population, need porn. The individual answers will vary. I can speculate that he used to watch porn and now he finds it difficult to drop the habit.
I don't think it has anything at all to d... (read in full...)
Ethnicity Problems
Q. I am a 16 year old boy. I have a big problem with my ethnicity/background. I was born in Sweden and lived there for a few years, my mother is Swedish, then I moved to Canada. My father is Nigerian-African. However, I have a much closer connection to ...
A. 27 June 2011: You're a young man, and I think these feelings of yours are the result of your craving for an acceptance your black side makes more difficult to get. Just as I wished I were taller, for example, you wish you were not half black. If this is all ... (read in full...)
Is this enough of an apology or should I do more to show him I was just really stressed and upset last week?
Q. I've been in cross-cultural, cross-religious, cross-everything relationship for the past 2 years! I'm 27, my boyfriend is 33. We live 80 miles apart and have been seeing each other about every 2 weeks lately. Our relationship has been tough with ...
A. 27 June 2011: I am with the anonymous poster, word by word.
And I am CERTAINLY NOT sorry to disagree with Cindy Cares as to converting. Girl, you need to love yourself. He just isn't worth your losing everything. You're a precious human being and don't ha... (read in full...)
Is this mom interested in me?
Q. Hey guys. I'm a married dad with two sons. One of the mom's at my son's school has asked me for a play date with our kids. What does this mean? Could she be interested in me? Don't the moms usually ask each other? Should I say yes? Just wondering ...
A. 14 June 2011: I agree with Honeypie.... (read in full...)
Any Christians who date people of other faiths?
Q. Theres this girl who I've known since I was 12 or 13 and her parents are good family friends with my parents. A coupe of mths ago things just seemed go really well between the two of us. However, we recently had a talk about whether we wanted to ...
A. 11 June 2011: I guess my avatar won't help, because, well, I may be small and cute and smell of milk but I'm still the Devil.
My personal opinion is that your faith should not be a problem. Some people might disagree, like Annalisa (who is a dear friend, ... (read in full...)
I left my wife for her, now I fear she won't leave her husband for me!
Q. This is a tough one. I am married and I have a friend who is also married, both of us are in unhappy marriages that have been unhappy for several years. We have been friends for 3 years, last year we started a relationship with each other and after ...
A. 11 June 2011: I suppose some marriages are easier to break than others. However, That said, I hope you didn't divorce just for her. Have you thought what you would do if she were not to divorce?... (read in full...)
We keep our social lives separate, is this normal?
Q. I live with my boyfriend (lived together for 3 years, dated for 7.5 years) and we spend a lot of time together. In fact, we're probably only apart when we work and when I go for yoga. We don't really have any friends here (we're only here ...
A. 11 June 2011: I don't think you have to spend all your time together. But you should do as you two please.... (read in full...)
Holiday together or separately, your thoughts please?
Q. OK. So my bf and I have taken two weeks off annual leave in the summer, August. He is fiercely independent and I always go for these types so I must like it. I couldn’t bear a guy who was needy. Anyway, we recently spent two whole weekends ...
A. 11 June 2011: My thought is, do as you guys please.... (read in full...)
Why are you vegetarian/vegan?
Q. Hey, I'm not planning on becoming a vegetarian, but I do care about animals very much and when I'm older I'd like to cut down on my meat intake. I could never fully quit, I love meat too much. So, to all the vegetarian/vegans out there, why are you ...
A. 11 June 2011: I'm omnivorous.... (read in full...)
I'm not used to being single! I need my confidence back! Help!
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. After crying for a week....the crying has stopped. I however, feel numb. I know this is natural...but i feel so lost...and lonely... I ask my self...did i do the right thing? I don't know......
A. 11 June 2011: Give it time and it will go away.... (read in full...)
Is it true that it's a woman's right to change her mind--or is she just being bloody rude??
Q. Got into a row with my girlfriend of several months after she canceled on me for the third time in a row, calling a couple of hours before. She said she had things to do. I asked for more details and she said she didnt want to get into it. I got ...
A. 11 June 2011: I just had a devilish idea. That's what we devils are for, anyways. Why don't you take her out for dinner, excuse yourself to "use the toilet", and change your mind about paying the bill?
Now, if you say that the little devil made you do it, I... (read in full...)
I'm 16, tried to get pregnant and succeeded. Now I don't think it was such a good idea.
Q. So, I'm sixteen and I have a boyfriend who I am completely in love with. We get along great and though we have some issues (mainly being that my parents are irresponsible and leave me to take care of my five younger siblings which my boyfriend ...
A. 11 June 2011: Well, now it's time for serious reflection.... (read in full...)
Is it true that it's a woman's right to change her mind--or is she just being bloody rude??
Q. Got into a row with my girlfriend of several months after she canceled on me for the third time in a row, calling a couple of hours before. She said she had things to do. I asked for more details and she said she didnt want to get into it. I got ...
A. 10 June 2011: Everyone has a right to change his or her mind.
Now, tell me: If YOU were to change your mind about meeting with her, say, two hours before the thing, would that be OK with her?
If you refused to give any explanations, would that make it wor... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a nightmare. Is this normal?
Q. I Have been going out with my GF for a few years She is Controlling Possessive Paranoid Moody Childish Doesnt let me see my friends Checks my phone Checks my emails Checks my facebook The reason she does all this is because I have...
A. 9 June 2011: Well, the relationship has lasted for a few years maybe, so yes, this kind of relationships can last.
But, frankly, if she is that bad, what are you doing with her?
If you were doing all that to her, she would probably get the advice that she ... (read in full...)
Can a 20 year age difference really make him feel that insecure?
Q. I have had a friend for over 8 years now. There has always been an attraction between us we have never acted on it. We never really discussed age etc it was never an issue. I knew he was older than me (he is a young looking active attractive man)but ...
A. 9 June 2011: It is difficult to say whether you should walk away.
You're a young woman and you're approaching your prime, while he knows he is "not getting younger". He must know that you are fine with him now, but maybe wonders what will happen when he is 65... (read in full...)
I'm getting other people together...but what about me?? Will I never find the right person?
Q. I don't know what is wrong with me!? Three of my best friends are seeing a guy and i recently just set up my other best friend with one of my friends and things are turning out great with them! And then i set up another of my two friends and again, ...
A. 7 June 2011: Relax. It will happen.... (read in full...)
How can he feel he is my soulmate, but be living with someone else?
Q. I met this man back in October by chance-- I saw him sitting on a bench , reading a book and taking notes in the margin. I was immediately drawn to him because my husband was a writer and often scrawled in the margins of his books (my husband died ...
A. 4 June 2011: I agree with Eyes. This situation warrants clear and direct conversations.... (read in full...)
I am 17, in love with a 47 year old married man, my parents don't like him, what should I do here??
Q. I am in love with a married man. He loves me back but we have never been physical and he has not cheated on his wife except for being in love with me. He has wanted a divorce with his wife for a long time, even before he met me and before we were ...
A. 4 June 2011: I'm a 41 year old man and if I were to have a relationship with a 17 year old (which I won't) I would only be looking for sex. Sorry to break it to you this way, but that is the truth. Run for the hills. This man is not good.
In addition... (read in full...)
How can I survive these constant thoughts about sex?
Q. Hi, I like to know how can this be survived, I have a problem of thinking about my sexuall fanticies everytime especially when I'm on my bed, feeling like some beautiful woman could lie on my bed (or even her's) with me. This desire has became a ...
A. 3 June 2011: I can't tell you how to overcome those thoughts, but you can survive, because I have, and so have all males throughout history. So don't worry.
Sleeping with someone won't relieve that pain. It will actually increase it, but that is fine. O... (read in full...)
Virgin, small-penised male afraid of receiving oral... help!
Q. Hi everyone , i am 28 years old male ... virgin ... Yes i am , i am also heavy weight guy around 186 cm hight and 150kg heavy , my woman told me while talking about sex that she LOVE to give me head and she really get turned on by that , i my self ...
A. 3 June 2011: Relax.... (read in full...)
I want sex all the time. Am I an addict?
Q. I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it all the time. My wife had sex with me last night (I admit it had been a long while) and then we cuddled and she fell asleep. I woke her up in a couple of hour because I wanted to have sex again. ...
A. 3 June 2011: This is great news! "The Machinery" still works.
I think you're just enthusiastic because of some reason; maybe the fact that "it had been a long time since".... (read in full...)
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