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writes:Hey guys. I'm a married dad with two sons. One of the mom's at my son's school has asked me for a play date with our kids. What does this mean? Could she be interested in me? Don't the moms usually ask each other? Should I say yes? Just wondering what the deal is. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Trust me, sometimes a playdate is just a playdate. Unless she's openly flirting with you, that's REALLY all there is to it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 I agree with Honeypie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Dude ... Let me get it straight for you ... "Play date" doesnt mean "Play boy date" with you .... its a calendar date for the kids to play. You should understand the meaning of play date properly !
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (13 June 2011):
 It's simple. She is asking if she can arrange a time for YOUR kids and HER kids to get together because she thinks THEY would like each others company.
She is not asking to play with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): It sounds to me like you're kind of hoping she's interested in more than an innocent play date. Am I right? :0)
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reader, freeme +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Everyone is making this much more complicated than it is. I've been a full time dad for 8 years, and I'm telling you, just make the date, and don't think about the rest.
When she starts batting her eyelashes at you, then you can start worrying about whether or not she likes you.
I've done this countless times and its always innocent.
Now if you are leaving out little details, like, she has been flirting with me, she gave me 'the look', etc. etc. Well then, that's a different story.
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reader, HoneyEyedLatina +, writes (13 June 2011):
 lol I highly doubt she is interested in you. I'm a mom with two kids and I arrange play dates with the mothers and fathers all the time. If you feel uncomfortable about this let your wife handle it. I have a questions tho. Since you are concerned that she may be interested in you did you tell your wife about this? The reason I'm asking is because I'm wondering if you really are concerned about this or "hope" that she is interested.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 June 2011):
 Get her number, give it to your wife, let the women work out the playdate. Sounds innocent to me. Now if she doesn't want to make a "play date" with your wife, something is up.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Maybe she asked you because you were the one there?
why are you even worried about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): Arranging play dates for kids is very common. Suspecting the woman of using this to make a move on you is really reaching. When we were younger kids were out from sun up until sun rise and we walked to school. With child abduction scares parents are less inclined to let their kids wander about so we drive them everywhere and arrange play dates.If she gave you any other indication she fancied you, you'd have included it in your post so I say go ahead and accept her inviation.
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reader, lightandshadows  +, writes (13 June 2011):
Well it might be very innocent. You have to consider some things...Are you more reachable than your wife? For example, do you pick your sons up from school etc? Because if you're usually the parent who's easier to reach it is only natural for her to ask you rather than your wife.Also, are your sons and this woman's son friends? Do they usually hang out together at school? Ask your sons if they would like to do the play date. If they seem enthusiastic, i.e. the children are friends, then there is a greater chance that it's innocent.Saying no might cause some awkward situations when you meet this woman again, because she will start to wonder why you refused. If you say yes, however, perhaps you hsould consider taking your wife with you to drop the kids off so you'll be safe if she invites you in. Or if the kids will be staying at your house, have your wife around.This will avoid suspicion and show this other woman that you only did sign up for a play date, nothing else.Hope this was helpful!
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Eh, i know my wife is big on asking anyone and everyone for play dates with kids.
I don't think i would read too much into it at this stage, as far as anything romantic goes.
A lot of women are very big on trying to get their kids socially active with other kids.
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