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I'm afraid my lack of sexual experience makes me a less than satisfactory lover

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Question - (22 December 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 4 months ago, he's 2 years older than me and I know he has had sex before so he knew what he was doing. Since then, we've been sexually active and have sex 4-5 times a week.

However, I feel like I'm not that good as he does most of the work. I like doggy style position and the cowgirl position is one we regularly do and I sometimes take control in this however I feel like because I lack in experience that he thinks I'm no good.

Any advice on what to do?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntFirst of all, he could have had 50 partners and STILL not be a good lover.

Being a good lover means you LISTEN to your partner, you READ them when you try new things to see what reaction you get, it's not hard to see if a guy LIKES what you are doing or not.

Talk about fantasies, ask what he likes. TRY new things. But don't try and do sex like paint by numbers, because that is a sure way for no one to enjoy it.

Unless you just lay there like a dead fish, I'm pretty sure he is enjoying himself.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (22 December 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI assure you... if he didn't find you a good sexual partner, he'd dump you in a "New York minute"......

Stop worrying yourself about this..... and enjoy your relationship with this guy...

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (22 December 2013):

Ciar agony auntHave you tried asking your boyfriend if he enjoys what you're doing and whether or not he wants you to do more?

You don't have to have a long drawn out discussion. You could simply tell him to let you know if there is something he wants you to do, or not do.

What is it you think you should be doing but aren't?

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