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writes:me n my partners relationship is really rocky at the moment as alot of things have gone on n im on the verge of breaking up with him, we have 2 children so im scared. i found out from him something about his past......he was an escort.....people would pay him to just be in ther company, you wernt allowed to have intercorse or sexual things while u wer on the clock. he told me he just went out to dinner n dates n stuff never intercourse ect...i found out 4 nyts ago from his own sister that he was not an escort but infact a prostitute. and his wife at the time was his pimp per say, she would organise n take bookings of tyms n what people wanted n prices. his sister was living with them at the time and heard his ex wife on the phone taking the bookings and found the lil book in which the bookings wer kept, he did sexual things with males n females, he gave and recieved..........he lied to me for 2 yrs, i dunno wat to do .....is this my breaking point.......i havnt told him that i kno yet
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reader, Muscle and Sinew  +, writes (14 January 2014):
 First, off def get tested for any transmitted diseases...that's the most important. The fact that he didn't tell you about his past must mean that he is really embarrassed and regret it...not that that's an excuse. He needs to be honest with you, esp since you're married. To be married to someone is to accept all of them...even the bad...but since you just found this out while you're married...it is hard....in my opinion I could be with someone who has done those things...I would be disgusted to have him in the house next to my children...then again...that was his past...if he still lives that life style...then a separation is the best solution...if he strongly regrets it, then somehow try to work things out....make sure to know the truth about everything before you make a decision. I hope things work out for you!
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (28 December 2013):
 I can understand that this must have been a massive shock for you and you say there have been a lot of things going on in your relationship that have caused problems.
Obviously this new information will not have helped.
Firstly I'm concerned that his own sister would rat him out to you. What's her motivation? Could she just be stirring up trouble or do you think she has your best interests at heart?
Secondly, "if" this information is true then you need to know WHY he lied to you. Could it be that he was just too embarrassed or ashamed to talk about it and therefore created a "less shameful" explanation that he could live with? Maybe he was lying because he was scared that if you found out he would lose you.
Yes he's deceived you but I think his reasons for doing so need to be discovered then that needs to be balanced with how he behaves NOW as a partner and father.
You will need to tell him what you know and see what he says.
If you believe there is future for you both, despite everything that has gone on, then I would seriously suggest that you both get couples counselling.
Whatever you decide, it may be prudent to get a sexual health screen.
I hope this helps AB x
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