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How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?

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Question - (3 March 2011) 12 Answers - (Newest, 4 March 2011)
A male Nigeria age 36-40, *ruce lee writes:

Hi. It's me again. I have a psychological problem or maybe just a bad habit. I keep looking up pornography on the internet (sometimes vision of drunk women being taken advantage of) and I feel guilty about it later on. I once spoke to an expert about it, and he was unable to help.

My question is...How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?

Not long ago, I masturbated while watching something that most people would find disgusting. Is there something wrong with me? And if so, what should I do?

I try to respect women most of the time, but when it comes to pornography, I'm corruptable.

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A female reader, JDinCali United States +, writes (4 March 2011):

JDinCali agony auntHere's some ideas:

Adjust your security settings through your web browser.

Such as, Internet Explorer helps you control your security and privacy preferences by allowing you to assign security levels to certain websites you wish to avoid.

There's software designed to protect families, but you can use it to protect yourself from porn; (if there's a password needed then have a trusted friend set one up for you).

Watch some porn star documentaries that exposes the corrupted industry and then, view ex-porn star testimonies designed to protect women who are involving themselves with pornography or doing it.

Keep fortifying your mind with the truth and you will have personal strength to overcome these urges.

Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011):

You join other like_minded people that support each other in giving up porn use. There is very good reason to be thoughtful and mindful of what you 'feed' your brain.

Many people on this site are quick to promote porn as a useful and healthy sexual aid, but we are actually performing a 'clinical trial' on this generation raised on internet porn from an early we don't yet know what affect this exposure will have on your sexuality and mental health.

To find useful information and helpful advice on living porn free, visit You may be a little surprised to find out how porn has destroyed some people's lives and relationships. Good luck to you and kudos for being mindful of what you consume.

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A male reader, bruce lee Nigeria +, writes (4 March 2011):

bruce lee is verified as being by the original poster of the question

bruce lee agony auntYes, all these answers are interesting. I guess it is like forcing yourself to stop eating fast food. We can all stop if we really want to but the question I really want to stop?

I guess I will just have to. Thanks for your time.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (3 March 2011):

Danielepew agony auntYou just don't look up any more porn and that does the trick.

You can also escape to live in a desert hill in the Sinai, but I don't recommend that. Specially these days. And if you do that, you won't actually be making the decision you say you want to make.

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A male reader, Jjang19 Canada +, writes (3 March 2011):

Sometimes I also watch stuff about girls being drunk and taken advantage of, etc. There is nothing wrong with it, its just something in a males mind in which they enjoy being dominant, but as long as your not going out and using the date rape drug, its fine. Infact, watching that type of pornography is probably healthy to get your doesage of "over-dominace" out of your system so it doesnt occur in real life.

Porn is always a good choice for both body and mind

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (3 March 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntIf it is really causing you a problem and effecting you phycologically then I think the best think you can do is cut of your internet connection. If you need the internet for work issues or anything important then ring up your internet supplier and tell them that you want all pornography websites blocked. That way you will not be able to access them. But I agree with annalisa you need to start getting out more and socialising. Instead of being stuck in doors watching this sort of stuff go out and start dating woman, meet with friends and enjoy your life.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011):

If it doesn't make you feel good after, then stop! Try looking at other stuff! Come on here and reply to others problems! Read a book,go for a run or even buy a toy to masturbate with, or get a girlfriend and discover a sexual connection with a real human being that involves respect and kindness as well as a little role play, but ALWAYS treat any partner well and don't put pressure on anyone to do anything they're not comfortable with.

The fact you feel guilty says to me that you're a decent human being. It's like anything, only you can change your behaviour. Don't do something that makes you feel bad, life is too short!

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (3 March 2011):

dirtball agony auntI watch some pretty depraved shit sometimes too, but as long as you can separate that from reality and how you actually treat people, then I don't see a problem. However, if you don't like it, then you need to find something else to do with your time.

The thing about porn is you often need more extreme things to get off. In a way, it's similar to drug addiction in that a tolerance is built. We get bored watching the same stuff.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011):

There are heaps of movies on the popular porn sites where drunk girls are taken advantage of so I don't think this is out of the ordinary porn. What sort of porn have you been looking at? As long you're not watching anything illegal I don't think you're corrupt.

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A male reader, sevenseals United States +, writes (3 March 2011):

sevenseals agony auntUnless you feel like your interest in porn is consuming your everyday existence (in other words, becoming an addiction), there's nothing "morally reprehensible" about what you're doing.

I can understand it being a personal dilemma but really that's only one of your own doing. I'm not sure as to why you feel this way, but I guess it would be safe to assume it's religious in nature? Well, as far as that goes, it's probably best you just cut yourself off from the internet, then.

Masturbation and interest in erotica (even "filthy porn") is completely normal. This is why there are so many of those sites, varying from fetish to fetish. Masturbation, on its own, has been an historical practice since man could record itself (though, like our primate cousins and other non-human animals, I suspect even our earlier, ape-like ancestors masturbated, as well).

The only other problem, other than an addiction, would be if the pornography your viewing is illegal. But I'd guess that's not the case, either.

So stop worrying and enjoy yourself.

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A female reader, StarryEyes101 United Kingdom +, writes (3 March 2011):

StarryEyes101 agony auntI agree with Annalisa. There is a world beyond the internet =) Go out with your friends. Try gaming sites that are sooooo addictive like The multiplayer pool is too addictive. LOL. Keep your mind busy and entertained. Watching porn now and again is normal anyways

Hope this helps

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011):

In the end, only you can decide what habits you want to keep or let go of. It's like anything else you want to change whether that be losing 15 lbs or getting in shape. Some people don't like at first when they put on 15 lbs but then decide their okay with it because exercising and dieting is too much work. You'll either get complacent with the porn use or you'll decide to stop doing it. Your question is like someone asking how to stop eating fast food. We all know the answer but no one can make those choices for you..why the expert was unable to help. At some point you have to stop talking and thinking as a way to avoid inaction or just accepting you have a bad habit. We're all corruptable.

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