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writes:okay so i broke away from a girl a couple months ago who was a liar, entitled, promiscuous and bloody selfish. finally my life is getting back to normal. but then....why do i still miss her???i mean, i know in my mind that i am conjuring up an image of her that is an ideal of who i wish she was. but still, i think about her every day much of the day.why??? why would i miss someone who I was allowing to tear my life to bits? will she ever fade from my thoughts??thank you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 To be honest, man, s**t happens. For some reason everyone has missed or wanted to go back to someone who was just toxic.
When you have those urges, just remember that you deserve respect and you weren't getting it from her. Also, that you don't need someone like that.
That does the trick.
All the best.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (3 March 2011):
You dont miss her, you miss the good times you had together and that is different. You can have better moments with better girls, just try to move on, get distracted, meet new girls, and this experience will allow you to spot the bad kind of women earlier than before.
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reader, EasyEK  +, writes (3 March 2011):
I have been going post-breakup greaving phase for almost two months now and I can honestly see the image of my thoughts during the first month in your post here. Since I have decided that it is better to move on with my life, it is beginning to get better now.But it is not easy to simply forget someone who even though they have turned out to be not what you expected them to be, you still shared some good moments with them. My advice is to try not allowing your mind to wander too much as by so doing, the thoughts of you and your ex obviously creep up. Keep yourself busy, talk to friends and start new hobbies, learn new things (games/ languages, etc).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): She will fade with time, but if you need to contact her - do it just to re - confirm why you broke up with her. Do what feels right for YOU!! and go out on dates too .x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): You need to try to occupy your mind, go out, go for a jog, read, watch a film! The more you dwell on it, the worse it will seem. If you can push her out of your mind you will break the cycle. She was obviously not worthy of your love and whilst your wasting your time thinking of her you are missing out on living! I know it's tough, but in time the memories and the hurt will fade and you will find someone special to share your life with that will make you feel good not bad and then you will truly appreciate what you have.For now enjoy spending time with friends and family, invest time in your career or hobbies which will then make you a more desireable catch to all those single ladies out there! Focus on you and you will get stronger and find love when you least expect it! :-)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 You obviously loved her and that is why you still miss her. This is completely normal so dont worry. I bet if you look back to when you first broke up with her to now there has been a huge difference and you are coping better. So yes you will soon gradually stop thinking about her through time. In your mind you are probably picking out her good parts and forgetting about all the bad stuff, this is usually what we do when we are heartbroken after a relationship. I think it would benefit you if you were to sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and write down all of this girls faults. Think of everything bad she has ever done to you and write it down. Then whenever you feel yourself thinking how much you miss her look at that paper and remind yourself how bad she treated you. Dont worry you will get through this in time. Have faith. Goodluck sweetie.
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