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writes:Is it normal for a guy to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"? I would think its okay but I guess I just wanted to question it just to make sure I feel okay about him not wanting to spend time today.Well casue I asked him if we could spend time together today whether it be just a quiet night at his house or going some where but he said, "I want me time" and never even resceduled another time for us to do something so should I just leave it and him be until he is ready to do something? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Yeah... thats normal. People need it as they dont like to lose that self identity. This means hes comfortable in who is and also confident, which are two good traits for any personality in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): It's absolutely, 100% normal. There is nothing worse than being in each other's pockets all the time as it's a sure fire way to lose your own identity. I love my partner dearly, but also love "me time", whether that be going for a drive on my own, going shopping, hanging out at home watching movies, going out with my girlfriends... you get the picture. It's nice to come home and say, "I had a great day today and I missed you". It's not only normal to want time to yourself, it's healthy.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Yep, everyone needs time for himself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Absolutely, it's perfectly healthy for couples to have their "me" time. It's not good for the relationship to be spending every waking minute together.
Boyfriends/girlfriend request this when they feel that have been spending too much time, to where it's overkill, with their significant other.
How would you say your relationship is otherwise?
"Me" time is nothing to fret about. All it is time spent by yourself relaxing, or doing personal activities.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Like Chigirl said, everyone needs some me-time now and then. I am a person who needs it more than others. I live with my fiance and we work different hours, so when we take a long weekend off of work together, sometimes I need to take a few hours for just me. The first time I asked him for some me-time, he was a little hurt (probably similar to how you are feeling now). After a few hours, I missed our time together and went home. I do that occasionally when we take time off together, but I just can't seem to stay away too long. That is probably what will happen with your bf.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 It's normal for everyone to want to spend some time alone with themselves, or with no-one in particular. Doesn't mean he dislikes you, or didn't want to hang out with you. He just wanted to hang out with himself a bit more today.
I believe it's normal for people to want this, but some need it more than others. You should have a talk about it to clarify this, so you don't misunderstand him. You can ask him what you should do when he wants me-time, if you should leave him alone until he contacts you or not.
I think it'd be safe to just follow the standard on this one, unless you want to talk to your boyfriend and work it out in detail. The standard response goes like this: when someone says they want me-time, leave them to it until they contact you. However you are naturally allowed to call and chat for a bit, ask how they are doing, you can drop things off at his place, or pick things up, as long as the visits aren't for too long, and in case of an emergency you naturally call, or contact in any other way. Or if you need his urgent help with anything. But me-time means you don't plan anything with him, you don't occupy him for an extended period of time, and you let him decide when to meet up next.
My boyfriend recently had a case of me-time, and I left him alone for half a day before he started missing me, practically. If you just let your guy be Im sure it wont take long before he'll drown you in attention again. Just respect his me-time.
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