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Archived questions from: 23 October, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I am married but I am thinking about this other guy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I am married and i like a guy who is also married whenever i am around him he always acts like he is flirting with me. so how can i tell for sure if he is flirting with me and if he really likes me or not and what should i do, i think about him ...

He has suddenly stopped communicating and I am supposed to visit him soon!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5295 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Hey. Ok...so I worked at this place over summer and I met this guy who also worked there...and we kinda got together towards the end (went on a few dates). Then, however, he had to quit and go back to uni, as did I. However, my uni is in London, ...

Why not me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - My guy an me had a great sex life until 2 months ago. He then could come, lost it with me. I find out he has been getting himself off. He has blamed loads of things. I have now given him ultimatum as ( he says I turn him on?!) but today he can get ...

My wife lied about her past and I feel like I want to leave her!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - My wife told me she only ever had one boyfriend before me and she only ever slept with him twice. After 23 years together i discover that she was in fact in a sexual relationship with him for 2 years and then with another guy for 6 months. Having ...

Dating a separated guy, who's wife wants him back...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5295 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a very loving relationship with a separated guy for just about 2 years. He was only living on his own for about a month, when he and I met. He and his wife were kind of separated for many years (not sleeping in the same bedroom) prior ...

Cheating soulmate and fiance. Am I mad for still thinking of taking him back??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - My first real love i met in my mid 20's. It was instant intense love since the day we met we never left each others side and got along like life long friends with an extreme passion for one another. Everything went perfect till 6 months into the ...

How can I help her regain that lost faith?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of a year recently broke up with me, saying that she has lost faith in our relationship. I've had some crappy relationships in the past and I honestly thought we were doing good together. How can I help her regain that lost faith?...

Do you think they are into polygamy with me as a potential second?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - A little over a month ago I started working at a new job. I was familiar with 2 - 3 of the managers because I had friends who worked at the same place, but I didn't know them by name and wasn't friends with them. When I started working one of the m...

This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Hello all, I have a complicated situation. I consider myself to be clear of mind and a high thinker. But this problem I simply cannot solve. My former flame and I were together for a short time. A year and a half. He was my first and only everyt...

How do I know if this is going to work out? She's not dealing with some things because of a bereavement!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I usually don't do posting like this but I don't know who to turn to. I love my wife dearly but we don't seem to see things eye to eye. She believes I need therapy and have problems, she doesn't understand some of her behavior causes ...

Will it look pathetic if I delete him after seeing him with a girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I was sort of seeing this guy about 5 months ago, we got on really well ..etc etc. But in th end he turned out to be an idiot, who used me and never spoke to me again until 3 months later. (aplogising on a text, but i told him we are okie but its ...

Are my boyfriend's reactions to the abuse he suffered normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5297 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - hi please can anyone tell me if my bf`s behaviour is normal? hes lied so much im startin to wonder what to think. i met him in 07 when he was 34. he told me that between the ages of 12 to 15 he had been sexually abused by his stepfather. the abuse ...

Wife used to be very sexually active, before me and with me now once a week if I'm lucky

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - when i first met her it seemed perfect, after being together for a while we discussed sexual pasts in some detail and neither of us were bothered by it. We used to have sex like rabbits, 2-10 times daily and it was great passionate sex that was ...

He mistreats me, humiliates me, hits me, and now I feel like the one who has to prove I deserve to be loved by him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4960 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - A couple of days ago me and my boyfriend went out to a club. I have only been out once before (I do not fancy that kind of places too much) and the one time I have been out I went without my boyfriend. So... On Monday, after I came home, I noticed ...

As I leave for work, the only words he has for me: "Are you wearing a dress to make it easier for him?"

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I love dresses, I have always loved dresses. My boyfriend of two years, speaks about marriage with me and how he loves me and wants to spend the rest of our lives together. I love him dearly but there are things about him that don't seem...

Closure needed in the up and down relatinship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - So, she sucked me back in about 3 weeks ago. My own fault, I admit it. She acted weird right away. Stayed with me for a few days. A freind gave me the heads up that she had been on a few dates with a guy the week before. I didn't bring it up to her ...

Boyfriend causing me so much pain!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Please help! just recently i started going out with a guy, he was really attentive sweet and caring to me. We got on really well. He was 22 very good looking and quite wealthy..not to mention arrogant with it! I am quite a small petite girl and he ...

We're planning a trip to see a couple we met, but they've now split and we have a dilemma.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5305 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hello this is not a relationship or family or sexual question but I wonder if you can help me, I am going to the USA next summer on a 3 week-one month long trip. The plan is to start in los angeles, and then to visit Las Vegas and then San ...

I lost my erection, now she thinks I'm not attracted her!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi, I have a bit of a problem. Last night while in bed with my girlfriend, she started trying to arouse me. It worked, I got an erection and everything, but then we had some trouble with penetration. She was on top, and after a minute of her ...

I'm open to watching porn, so why does he lie about watching Adult Channels?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5305 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Why does my partner lie about watching the adult channels? I have been with my partner for 6 years and have been living together for nearly 3 years. On several occasions I have walked into the room and he has quickly changed the channel and when...

Lack of sex is souring our relationship and I want my space, is this enough justification to break up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi, So I'm in what seems to be a near-perfect (homosexual) relationship right now, my boyfriend and I are very attuned to each other, we are respectful, gentle, and loving, and this December will be 3 years. We marvel at how connected we are...

My disabled boyfriend is using the internet to have an emotional affair. I feel worthless!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - my parnter and I have been together 6 years, I am 25 he is 29. we live together, about 5 months ago he asked me if it was ok if he used the internet to make some friends, I said this was ok, because he is disabled and it makes it hard for him to ...

Whta's the difference between a guy who has genuine feelings for you and one who just finds you attractive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I've asked my friends about this, but the only advice they give me is along the lines of "of course he likes you, all men do" which really doesn't help me. How can you tell the difference between a guy who has genuine feelings for you and one who ...

I feel very down so can someone help me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - i am feeling very down at the moment, i ahve no one to talk to, the children are in bed and i cant stop crying my partner told us we were finished yesterday and i thought today he would have text to say he didnt mean it but he never did. my child...

Pregnant and boyfriend not ready...have you experienced this and can you help me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I'm 23 and I just found out I am pregnant. My boyfriend, 20- almost 21, is not ready to have a child... For the main reason that he doesn't want to disappoint everyone. His father is a pastor and his parents would be devastated. The people in the ...

Dating one, but in love with his friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5307 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I'm also in love with my best friend...but I'm dating another person. My friends have tried to help. Lets call him BFF is dating Lisa and I'm dating my bf. BFF and I have so much in common and we get into tickle fights every day we see eachother, ...

I know this is long, but I really need help. any advice or insight will be incredibly appreciated

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5304 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - This is the backstory to the question. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years. We love each other very much. We have a stunning amount in common and a very powerful connection ie ( knowing what each other is thinking) calling ...