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41-50,
*uschialady
writes:I have been sleeping with my oldest child's father for the last 2 1/2 years....However I have been married for 12 1/2. My husband and I have definitely had major hurdles in our marriage and I feel very unappreciated and he takes me for granted,I had been faithful for the first 10 years of our marriage, although he had not been (he even claims a child with out DNA proof from one of his past discretions). I love and desire the attention that I get from my son's father and don't really forsee ending our arrangement. I want to leave my husband, but not to go back to my son's father (he has been married for the last 2 years). We both have an understanding and this works for us. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): To (jj)"if you dont want to be with the boys dad..realize thats not a good relationship and if your first husband is playing around..get away from him..too..your setting up your child for demise.."Just to clarify something: My son who is 15 years old, knows nothing of my secret relationship I have with his father. I never go out with him when anyone is around, let alone my son.(we actually live in different states, however we see each other on neutral territory or when I return home to see family) I have recently addressed the issues that I have with my husband, but like I said before I have no intention on getting out of my marriage to break up my ex's, when I get out of marriage, I have no plans to jump into another one, ever!
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reader, jj. +, writes (27 July 2009):
you need some help ..so does your present husband and your exboyfriend......dont you realize what goes around comes around so sad and you think you have an arrangement .you figure if you dont say anything its right..where's the reality or morals here..there isnt any thing here..go figure..you need to be on one of the soap opera'sas the stupid turn or all my husbands..use me..the best thing you can do is..get some counseling and find out why your impulsive and compulsive..adultery is a addiction for you ...gets some self esteem counseling and learn to not be co-dependent any more..if you dont want to be with the boys dad..realize thats not a good relationship and if your first husband is playing around..get away from him..too..your setting up your child for demise..get your head on stright and do it now..if your asking who you should stay with ,,i would say neither ..wake up and get some counseling for getting your morals stright..please..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I think you know that this is wrong. If he is married you do not need to having an affair with him. Just because your husband did it to you doesnt make it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): 1)Divorce your husband if yall can't work through yall's issues. 2) Stop seeing a married man!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Forget sleeping with the baby daddy and get away from the husband. Go be alone until you can figure out why you don't value yourself enough to insist on a respectful and honest relationship.
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