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writes:Dear Readers Hi!I'm a 31 years married lady and mother of two young kids. I'm beautiful fair and my hubby and his family and friends thought him to be very lucy to wed me I'm married for past 7 years. I can't recall a single day when i could have felt love of my husband in these years. Even as a newly wed I never enjoyed life. My husband is an alcoholic. His parents tortured me in front of him and he never uttered a word in my favour.I tolerated everything as i was madly in love with him. I wanted to be with him in any case. After the birth of my first child i came to know about his affair with other girl. I made all fuss about it and he promised not to cheat on me again. After an year one more affair with his co worker in office n after that with another. This lady around 40yrs with two grown up kids was the last affair i know (now if there is something going on under layers i don't know neither i have interest to know.By this point i knew that there is no use of crying yelling hurting myself or him.Apart from having affairs he simply admitted that he likes so n so girl n can't hear a word for her. He even asked me to say sorry to one of his girlfriend whom i called at wee hours to tell to stop all this.Now our relationship is over from my side he doesn't want a divorce. To his greatest surprise i had started chatting with my ex-boyfriend. Now i have no physical no emotional relation( although it was never there except a few times that too only sex). Being a drinker and a womanizer he isn't able to save money.I left my job two times because of his relocating to different places. I can't afford a divorce as im not financially independent. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): If you get divorced on grounds of cheating husband, you will get the money from him. So go for a divorce and don't start dating your ex because it will be bad for your divorce case. You are the victim and it should be proven in court that you have clean character in comparison to your husband.Also, women organizations in India can help if you can't afford lawyer. Stay strong for your kids. wish you all the best.
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (28 July 2009):
Find a lawyer who is sympathetic to your situation;;; or find a lawyer you can befriend and will become sympathetic to your situation. You may find one who will do it at a reduced cost;; people can be touched by the suffering of others;; especially in impossible situations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Just to sum up:
As far as you're concerned the marriage is over, you can't afford to leave and he doesn't want a divorce. He's cheating on you regularly, is a womanising alcoholic and you're being faithful at the moment.
I can't afford to pay for you to get divorced, so I guess the only way I could help you is to tell you to play him at his own game, get this ex-boyfriend of yours back into your life and start having some fun again. What's good for the goose is good for the gander isn't it?
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