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writes:I am a married woman of 5 years, been with my husband for 6. I have noticed in the last like 3 months, maybe 4 that he has not been acting what I would call "normal". I dont know if its just me, or is there anything I should worry about? Typically he used to always call me, text me, send me pictures; hold me, kiss me, always making me feel loved and secure. But lately its been right the opposite. He wont answer his phone 1/2 the time, he never calls me, he dosent kiss me, or hold me, and not to mention we have had sex only like 2x in 3 months. He used to kiss me bye when he left for work, now he dosent even tell me bye. When I try to ask him why he dosent call me or kiss me he immediatly starts to scream at me and tell me Im crazy, I need help, a doctor....He always threatens to divorce me if I dont like the way hes treting me....Its insane...All I try to do is talk to him and then he will start throwing up everything in the past we have dealt with only to deal with it AGAIN....All I am trying to do is reach out to him before our marriage falls completly apart, but he wont talk...he wont listen...he says Im insecure and he cant help that. All I want is not to feel neglected by the man I have to livev with from now on. EVERYDAY that he works and comes home, he never hardly carries on a conversation with me. He will love all over our dog, talk to the children, but almost completly ignore me. And then when this "tension" I have felt for a few weeks builds up, I ask him whats wrong, why are you ignoring me? And not talking tyo me? And thats when he starts screaming telling me IM crazy....All Im trying to do is find out what has changed his behavior from a few months ago to how it is now? Im so upset! Someone help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Is you husband the controlling type who dictates to you how to behave and whom you can be with?My brother-in-law recently went nuclear on me. When he apologised he said it was not anything I did (although at the time I thought something I said had provoked it) but what someone else had said. He said that drinking at the party had added to his blow-up. Sounds like he is experiencing incredible pressure outside the home.You need air. Perhaps go to see relatives, friends on a vacation to get away from him and let him cool down because things do not sound safe at home.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Wow, your husband is tripping hard. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to be going through this. Something is definitely going on!
I think you should try to have it out with him. It is not fair for him to ignore you and fight with you whenever you talk. If he keeps this up it might be good for you to see a marital counselor on your own to figure out the next step. Perhaps he will go with you if you suggest it but if he doesn't, go by yourself anyway. He may be angry over something or he might have bigger issues.
Good luck.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (28 July 2009):
 he could be having a problem at work, he could be sick say cancer or somehting, or he could be cheating, theres definatly somehting going on .you need to start thinking strategically first get your self straight financially so you can function independently, things may get worse in your marriage and if they do you need to be able to manage on your own.theres two ways you can play the rest, be up front not around the kids meet your husband some where and have it out with him dont leave untill you get a satisfactory answer, your his wife you disserve to kno whats going on.the second way is leave him alone hes putting food ont he table and is good to the chilldren and dog too apparentlybut keep your eyes and ears open for evidence of whats going on dont question him or confront him this way hell eventually drop his guard and make mistakes if you find hard evidence go seek proffesional advice in the mean time prepare your self for what you may find. be strong for your children and yourself.
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