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writes:When will I fall for my husband again???I got married to my husband 7 yrs ago and Im still not in love? I only got married cause I was profiside to marry him very stupid reason thats cause he knew the whole truth and didn't care. Actually when I was pregnant with my second daughter I was so in love with him!! I could not stop thinking about him day in day out. I was on cloud nine!! Then a month before I had my daughter I was scared, I didn't want to have her like I knew after I delivered her I wasn't going to be in love with him anymore. Then it happened out of no where I was not in love anymore?? Believe it or not were like best friends with benefits. I tell him everything, I just wish I would fall for him and stay in love this time. I use to wish and pray every night that I would fall for him again but this time stay in love till death.I feel so bad he deserves someone that would love him just as much.
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reader, shadowwraith +, writes (7 January 2010):
Honestly, I'ld like to learn as well. I would guess that while being pregnant with your daughter your SO didn't pressure you as frequently for sex or insinuate he was interested. You probably noticed him becoming more cranky after the pregnancy. you probably thought if you weren't "in the mood" that sex just wasn't an option and if your not in your special "place" end of conversation. maybe by not considering his disappointment your reaping the rewards of your investment. consider that A. yes being a mother is a very taxing roll and it is one that, in fairness, does require his help. but... B. it has nothing to do with your relationship with him (Apart from the fact that anything that screws up your interpersonal rapport anywhere screws it up period.) C. the other piece is that, honestly, guys aren't very outward about how they suffer in a relationship. A girl can't read minds but a guy isn't going to expose his vulnerbility in a relationship. The other part is he lacks the mechanics to describe his feelings simply because guys don't engage in this type of emotional investment. D. if you look for faults, you'll find them, trust me, guys are riddled with character flaws. Sometimes the only benefit he will gain by your letting him know what they are is for the NEXT woman since his pride will be bruised not to mention the fact that he will not recall the details of what you said as time goes by, but he WILL remember how he felt for years to come. as for prophesied? wth does that mean? I think someone manipulated you with this line. Do some soul searching or read your scriptures and pray for more clarity and understanding.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 no matter what you do to try and be in love with him your heart isn't with him as much as you want it to be its not fair on you or your husband but u need to consider ending the relationship or staying with him and learning to accept it for the kids sake.you cant make yourself love someone but you can try and be a bit happier by spicing up your sex life or doing new things with him like a holiday
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