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writes:HiMy husband and I got married one year back and ours was a love marriage. My husband is generally of humorous type and mingles well with everybody at work. But recently, an unmarried woman calls him very often and he also talked to her for a while. I noticed this and conveyed him that I am upset about this. So he stopped answering her phone calls, but still she calls him repeatedly. He claims he is not talking to her even in office. But why should she call him so frequently? I am answerless, and not sure how far I can trust my husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): This happened to me. I answered the phone and said, this is his wife, then I started asking her questions like, how do you know my husband? I was just being curious, but she got very uncomfortable, and never called again. I kept my cool. Hopefully if you try this, it will stop her from calling your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Vodafone offers call blocking.Try to get a number from Vodafone.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 If, to the best of you knowledge, he has shown no signs or confessed to past history of "cheating", I think it would be best to continue to trust him now. It sounds like you already have the fundamentals of a good marriage, where you listen to each other's concerns and requests respectfully.
If you and your husband are open to each other's access to each other's cell phones, the next time she calls on his cell number, you can always let your husband know that you'd like to answer her call yourself. Just say something like "He's not available right now, I'm his wife and I can your message if you like. Or perhaps I can even help you with ..." Or, if she tries again, say something like "Hi, it's his wife again. Right now I am also his secretary and his mistress. What can I do to help you?" in a very seductive voice LOL. Make sure that he is in your presence so he can hear you too. It might just turn him on, actually. LOL
With current cell phones and providers, you may be able to "divert" certain numbers in the phone book to another certain number, like, your phone for instance. Your husband may just find it amusing, that's all (if you don't overdo it of course). And that woman, will most like "get the message" that you put accross to her.
I personally think we are privided with "instincts" to protect ourselves, in this case,to protect your marriage. The key is not overdo it, and just use "recognize" it to make sure that we do not take your partner that you love for granted, ever. All should be balanced.
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reader, natasia +, writes (27 February 2009):
 I think that you have to trust your husband. You told him you were upset, so he stopped taking her calls. This is very good. There isn't much else he can do.
I think she calls him so much because she likes him. I think he liked her, too, but only in a friendly way. Maybe also she only likes him in a friendly way (or so she thinks), but you are right - you don't want another woman to take a lot of his attention. It is right that he isn't talking to her now, if it upsets you.
She probably thinks she has done nothing wrong, and is annoyed that her new friend can't keep talking to her. In time, I think she will stop calling.
Be happy - your husband is a sociable man and people like him, but he is yours, because when you said you were upset, he did something about it.
You don't know if he takes her calls in the office or not, but I think it's better if you believe him. He sounds like a good man and he is trying his best to take care of your heart. I think you can trust him.
That's my feeling, but I'm sure other people here might not agree ...
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