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female
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41-50,
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writes:After a 5 month seperation, my husband showed up to plead his intentions of wanting to work things out. He stayed for about 2 weeks and we did a lot of fun things together. When he had to leave (he is military and lives overseas) I told him I still don't know if I want to get back together and to find out what, if anything can be done as far as the military allowing him to come live here or moving us to a different base together.The reason we seperated was supposedly "nothing to do with me" my husband said that some things from his "past" (referring to childhood abuse/neglect) were getting to be too much to bear and he "had" to be alone to sort his life out. After months of trying to get him to attend counseling or even getting him to listen to me about whether we were going to work things out, not to mention tons of callous indifference and neglect on his part towards me, I finally told him I wanted to leave. We had to submit a bunch of paperwork for the government to move me and my belongings back to the states. It really hurts that he allowed that to happen and I kept hoping he would do something to stop the process. Before I left, he was acting like I wasn't even there. He stopped wearing his ring (because he didn't know what he wanted)and the only interaction he did have with me was nasty. He also had some violent tendencies when he'd been drinking.Now he says he's been through counseling and feels like a better person and really hopes I will give him another chance. Can I trust him again? Should I give him another chance? I think I wouldn't be completely opposed to trying again if we could take it slow and maybe see eachother periodically and attend counseling over several months, but the fact that he lives overseas makes that impossible, and the idea of me returning to that particular base again after all that happend is not very appealing to me.
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