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male
age
18-21,
*r.Who
writes:hey I am kinda of a loner and I have been known to creep girls I knew out last year because I would send them messages on myspace-or at least most of them. I went on facebook and added this girl that I used to know in one of my classes. I said hi to her when she was on chat but then she came into the place I work one night with a friend and she stared at me and smilied while she walked by - I thought she was creeped out so I removed her from my friends list. I wasn't thinking that I was doing anything wrong. She then came in about 1 month ago and she stared at me for a while, just stared and then looked at something else. Its really what she has been doing when she would come in-she would give me quick glances or stares. Should I send her an apology on facebook saying that I am really shy and I didn't want to creep her out...I am starting to develop feelings for her but I am fearing the worst.
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reader, Dr.Who +, writes (20 October 2009):
Dr.Who is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA day after I sent her the apology I regret sending...she came into the place I work at and ignored me by looking down at her cell phone.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (1 August 2009):
 It's too soon to reveal romantic feelings for her. If you're that shy, it might be better to build up some small successes first.
You could ask her if you can re-add her to Facebook and that you had previously deleted her because you're shy, you didn't know her that well and weren't sure if you were being too forward. Keep it simple. See how she responds to that.
A note about shyness; some of us are only situationally shy while others suffer a great deal because of it. One step in overcoming it is by recognizing it as a form of self absorption. When we feel shy, we're wondering what others think of US, how WE look, whether or not WE'll fail.
Practice directing that focus outward; might the other person feel shy too? How can you break the ice? What can you do to help others feel at ease?
Build small success for yourself gradually instead of pressuring yourself to undergo a complete personality overhaul, then feeling badly when you fall short.
Take note of your posture, how you walk, your breathing. Visualize positive encounters. There are many online articles that elaborate on this.
Good luck!
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reader, night gurl +, writes (31 July 2009):
 dont make it an apology just say, i have feelings for you but i dont wanna creep you out, and let it go
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