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36-40,
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writes:Sorry for my grammar.I met a girl recently online and for a few weeks we literally spent half the day talking to each other and watching movies etc. We got close very fast and I got strong feelings for her very fast. She returned them and everything seemed perfect or so I thought.The past week she did a u-turn on me, it started with her putting the phone down on me for no reason and from then it got hard to get in touch with her. She firstly blamed it on the time of the month and though things got patchy she basically said she was studying. She called me every so often but something hasn't sat right with me for awhile and when trying to message her online or text's I got nothing but knew she was around. She also played some very heartless pranks on me that I don't understand why anyone would do to someone. She basically kept saying she was seeing someone else or other random stories and then saying Bazinga (A joke/prank) at the end, which is from a tv show.I was gullible, but this really tore through my heart. She had a hold over me and even though she was being like this I hoped that she would go back to how it had been at the start. Even if she called during this week, it would either be the joke or she would just hang up and these calls would be at 1-7am sometimes and I would answer. I know you will think i'm a fool for letting her walk all over me like this, but from the start I always thought to myself shes out of my league. I don't understand how she changed or why she has done the things she has to me.Did she ever even care about me, even though she spoke about love and future etc. I felt everything that came out of her mouth was a lie and i'm not sleeping because i'm thinking of her all the time. --She finally admitted tonight their was a guy from her uni and that she was confused and needed more time. I pretty much just left it as I hope he respects and treats her right and doesn't hurt her and that I would not try to contact again.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I would combine the posts by Cupidus and Hannah76. You're young and she's female, and that's why it happened, but you let her be in control. Now she's gone. I'm sorry to say this, but very likely you never meant anything to her. My opinion is that you should not waste any more time thinking about her. This is another day, and a time to start again.
All the best.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Hello,
Cut all ties now. Forget about what she is thinking, no one knows what anyone is thinking. You took the role of a subservient and allowed her to call the shots. Therefore she did and walked all over you. This was by not contacting you, being rude, not respecting your calls or communications. One way of dealing with this type of person is to ignore. You are only feeding her desire to dictate to you while you keep contacting. Just delete her from every form of device you have and don't acknowledge her anymore. Problem solved. Then, go back online and do exactly what you did in finding a girl. You will find there are very respectful people in this world and you will meet a person that will appreciate your qualities. All the best.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Sleep eaze..
This dream girl has turned into your nightmare.
Ooopss. How'd that happen man?
Well, you developed chemistry for her because you are young and she's a female. That's about all it takes for now.
So, be reminded this will and can happen many more times.
She's out of the picture so your ego is spilling it's guts.
That's going to happen, that's about all it takes for now.
You'll get your game back with the next libido high, no worries there.
Right now you need to get distracted and get some sleep.
Put a 100 watt light bulb in your bed room and lay there.
It'll take about one hour maybe more to become so irritated by the light you'll want to smash the lamp. Upon doing so say her name 3 times and get some zzzz's. Cured and rested.
Tomorrow life begins again.
Sleep tight, don't let your ex bite.
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