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30-35,
*inosaurexx
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for a while, and he's told me that he has really bad sexual temptations; which is why i don't understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me.I'm not a virgin, so i can see why he wouldn't like that. But i always thought that guys always wanted sex. I want to sleep with him, but he doesn't want to do it. He's also a really good guy, as in he's never drank, smoked, or done any drugs. AND he's a virgin.I'm not a virgin and i've done all those things. Is it even possible that this relationship can work out?It just seems like we're so different.. I love him, and i know he loves me, but it seems like we just want different things.Is it anything that i'm doing that would make him not want sex?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 April 2011):
 Ask again, Dinosaurexx. And if he avoids the subject again, say that to his face. He needs to give an answer. If not for this particular issue, because you can't let him get away with not giving answers if he doesn't want to.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (22 April 2011):
Right, you have to ask him why. There is no point in guessing. And once you've got the answer you can figure out what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): I forgot to mention, i did ask him. He just kind of hugged me and avoided answering. He can't even be honest with me about this! I'm sorry if i'm being frustrating. I'm just kinda frustrated myself.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (22 April 2011):
Dinosaurexx, just ask your man why he does that, will you?
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reader, dinosaurexx +, writes (22 April 2011):
dinosaurexx is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wouldn't say that I have slutty behavior... I just like sex. And its not that I've slept with a lot of people, just one. He always says that's he's excited for when he ghas sex, so I guess it might be a religious thing. I guess I was just thinking that maybe he didn't want sex with ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): Well, guys are not all stereotypical sluts that try to hump the leg of every willing female in sight. Shocking, I know. The truth is lots of guys are like him. Girls just prefer to believe these guys don't exist. Girls believe the myth and they think it explains why they get hit on so much by male sluts. (The truth is just the numbers. X number of male sluts do a lot more hitting on girls than the same X number of chaste men. The male sluts aren't very choosy about who they approach.) The myth of male sluts also excuses girls own slutty behavior better when they tell themselves that all guys are just as bad or worse.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (22 April 2011):
Obviously not. Something else is at play here. Maybe religion, because that's the only reason why I would expect someone to say "bad sexual temptations".I think you should tell him that you're not getting what you want, and you should also have a clear answer as to why he won't have sex with you. "Bad sexual temptations" would not be an answer.
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