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Dear Cupid,
relationship help and advice

Are the lives we want too different to stay together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 95 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm really confused, i've been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years, but i'm starting to think that we want different things. I'm 20 and he's 24, and whilst I want to travel and concentrate on my career for another 10 years before starting a family, he wants to be a 'young dad' and ... (136 words)

She says she doesn't want to loose our friendship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 16-17 - Here is my story and my question is where do I go now?: There is this girl and she knows I have liked her for 8 years. My friend and her mates went for a sleepover at another person house. When we got there she said she would be late because she was waiting for my friend. T... (350 words)

How will I ever handle this situation.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - My problem is embarrassing but I need help and don't know where to get it from. Apologies if the content is shocking, it's not explicit but it needs to be mentioned so you can understand my problem. On Thursday I got a phone call off my husband's boss about his behaviour in... (392 words)

I don't know if she fancy's me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 13-15 - hi i am 13 years old and theres a girl in my class and i used to bully her but now me and her r best friends and i sort of fancy her and i dont know if she fancys me and i dont know what to do if she does and i really need help we both have msn and talk toeach other all the ... (73 words)

Break up or have time apart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been together with my girlfriend for 2 and half years. When we started going out she was 23 and I was 28, now we are 26 and 31. I am from Europe, she is from Chicago. I meet her parents and went in vacation with them, her mother and my mother meet as well. The fir... (974 words)

An issue I thought we had solved resurrected and we became very violent towards each other. Am I mad to still love him?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - me and my guy have been together for 4yrs we have a son aged 3 and kids from previous relationships,the last year aint been so good between us a lot of arguments and ive been the one whom has done all the running to patch things up due to the fact that im inlove with him and ... (255 words)

Is there something wrong with two close friends havng a cuddle every now and again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M) age 18-21 - Ok i have this best friend and we are extremely close. Me and her at mind and just having a cudle on the sofa when my sister came in and one of our other friends and saw us. We are only close friends but feel comfortable enough with each other to do these sorts of thingsand yes ... (223 words)

I want my boyfriend to stop talking to skanky strangers.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 16-17 - Help! my b/f n i have bn 2gether for almost 2 yrs... recently he added a girl to myspace but he doesnt no who the hell she is! i asked him numerous times not ot talk to her bc shes a stranger and to delete her but he wont do it. y is that how do i get him to delete her without ... (133 words)

He likes receiving oral but it makes me want to gag. How do I avoid this displeasure, how do I keep my stomach happy too?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 16-17 - My b/f likes when i give him bj but it makes me want to gag... how do i make him happy but keep my stomach happy too... and how do i get excited or arrouse him more in bed... oh and one more thing... my b/f never cums when we have sex.. is it more or sumething else.. ty... (60 words)

I've decided to leave my partner whom I don't love anymore, I have two kids and no money though, what do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - im in a relationship with some one i dont love any more and im in love with some one else,ive decided to leave my partner but i dont know were to start,i have two young lads no money what do i do.... (42 words)

How to turn this relationship to a proper one.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - im an 18 year old gay male, recently i ended a posessive civil partnership (though not legally yet) and have been going out almost as soon as i'd finished with him, with another guy. I know the new guy likes me alot and hes the first guy who has ever been able to make me ejacu... (100 words)

Sexual remarks, flirtation and mind games from my teacher. I know it's wrong, but I'd go on anyway. How do I control myself?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - hi im 14 and hav had a major crush on my science teacher for well over a year.at first i hated his guts -he looked at me consantly and said/did innapropriate things(winks;sexual remarks;touching), i always felt really uneasy.however one day during a test we were wispering to ... (228 words)

My mom dislikes my boyfriend, which makes me sad. Stay with him or break up to make my mum happy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (?) age 18-21 - My mom doesn't like my boyfriend. We've been together for more than a year, and I consider myself happy with him. She doesn't like him because he and I have been having problems, because he doesn't approve of my past (I was involved with the mutual friend who introduced us, ... (243 words)

Have I gotten into a serious relationship too young? It's been 5 yrs together, but recently I slept with a teacher whom I accidentally met on net.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm sorry this is so long! I'm 18 years old and I've been wth my boyfriend for 5 years. He's the same age as me. We've spoken about marriage and I love him so very much. However, about 9 months ago I met this guy when he added me on msn by accident - I started chatting to him ... (275 words)

Should I change myself to suit him? I can sit down and enjoy the peace with him at home but he can't go out and enjoy a night out with me in the pub, which I'm used to.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 42 just divorced. I met this man 18 years older than me and we get on well. He helps me to get through my divorce when I was totally lost. I know I need someone there to ease my pain. I cant think of anything else at that time but stick to him for comfort. Who know ... (119 words)

I found the perfect guy but after some time he suddenly brakes up with me, what can I do for us to be happy again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - ok so here is my problem. ive never really been in a proper relationship before all the guys ive been linked to were always just after sex. but then i found a guy who actually wanted to be with me. things were really really good and even tho we hadnt been been together long i ... (129 words)

My online date has got the hots for me, how do I cool him down before our first date IRL so it will not only be all about sex??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been internet dating for a couple of months and find it good fun..there are lots of guys there who are only looking for sex, which you can normally find out within the first 10 mins of having a conversation. I've been talking with this guy who's really cute, we've talked ... (112 words)

My heart was ripped out and shredded, I'm now more stubborn than ever and I'm losing my friends over it. What can I do to control my hateful attitude towards men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

- hi aunts i wonder if you could all help me! The thing is im a very head strong person and ALWAYS let my oppinions be heard and stand up for what i think is right! i dont let anyone make my decisions for me and i dont let any man control me! lately though all my friends (... (518 words)

We cant control our urge for intimacy and its taking over.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I know some of you may say this isn't a problem but its getting to be one and a very unconvienent one at that. Me and my husband have been together since we were 16 and have always had a good sex life. I have to admit it has decreased a litte bit over the years but the cudd... (370 words)

Is he having an emotional affair??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband of eighteen years has moved out a few weeks ago. We had a huge row about something very serious and now, were barely speaking. He has suggested divorce. A few months ago, he was contacted by a woman whom he'd dated in high school and wanted to get in touch. He told ... (324 words)

We had a hilarious fun night but now he won't call back, why??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently went our to meet other coworkers on a night out for all of us.I met a cute guy that knew one of my coworkers.He ended up buying all my drinks and we talked for over 3 hours that night.He was the one that approached me and we had a hilarious fun night! As he was ... (255 words)

Is he trying to copy-paste me into his life with his ex? And how do I make him stop playing video games all nights long?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - Dear Cupid, hoping someone can help me. I've been in a relationship for the past 2 years. We met when he was going through a divorce. I stayed by him and have been so patient trying to help him. He's a great guy most of the time, yet I don't feel like I'm special to him. I feel ... (363 words)

We are virgins and want to loose it to each others, but how do I know she is really ready for this and not just does it anyway?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 16-17 - Hiya well i have 3 things i want to ask you but they both really come into one. Well me and my gf have been going out about 8 months and are very much in love we know each ther inside out because we have been friends since we were like 5. I stop over at hers but in a seperate ... (523 words)

How do I deal with my ex's jealous girlfriend??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 16-17 - Ok, i went out with this boy for about 2 years, and then we broke up (for out own reasons). About 6 months after this, he got another girlfriend. They have now been dating for about a year. Me and him are really good friends and now we have gone to college and he is on two o... (320 words)

How do I make myself stop bothering about how I accidently touched her while sleeping??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - I am in a bit of restlessness, I am a virgin and not had sex yet. One day I went to a party a sort of family function. It was out of station so we hired 2 to three rooms. we slept there. There was an aunty around 54 sleeping near me and I wasn't bothered. While sleeping I ... (163 words)

Is loving him enough to get back together, or should I just leave it this time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 95 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - i was with my ex for 4 yrs. in this time we split up twice before the final split. i then went travelling for a yr and am still away now (only for a week).last night i rang him (drunkenly, although i meant what i said but had been restrainign myself thus far) and told him that ... (253 words)

How do I explain to him how I feel without risking him running a mile?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - I am 24 and have not had a close partnership in 4 years. 6 months ago i meet a man i really like which was strange as i am know not to wear my heart on my sleve we become friends but both knew there was something there after meeting up every other weekend for the last 6 months ... (193 words)

How do I start approaching girls??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - am 20 and i feel that i need a gilrfriend but i dont know when and how to start.please advice.... (20 words)

What does her signals mean??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 16-17 - I REALLY like this older girl shes 17 n im 16 yet we were really close friends a year ago for about a year. But we havent talk since I kissed her. When we see each other in school n we are both alone she smiles at me sometimes says hello. But if Im having a laugh with mates... (134 words)

I miss her so much it hurts! Should I call her or should I wait to not ruin the work of getting over her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - Hey all my original post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-ex-has-been-giving-me-the-runaround.html So i've now started a new job since uni graduation, I am living in a new location, new house with new people. The thing is, I thought all this change... (359 words)

Is he just being a nice guy, or is he really interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 95 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been working with this guy for about four years now and we've always been rather friendly. Over the past two years I lost a lot of weight and it seems that the dynamic of our relationship changed a little. We grew even friendlier to the point where we tease each other ... (292 words)

My teacher told me he loves me...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 141 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - ahhh! i'm freaking out here people. my teacher told me he loves me!! i have fancied him for a while now. i know it would be totally wrong though (he isnt very young, he's not old but not young either) and he could get fired. someone please give me advice. i'm going crazy in my ... (67 words)

I am also in love with my teacher...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 151 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - Hello! I am in love with my teacher. I cannot help it. He is 10 years my senior, he is nice, funny, and attractive to me but not to most. He respects me as a person and he thinks I'm funny as well...sometimes he stares at me, then looks down and turns red. I know that it's "wr... (195 words)

I'm not used to dating and need your help to sort out what his messages might mean!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - This is a really stupid question but I've been worrying so just want some reassurance. I split up with my boyfriend of 7 years a couple of weeks ago (was a long time coming) though we are still living together and will do so until after Christmas which sucks but is necessary. ... (308 words)

I love him and don't want to hurt him, so how do I tell him in the best possible way that I cannot live like this anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - I have been in a gay relationship with my bf for over three years. He is older than I am and we love each other but for a long time now he has treated me more like a friend not a bf which is hard considering we live together and sleep beside each other every night. Loving him ... (169 words)

Transparent gel-like liquid during the early stage of oral sex. Is this to be avoided?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - usually when we start sex and she starts take mine into her mouth a transparent gel like liquid comes out of my penis and she does not like this. What is this liquid and how to avoid this coming out.... (41 words)

He constantly lets me down but I still love him. What can I do to make him understand how I deserve to be treated?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - I dont know whether to let my boyfriend go who constantly lets me down, does things behind my back which he knows i wouldn't be happy with (eg texting other girl - he cheated on me in past), im not his best friend. He has hurt me so many times and does it again and again by ... (183 words)

She broke up but says she still loves me. I'm confused, what does she want from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - Two weeks ago, my girlfriend of 18 months broke up with me. She started uni in September and seems to be having more fun there than she did with me and things became tense and she jumped ship. She told me a few weeks ago that she still loves and I love her too. But I can't help ... (108 words)

We didn't talk for a couple of weeks after an argument; soon after that, she got engaged, came back, left again. It's been a month and she's trying to contact me from hidden no. I don't know what to do.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 26-29 - i am going through the worst feeling inside ive ever had. i had been with my ex off and on for 5 years. just recently we got into an argument and didnt talk for a couple of weeks and the next thing i know she's engaged! she went on vacation across country for a week and met ... (300 words)

How can I leave him without the hurt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - My problem is that I am way too sensitive and submissive. when I love someone, I am ready to do the world for him. Sometimes even when not asked for help. Then I end up getting hurt because the only reaction to my selfless devotion is insults, abuses and a lot of hurt that I ... (147 words)

I have an OK marriage although my wife can be quite cold and unsympathetic at times. How do I avoid falling for my work-colleague?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - My mind is in some disarray at present and I am not sure what to do. I have an OK marriage although my wife can be quite cold and unsympathetic at times. I have never been unfaithful or sought to be. We live in a nice house (although with a big mortgage) and we have a young ... (363 words)

She was my babysitter.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - My questions are regarding an older woman. She is eleven years older than me. Perhaps some background would be helpful. The woman we are talking about I have known for a very long time. She was first my babysitter and then she helped me with homework throughout my jr. high and ... (512 words)

The nice boy I babysitted and tutored has become a MAN. I thought he was including me as a dear friend in his life but lately may want more. Would it be wrong to date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I don’t know how many people find themselves in my situation. My situation started with being a babysitter for a 5 year old boy. I was 16 at the time when I started babysitting him. I continued babysitting him until he entered Jr. high School. He was a nice boy who was not ... (569 words)

I am afraid to leave because of obvious financial and family issues but also worrying about my husband's depressive personality. How do I avoid feeling empty?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 158 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married for 18 years, I am 41 and he is 42. A rebound relationship I probably should have never committed to but did. He is a good person and a hard worker. We have 2 children 15,17. I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life feeling alone. I have told him ... (221 words)

How will I know when we meet again if she sees me as a friend or a potential date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a lesbian I met this girl online and we met for cofee last week, we got along well, had things in common.laughed and I thkn there was a tiny sprak there. She is a naturally friendly person. Today we went on out second meeting for lunch, not a formal "date" we go... (171 words)

I'm a teenager, I'm obsessed about sex and only like older males. Any advice?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 138 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - I'm a 15-year old girl, and I have a problem. I'm completely obsessed with sex (sure, since I'm a teenager) and have decided that I'm absolutely ready to have sex now! The problem is, I am not at all attracted to boys my age (or even boys close to my age). I really can't be ... (139 words)

How long should it generally take for a guy to orgasm during oral sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - just curious, but how long do you think a guy should last during oral sex.. im not planning to do it but i just want to know.... (28 words)

Men from Mars and Women from Venus?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

- Dear Cupid...I've been having this long distance relationship for about 3 years now planning to move in together next year. But, recently he's been very busy and we haven't seen each other over a month. For me it's been very tough, but I think he is OK about not seeing each ... (292 words)

My husband is going to prositutes and possible gay encounters! What is happening?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband of 31 years, has gone to "Mistress Nicole" for a Delicous Duo...which means she watches and he gets to blow a guy and gets anal sex... He was wild with anger that I found out thru his email account, and then denied that that was even a possibility. He blamed me ... (214 words)

I'm gay and my friend says he's straight, so why does he let me do things with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - I am gay and my friend says he is not but he lets me do something to him. is he in denial or straight guys do that?... (27 words)

Whenever I'm ready to go in it goes soft like at the snap of a finger! Please help, how do I fix this?!?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - I have a penis issue that was once a problem before i left to Iraq and i believe has just gotten worse. I can be aroused before sex, get the clothes off and condom on and ready to go in but when i do it goes soft like at the snap of a finger. What is up with that and how do i ... (88 words)

Should I tell my first cousin I'm in love with her?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 39 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - I was wondering what other people thought about this. For many years me and my older cousin(female) have been REALLY close. We've slept and cuddled together in the same bed,i often spend the night at her place,we text each other often everyday saying "I love you" etc. that sort ... (127 words)

I cant understand why the love of my life has ended it. (long story)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - hi i am looking for some help, i have just lost my first love and there is alot i dont understand. the first 10 months of our relationship were great full of love we were even trying for a baby at 1 point but we broke up once or twice in that time and ma gf would ask me back ... (607 words)

So I am exclusive to her but she can sleep with women? Do I put my foot down here?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - My Girlfriend is Bisexual. We’ve been going out for six months and I have known that she leaned both ways and accepted it. But she and I want to take our relationship to the next level. The problem is she tells me she can’t give up having sex with other girls. She wants me ... (221 words)

I am very worried, why hasn't he called me back?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I went for a party and met this cute guy. We exchanged numbers. It was after 3 weeks that we actually spoke .We went out one weekend and it was then he told me his age, 35 and I am 18 turning 19, I look more matured than my age, he looks much younger. Yet we agreed to go on and ... (213 words)

Was it me turning her down that made her into start taking drugs and disrespecting her parents? And why do I at the same time miss out on her previous crush on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - Hey, I used to work with a girl, when I was 17 and she was 14 (she's now 15 and I'm 18). She was very shy, timid and quite introverted around other people; but not with me. She was a nice girl. When she met me, she had a crush on me, (being an older guy), and basically gre... (352 words)

Do all this mean that she likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - Ok I'm quite confused...... I have reason to believe that this girl likes me....but am not sure I know her from school she is quite nice and flirty. What makes me believe that she likes me is that we talk quite a bit, she flirts with me, I dont even have to flirt bak an... (121 words)

Unhelpful cheat, we have no trust, shall I leave?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - There is no denying that I will have to leave my husband as I don’t love him any more no matter how much he tries now. The question is when and how ? I feel trapped in a prison of my own circumstances. We were university sweethearts and then we got into a long term rel... (619 words)

I've fallen in love with her again, how do I make her love me again too?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 13-15 - Dear Cupid Im 12... I liked this girl 2 years ago in 5th grade, and this was deep deep love not a little crush... I think the love came naturally because we had been best friend's since 2nd grade. Anyway, in 6th grade she asked me out and on impulse I sa... (239 words)

Help! I need a real good opening line to get to asking her out!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

17 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - Argh! Going slightly mad here guys, hope someone can help me out a little. Asked on here a week or so ago if i should get in contact with a girl who i've seen around at uni, and also seen on the uni dating website. You guys agre... (266 words)

This guy keeps staring at me but I'm not at all attracted. I hate turning people down, so what do I do if he asks me out??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

17 November 2007 (F)

age 16-17 - Ok a situation. There is a lad in one of my classes at college. Doesnt everyone say that staring is a sign that someone likes you. I noticed a couple of weeks ago that he kept staring at me. Im not really atracted to him in any way. In todays lesson he was constantly looking ... (156 words)