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Dear Cupid,
relationship help and advice

Office affair!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi - I am married but getting very close to a colleague at work. We are very flirty and becoming quite tactile. I want to take things further (she is married too). I feel we will become 'fuck buddies' soon. We get on fantastically well but are very happy in our marriages. ... (91 words)

Why has he had the sudden change of heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my partner of 3 years broke up sometime last year, I suspect he had met someone because he soon after started dating her. Well, for a whole year we remained friends and every so often he continued to tell me I should move on everytime I suggested getting back together. ... (99 words)

I miss him sooo much, what do I do, I have a very strong urge to be with him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - I was having sex with a guy on and off over 4 years (when it all started I was 18 and he was 37) I put a stop to it simply because it was harder to get away and travel the 1 and a half hours to be with him, (we both had partners and still do) Thing is I think about him 24/7 ... (217 words)

Is it normal to have a crush at my age?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I can't get this guy out of my mind.... is it normal to have a crush at my age? We are both getting divorced, his is almost finalised, mine is just beginning. Am I just focusing on him, to take my mind off the real everyday nitty-gritty matters? ... (56 words)

14 and no experiences, what is my problem?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 170 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 13-15 - hey everyone well i'm 14 and i've never kissed a girl...At school i'm kinda like the loner, tho i do have a lot of friends in my year, i'm not what you'd call popular. I see all my friends goin out n pullin girls n havin sex n everything n i get nothing, please don't tel... (174 words)

Do I tell him I like him or just leave it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - I've had crushes before, but now I'm experiencing something very different, there's a boy at school, at first when I met him, I saw him as just a friend. But suddenly I've begun to really, really like him in a whole new way. We chat, but I don't really hang around with him, ... (124 words)

How can I shake of the tag of "nerdy boff"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 164 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 13-15 - I have always been known as the nerdy boff and originally I was fine with this but now it has been over three years and I am basically tired of it. Can anyone suggest how I can get rid of this unwanted stereotype? Any help would be very much appreciated. thanks.... (51 words)

We are sooooo connected yet he doesn't want to call me his girlfriend... yet!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - Dear Aunt, I and 24 and have been dating this 27 year old guy for like 2 months. Our chemistry is too great. Of all the people I have know, have never come across so connected to anyone. We both came out of bad break ups. I know he really likes me cause it shows. But somethin... (162 words)

Should I text him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - Ok just a quick problem. I was going out with a guy I really liked for 5 months. He broke up with me because he didn't have time for a relationship but ended up going out with another girl. He is texting me again asking how I am and stuff. Should I tell him where to go or text ... (74 words)

How can I support her without giving off mixed signals??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - First a little background: I am happily married with 3 children. About 3 months ago a young woman started working in another department in my company. Due to her job, I see her several times a day, and over time I became quite friendly with her, and on occassion a little ... (179 words)

Am I justified in feeling like this or selfish??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi, I have known my current boyfriend 4 years, we have been together on and off for periods of time over that four years and have a lot of history. He has a child from a previous relationship, who he does not currently see regulary, but has made the decision to move closer t... (447 words)

Does he just want all the perks with none of the restrictions??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 18, and have been "dating" a 27 year old for almost a year. He works with teenagers, and therefore our relationship cannot be public, as he would risk losing his job and ruining his reputation. However, he also refuses to introduce me to his friends (with a few ... (127 words)

This is my second question about ex at the gym..please answer Richard

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - I first posted my question on Nov 12th and got a response from richard,,,Pls respond back to me. Ok its day 10 after my last question about this....I miss him like crazy and i did excatly what Richard said to do..not sure if it worked..Yesterday at the gym ..THIS AS NOT PL... (234 words)

First time - painful?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 104 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - does it really hurt the first time you have sex? im realy nervous and know im reddy tho.... (18 words)

Does a man feel anything emotionally for his mistress/sex partner, especially if he knows her well, yet does not love her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F) age 36-40 - When a man has sex with a women he is not in love but knows her very well, is it a different experiance to making love or having sex with his wife? What is the difference to a man emotionally in having casual sex. Sex is meaningful to women - is it to men? This may sound ... (104 words)

Anatomically correct? - the bit of skin of vaginal structure...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - ive allways had a really big bit of skin on my vagina and is bout 5 cm and hangs out of the middle its awful and its putting me off been confident around boys does anyone know of what it s and how to maybe get rid of it?... (49 words)

Why can't he invite me too when he goes out with his friends? Am I being unfair?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 170 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - hiy, i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and he has started going out with his friends in the evening once in a while, it annoys me because i dont ever go out with any friends of mine, and he didnt go out for the first 7-8 months .. it bothers me why he cant invite m... (73 words)

A boy from school said it's embarassing to be virgin. I do not agree. What do you think?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 140 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - a boy said at school in a pshe lesson that "if you are 14 and still a virgin its embarresing" although over half tutor are virgins.i dont think thats embarresing at all what do you think? its getting to me. ... (50 words)

Undressing...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - My questions involve getting undressed. When making out how will we know when it is time to remove our clothes? Should I ask him to undress or just undress him? Should we undress in the bedroom or can we strip in route to the bedroom? Should kissing be involved in undressing? ... (128 words)

Drugs and gambling!!!! How can I help them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - I need to know, how can you tell if someone close to you is using recreational drugs? What are the signs? Also my husband has a gambling adiction but wont get profesional help, what can I do?... (38 words)

He is 34 and has teenagers writing to him, am I wrong to think this is sick?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F) - I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago, and I'm trying really hard not to look at his myspace because everytime I look he has new girls and new comments, etc. Well, I was doing good for about a week, but then I just looked a few minutes ago and now I want to throw up. ... (205 words)

Was my ex hiding something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F) - Was my ex hiding something? I just broke up with my ex fiance a little over a month ago, but now I keep remembering things that he did that bother me. One time he traveled to Colorado (we were living in new york) to work on renting out one of his places. I said I wanted to go ... (382 words)

He wanted to buy his ex a present...!!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F) - Last year my boyfriend ended it with a girl he was seeing to be with me. Well, when they were seeing each other she had gotten him an expensive tool that he wanted for his birthday. So, by the time Christmas rolled around (and he was with me) he asked me if it would be okay if ... (181 words)

Does true love die?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 41-50 - If two adults truly love each other and are so miserable when they are not together and can't bare to be without the other person in their life but circumstances force them to end their relationship and not see each other, will those feelings stop or will they intensify because ... (60 words)

Help... pregnant and not getting on with partner!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi there, I am 28 and have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship, my partner is 40 and I am currently 19 weeks pregnant with his child. He is argumentative, picky, verbally abusive and nasty during arguments. We just can't seem to get on for one day and I am resenting ... (127 words)

Is my college teacher attracted to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I have a sneaking suspicion that my teacher is attracted to me. I'm 18 and he's 26. I feel like he sometimes makes roundabout attempts to single me out when asking a question or discussing something during class. He's always so interested in what I have to say. (Then again, ... (273 words)

How do I give a great blowjob?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 171 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - I really need some advice, my ex boyfriend has asked me to give him oral sex, and I don't have a problem with this at all as I still love and want to please him, but only thing is, I've never done it before and want to give him a good time, any advice so I don't mess up?... (59 words)

I'm turning into a distrustful, pscho-girlfriend... how can I stop?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello - first time using this site, and am hoping for some good advice please :-) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 and a half years and bought a flat together about 9 months ago as we were so happy together. However, we have recently been through a very tough ti... (359 words)

Is BF's ex still in love with him or just a control freak?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help feel like im going crazy Met my bf over a year ago, he has been divorced from his ex wife for 7 years, at the time she was coming round to his flat daiy, cleaning and occasionally cooking meals nd bringing them over and before my first visit she redecorated his kitc... (442 words)

New to the city. (Birmingham) How do I meet people?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - hi everyone, im back for another question.haha. well i was so impressed with the answer for the last one. :) as some of you may know im new to the area (birmingham) but i find it very hard to meet new people and make friends. i know i need to join something but i dont know ... (101 words)

Should I give the "favorite customer" my number?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

- I am 18 years old and work part time at a supermarket at the checkout. There is this guy who comes in all the time and always comes through my checkout! Always! I think he is pretty cute and he seems nice from what I have seen of him so far, from our small conversations we ... (179 words)

My ex is still harrassing me and uses others to do it for him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

- I have had it. I am so sick of my ex bf and his stupid ways of geting back at me! I broke up with him 3 months ago and he is still making attempts to get my attention. I broke it off because he was abusive. Anyway, he got his friends to send me nasty messages and since I didn't ... (289 words)

..Still completely in love with my ex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - My ex is four years older than I am and we dated for over two years, about a year of which became long distance when he moved to complete his education. When we broke up, he'd been going out with his current girlfriend for over half a year already. It's been almost half a ye... (254 words)

He's shy. How do I let him know I like him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - How do I let a shy guy know that I like him? How do I tell him that I wont hurt him, and I like him for who he is? I dont want this to go wrong, cos I seriously like this guy! Any advice would be great....thanks!... (54 words)

Divorced and with a high sex drive. Should I have sex with the mate I'm dating to satisfy my needs or wait for someone I really love to do it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - Im 39 just divorced my husband. We've been married for 14 years. I've no regret to divorce him. The problem is I have very high sex drive. I have no sex life for 9 months now and find it hard to bear. I am dating a man at the moment but I dont love him. Should I have sex ... (84 words)

I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate... I am devastated!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate, I am devestated (an understatment) things havent been good between us but I was really trying to make things work, However he is adament that it is over. I cant sleep eat function. The ... (170 words)

My boyfriend can't climax with me... What am I doing wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - i have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and i cant get him to climax. in all the time that we have been together i swear i can count it on one hand how many times it has happened. he isnt my first and with the others i had no problem. is it me?what am i doing ... (72 words)

He lied about how many sexual partners he had. Why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

- Hi - advise needed. Well by boyfriend told me 3 yrs ago that he had only ever slept with 1 other person (his ex of 1 yr) before we started dating, now hes telling me he slept with 6 other woman before me!!! Im confused about how i now feel. I never thought he would lie to ... (108 words)

Suspected: The Cheated Becomes The Cheater...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 170 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi All, I appreciate all the comments on my original post about the break up (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-get-loads-of-attention-from-other-girls.html). Yesterday evening I found out she’s been seeing someone else for the last month or so behind my back. To be hone... (880 words)

My boyfriend has sent intimate photos of us to his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend took some pictures of us in an intimate pose with my consent. However he recently sent these to his ex girlfriend I have confronted him about this and he is very sorry and says he has never done anything like this before and will never again the thing is I dont ... (65 words)

Husband seems to have no interest in me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone I'm new around here,and need some help on this issues!! I'm due to go to psychologist to get a professional help, but in the mean Time I'd like to share this with you and get different opinions. I've been married for 4 years, and I'm pregnant for the second ... (693 words)

My wife's long ago BF still loves her.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 51-59 - A married guy who is a former suitor of my wife still claims he loves my wife and have been telling her and their common friends about this. My wife does not love this guy but has a sympathetic attitude towards him and treats him as a special friend especially after learning ... (540 words)

Got a kind of crush on my BF's friend. He is flirty with me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - I have a bf and he has a really close friend. This friend also has a gf. However, when my bf's not there, his friend, who is also my friend, flirts with me. He hugged me all the time, and finally kissed me on the lips recently where no one saw us at school! I asked him why he d... (105 words)

I had never cheated before in my life and now that it's happened it must surely mean the END of my marriage? Is there any hope now that I've done this, which he does not know?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, does it count as cheating say if : you are married, your husband walks out with no real reason for 2 months, you go back when he asks you, but find it hard to deal with. You leave him for 3 weeks and you are intimate with another man. You then go back to talk with ... (174 words)

The more my husband is promoted, he becomes more critical, insulting, demanding. I'm ignorant compared to his knowledge, and if I leave he'd take my children away from me. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - where do I begin.... I have been married for almost 5 years. I have two beautiful children and thought myself to be happy... and yet the more my husband is promoted, he has become more critical, more insulting, more demanding, more controlling. If he does not get what he wants... (228 words)

My bf is married. We are always thinking about each other, should I feel guilty? Please advise.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are constantly together and when ... (82 words)

Broke up many times, but still want him back. Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 164 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - ok, me and my ex boyfriend got 2gether 6 times and only got back 2gether 5times.its bin a week since we boke up and all i can do is think of him.i have never felt so special about a guy b4.i tried everything to get over him but its doesnt work!!he was so nice and i had/have so ... (212 words)

Being the older cousin... I have to give my little cousin (14) tips about making out. Any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 170 days ago

22 November 2007 (M) age 16-17 - hey my little cousin is 14 and hes been asking me on tips on making out for the first time. any help on what to tell him or a web site i can go to(no porn). K thanks!... (38 words)

She's dating a guy but I still feel we have a certain chemistry.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 16-17 - Okay, well. I am a girl, and I am attracted to another girl who we'll call "Zoe". She's my best friend Kris's other best friend, and we didn't really know each other for the first two years of high school. Just a few months ago, she started talking to me, and we've gotten quite ... (232 words)

My bf keeps talking to his ex's, what should I do??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - I need some advice in a hard situation. My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years, and we have a 3 year old together. I have always thought of him as "the one" but about a year ago, we started having major issues....so we called off our wedding that we had planned, ... (227 words)

My erection goes as fast as it arrives... help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - I have a full hard on im fingering my girlfriend then i take my pants down and gone... what should i do it's killin me... (26 words)

I've lost his trust through lying about my past...how can I reassure him I'm now telling the truth??

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 167 days ago

22 November 2007 (?) age 18-21 - Ok, I messed up. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months. Of those, we've been having issues for about 8 months. I sorta sensed from the begining that he would dissaprove of my past. It's not a terrible past, but it involves a mutual friend. He also dislikes that I h... (364 words)

My gf has a very high sex drive, whereas I do not. What do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 16-17 - ok so this might sound kinda strange. my girlfriend has a very high sex drive i mean you could call her a sex nympho thats how she is, now the problem is that i just dont enjoy sex very much and have a very low sex drive. so my question is, what do i do? i mean i love my g... (98 words)

What can I get him for Christmas to show him how I feel??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 13-15 - Ok here we go.....don't laugh lol.......im 13 and there is this guy......i love him soooo much and i think he likes me to.......i want to get him something special for christmas in hopes that he will ask me out on a date or something.......i really care for him and i think a ... (74 words)

My gf has a rather promiscuous past, she says those guys were a mistake but still holds on to those memories. Should I be worried?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, I (25) have been with my girlfriend now for 6 months and we are very very serious.. She (24) was a bit promiscuous in the past but has now devoted herself to me!! She still is friends with these guys and had some pictures of them on her computer that I erased. She says ... (77 words)

Do I just let her go??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - hello, i broke up with my ex about 4 months ago... We argued all the time and made up just as often. She would say the sweetest things and would do anything i'd ask her to. She would always say she had tunnel vision when she looked at me., she would marry me. I reminded her o... (238 words)

How do you stop thinking about someone you can never have??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 126 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - I go to grad school, am 25, have a steady boyfriend for 3 years now (though he is 5 states away), and am desperately in love with someone else. The only thing is, this guy is the teacher for my writing class, he's probably in his early to mid 30's, and gosh, I can't get him ... (321 words)

He asks me if he decides to go out with some other girl "should I hide it or should I tell you right upfront?" Why is he doing this? Just to have a reaction?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been seeing this guy for the past 10 months. He can be very sweet and I think I love him well. The problem is that he keeps saying that he doesn't belong to anyone and more sometimes he tells me about the girls he "used to have a crush on" or about the girls that hit o... (136 words)

I had sex 2 weeks ago and have been extremely tired and nausead ever since. We used a condom with spermicide. Could I be pregnant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I had sex with this guy 2 weeks ago. I have been extremely tired and nauseated ever since. We used a condom with spermicide. Do you think there is a chance I could be pregnant or justed stress out worrying about. I know I should get a test to see, but its almost like I ... (82 words)

Ladies, what are your thoughts about tattoos? Can tattoos have a negative effect upon obtaining dates?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 16-17 - Hey, so I'm wondering what most girls think of tattoos. I've already got one, a cross on my right bicep and I've never heard any complaints about it. But this Christmas I'm looking at getting a koi fish done on my forearm (half sleeve), and eventually I plan on get... (108 words)

How to get over these feelings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 18-21 - Is it possible to get over someone that is so...perfect for you, yet everything is so against you, there's not a chance of being together? The person I am talking about is my best friend. I was definitely interested in him before we became close as friends but opted to for... (287 words)

Am I wasting my best years by not having sex?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 18-21 - I'm in my teens. Now is the best time to be having Sex, and I'm not! I was not so long ago, and I think I took Sex for granted because I was enjoying my girlfriends company so much. Am I wasting my best years?? Do many guys suffer this when it comes by?? Should I be suff... (66 words)

I am scared to try this.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

22 November 2007 (?) age 16-17 - hey. i have been with my boyfriend now for a little over a year and we have stated having sex. we have only been exually avtive for about 6 weeks and its ok so far. but my boyfriend recently asked me if i would like to perform some role plays with our sex lives and make thi... (229 words)

Is he overly lazy, or am I over-analyzing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

22 November 2007 (F)

age 22-25 - My boyfriend is a lovely, kind person, but he irritates me with his lack of ambition, lack of hygiene, and terrible diet. He is a slob, who earns more than me, but ends up borrowing my money, which is a drain on a student like me. He has put on so much weight in the two years ... (89 words)

I cheated, it will never happen again, but the guilt is driving me crazy, how can I go on like this?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 69 days ago

22 November 2007 (M)

age 22-25 - Hi everybody....Im coming to you a as a cheater. I feel like such a horrible person. Although I know Im not, I made one terrible mistake. The worst I have ever made in my life. I have been with my GF for a little over 3 years, and cheated on ONE occasion about 6 months ago.I ... (572 words)