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writes:Ok a situation. There is a lad in one of my classes at college. Doesnt everyone say that staring is a sign that someone likes you. I noticed a couple of weeks ago that he kept staring at me. Im not really atracted to him in any way.In todays lesson he was constantly looking at me, and i kept checking cause im sort of insecure and self concious. Im afraid that he might like me, and because eye contact works both ways, he might think i like him back because i keep checking. Today he was really cheerful after about an hour into a lesson, is this because i kept looking at him??I really dont want him to like me because i dont like him. And if he asks me out i dont know what i will do because i hate turning people down and making them upset. Help me anyone please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): I wouldn't lie - just be honest and say you don't think of him in the same way and it wouldn't the right thing to do. I've been lied to by girls before and only made an idiot of myself (she told she didn't want to go out with me as the timing wasn't right, so i tried to be friends with her and it became clear she didn't want anything to do with me)
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reader, sujoy  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 Hi, first of all what you have to do is doesnt give importance to that guy staring at you. Be comfortable, dont let him feel that you know that he is looking you. Do it till he approaches you. If he doesnt approach you dont get bothered . If he approaches you tell him that you like another guy and not in a position to think about anybody else.. Dont tell him that you are not interested in him.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (17 November 2007):
 I had that problem at work, like you I knew the guy fancied me but I didn't like him, when he finally asked me out I said I didn't know him very well. 2 weeks later he asked me out again, me being a idiot and like you didn't want to hurt he's feelings so I said yes. In the end I said I couldn't go out with him as I didn't feel attracted too him. Don't do what I did, lead him along till the end. If he asks you out, which he will. Say no, not maybe just no. Feel flattered though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): It's simple: tell him you already have a boyfriend. Whether it's true or not doesn't matter. It'll save both of you a lot of embarrasment if he asks you out, and, since you're in college and not high school, there's no way for him to know you're fibbing. I don't normally condone lying, but in a case like this I think it makes the situation much less akward for all parties.
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