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writes:i am going through the worst feeling inside ive ever had. i had been with my ex off and on for 5 years. just recently we got into an argument and didnt talk for a couple of weeks and the next thing i know she's engaged! she went on vacation across country for a week and met a guy on a blind and then the next week when she came back home he flew in and asked her to marry him and she said yes! so just 3 weeks ago i saw her 2 days before she left to live with him and she was all over me telling me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me. so i was willing to take her back then the next day she changes her mind and goes to be with him. she's been there like a month and now shes starting to call me again and shes blocking her number and im trying my best not to answer. i am just so confused and i love her so much. even though shes done so much wrong to me i would probably still take her back. i love her more than anything in the world and ive never been like this before over a girl. ive tried to go on a couple of dates but i just compare every girl to her and noone compares. weve broken up before about 2yrs ago for 5 months and i felt the same way. i just am very upset and not myself at all and dont really know what to do. if anybody has any good advice for me please dont hesitate. thanks for your time, vols9807
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reader, JustaGuy  +, writes (17 November 2007):
Hey,god I think out ex's are related! I know exactly how you feel, I have been on/ff with my ex since early this year. One day she tells me she loves me and that I am her world, the next she is blunt telling me over the phone she does'nt want me in her life!! I have taken her back a couple of times and its always ended in me getting my heartborken again. Perhaps you should really search deep and ask yourself is this the kind of flippant love you want? If you take her back, how long until the next upset? In terms of commitment is she giving you what you want and deserve? I know how hard it is, its easy to look back at the good times and blank out the bad ones. Look at how she has treated you. It appears she does'nt know what she wants. If she came back and told you she loves you, would you truly belive her? I know I would have a voice in the back of my head telling me it might be true now but - what about tomorow?I really feel for you, even though I hate how my ex has walked all over my heart I still care for her and would consider taking her back! When its good its good, when its bad its worse.So i guess my advice would be to continue to hold off contact for a while, at least until she is back in the country. If you can, break all contact and find someone who can give you the commitment you deserve!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Hi mate. Well, she is a prize A head doer! You said she was argueing with you and went. Sorry but i think she knew this guy before and the arguement was just and excuse to go and be with him. She wants you, then she doesnt. Change your phone numbers and dont ever get in touch with her. Under no circumstances have her back. Stop comparing others with her. How do they compare? Are they all relationship breaking little sluts??? Er, no, i dont think so. Move on and never get in touch with her again. You so deserve better and you will get it if you just stop thinking that you love her. She cannot of loved you or she would still be with you.
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