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Is he just being a nice guy, or is he really interested in me?

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Question - (17 November 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I've been working with this guy for about four years now and we've always been rather friendly. Over the past two years I lost a lot of weight and it seems that the dynamic of our relationship changed a little. We grew even friendlier to the point where we tease each other and such. He's also tells me quite a few personal things about his past (and I'm not really sure if he's told anyone else at work about some of these things).

More recently (I'd say over the course of 3-4 months), he'll stand a little closer to me sometimes or sometimes he'll briefly touch my arm when he walks by or stands near me. Every once and a while he'll pat my shoulder when he sees I'm having a bad day. Sometimes he'll say things like "You look nice today," when I'm just wearing jeans and a sweatshirt or "Your hands are soft," when I hand him something. He also talks about everything he does for our department, like he's trying to prove something to me. I remember telling him two weeks ago that I would go to the company Christmas party, but I'd feel dumb going by myself (I'm not in a relationship). A week later he asked if I wanted to go with him (we've been kinda treating it like a farse at work).

He's a genuinely nice guy and is friendly to everyone. I guess I'm just not sure whether he's just being a nice guy or if he's interested in me as more than a friend. Just want to get some oponions on what this all might mean.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (8 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntI think he is more than a nice guy . He seems interested in you but is unsure of your signals.Maybe , you need to have more time together.

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