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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello!I am in love with my teacher. I cannot help it. He is 10 years my senior, he is nice, funny, and attractive to me but not to most. He respects me as a person and he thinks I'm funny as well...sometimes he stares at me, then looks down and turns red. I know that it's "wrong" and against the law, and I have read a lot of other people's questions and answers that are in the same dilemma...but I honestly don't know what to do. There was one person's story that really touched me about how she fell in love with her teacher who was 8 years her senior, but waited till after she graduated and they got together sometime later and are now engaged to be married! I really enjoyed that story. So, please answer and tell me what to do, but please don't just tell me that it's illegal because I won't engage in any relationship while at this school; I know I shouldn't. I would prefer any uplifting anecdotes or honest but kind advice about this, it sort of makes me sad to think how we cannot be together.
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reader, lookingatyou  +, writes (14 December 2007):
ive been there, done that with my teacher so i understand. he was ten years older than me and we had a 2 1/2 year relationship. my only advice would be- keep it real, keep it non sexual. Some other teachers knew at my school, but they were fine about it because they knew there was a lot of respect there- i was 18, he was 27. And we never ever acted inappropriately in school. i told another teacher - his friend that i had genuine feelings for him, and we sat down and spoke to each other about exchanging numbers when we leave. it can happen, but only if you play it right. Be mature, be cool. If its meant to happen, it will. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for answering my question, you have helped me sort this out more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): Subsequent to the anonymous answerer, over the years, this teacher, along with everyone else in the staff room, will have pupils queuing up to tell them how they feel about them. If every teacher took up their offers of 'friendship and more' they'd have the equivalent of a harem with females on tap for the rest of their natural lives.
I'm in the wrong job. (:o)
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): You've said it all in your last sentence. You cannot be together. By the time you've grown up you'll have forgotten all about him, and he'll have forgotten about you long before that. He's out of bounds, and you know it.
Phil
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