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writes:I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down. And I find that I'm only attracted to guys with a rather feminine appearance. And I wouldn't mind kissing a guy (as long as he has no facial hair + he has feminine features).But male bits just gross me out, seriously no offense, but the thought of having a guy inside me isn't a pleasant idea, and I'd rather have sex with a girl than with a guy. I don't think I could even touch a guys bits, I don't even like looking at them but i do find some guys attractive. I could see myself marrying a guy and maybe having kids but the idea of having sex with a guy grosses me out so my question is am i a lesbian or bi?
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reader, Hottie me787  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Well it's probably because your used to seeing your private part instead of a guys, and you just don't like it. Your not lesbian if your attracted to guys, but there could be a possibility that your bi!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 January 2011):
 So do you get into situations often, where the guy pulls his pants down? That's a funny way to get to know someone.
Look, genitalia are odd-looking, let's face it, some of the bits are pretty weird and do funny party tricks. (Ever see the Seinfeld where they talked about 'shrinkage'? Hilarious, but I digress.)
The thing that strikes me about your post is that you are analyzing people based on their anatomical structure, rather than how you might feel when you are with them, or if you are even indeed trying to establish intimate relationships. Do you date? Do you have friends? Do you want to be 'intimate' with someone? (Leave aside the sexual intimacy for now.)
You said how you found the male genitalia rather unappealing. You didn't say you were sexually aroused by female genitalia or that you wanted to be sexual with a woman. So I'm not getting that you are a lesbian, or that you are bi.
Why would you want to marry a guy if you don't want to kiss him or have sex with him? That doesn't really compute.
Have you ever kissed a guy? Have you ever kissed a girl? And one more thing, could you please reconfirm your age for me? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): You're probably a lesbian or just inexperienced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): It doesn't automatically mean you're into women it might just be lack of experience talking.
I used to feel a little weird about touching a guy "down there" when i was a teenager but when i started having sex that all changed.
If you're a virgin it might be because you're not sure what to expect.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (25 January 2011):
You may sexual orientation issues. I personally think female genitals are far less "attractive" than a penis and scrotum. I'll also add that I find circumcised penis' more pleasant than the uncut variety. I've only had partners that are circumsised for that very reason.
The only ways you are going to have children of your own is either invitro or sexual interource with a man. There's nothing wrong with being a lesbian or bi-sexual if that's your preferance. By anatomy, men are penetrators whereas true lesbians don't want any penetration. If you find male genitalia offensive, disgusting and the thought of having them inside you isn't pleasant. It very well could be that you are a lesbian.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Don't know. My guess is, if you find them attractive, then it's not that you don't like them. There's something about sex that turns you off.
I can relate, however, to the idea of not wanting to touch another guy's bits, or having sex with them. Girls, them I do like a hell of a lot.
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