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writes: Dear Cupid,I really need to know if I am "normal" and if this problem I have is common among married men.Cut the story short, I have been having sexual fantasies about my wife's older sister for almost a year now. I'm so afraid its getting unhealthy as I seem to do so almost on a daily basis now. It started when my wife was away for almost half a year, and during that time, I was of course physically lonely. Some things led to this problem I'm having: first a sexual dream about my sister in law which became more frequent. Then she called one morning while I was "doind my business" and her voice on the other side heightened the experience. Of course she didnt know what I was doing. But the daily sexual fantasies continue.My thoughts of her involve images of her when she was in her mid 20's to 30. She is now 36 and looks vastly different so I hope it is just that - a fantasy of an imagined person.Lastly, I must add I have never cheated on my wife. One other important thing to note is that my wife has lost her appetite for sex following her pregnancy and child delivery last year so I have been somewhat depreived for a rather extended period.is it abnormal for me to start thinking about her sister sexually? is this a reaction to fill the void? Is it normal that I actually entertain the idea of "setting up" some sexual interaction with my sister in law, via internet, or non-contact sex? What worries me most is this: in my state of deprivation, I actually think of the possibility of sexual interaction with my sister in law but limited to cybersex, or even oral and mutual masturbation to fill the sexual void I am experiencing. Do I talk to her about it? a little over a year without sex is not at all easy!I love my wife very much and prior to her second pregnancy last year and the birth of our second child, our sex life has been very active and normal.Help its driving me nuts!Benjamin T.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Well it all started when I was dating my wife. We were both Juniors in highschool while her sister was a freshman. I never had a thing for her but when I would go over after work and visit outside her sister was always there and we seemed to get along. After things got serious with my now wife and pregnant I ended up moving in for a short time. I had seen her in just a towel several times and thought nothing. Then I noticed around that september same year that my now sil was flirting with me. She would come in and sit on my lap while watching TV, and bending over in front of me, and the walking around in long shirts thing happened more often. A couple weeks before Christmas she was sitting in my lap and she started talking about the decorations on the x-mas tree which was too my left. I said yeah I like that ornament and touched it. It fell off the tree. She turned left into me and reached across me breasts in my face and started grinding into my crotch with her butt. I was so uncomfortable I could not get hard on. That nite when I got home though I had blue balls as she sat on my lap all nite moving her butt around.
There were a few instances here and there as we have moved out but I had seen her in a towel here and there and she would still run upto me and jump in my arms and hug me and she still sat in my lap sometimes.
After she got serious with her boyfriend that all stopped. He may have said something I don't know.
One day when I was at her parents I had to go into the room for something I noticed a section of blinds missing from the blinds.
Since my in laws moved a block away from us I started going over there at nite waiting for them to get home hopeing to see something. Then one nite they came home and she changed in the bedroom and I got to see her.
At that point the infatuation was on full throttle.
They had a falling out with the in-laws and moved in with us about 3 months later...
One day I had this bright idea of using a mirror to peak into the bathroom.
I set up had everything ready and waited for the right time. Then one day home for lunch she went to take a shower. She closed the door and I immediatly ran for the mirror and made my way downthe hall. I kneeled down and placed the mirror at the edge of the door and started to look. She was bent over the tub turning on the water and was completly naked. Her pussy was perfectly shave, she had nice plump breasts that were hanging down and I was in heaven. That was until she looked back and noticed the mirror. She froze as did I. I sat there for a brief moment and got up and backed into my sons room.
The bathroom door opened and she came out in just a towle. She walked upto me and just stared at me for a couple minutes and then went back into the bathroom.
I was mortified. A couple days went by and nothing was said.
I got brave again and this time waiting till she was in the shower did the same as the shower curtain was see-through and watched her shower without knowing.
That went on for some time until she caught me. And then a couple weeks later she caught me again.
Nothing was ever said. I later realized the mirror was reflecting some of the bathroom lite back onto the shower curtain.
I dream about her I think about her she takes up most of my thoughts. She lives far away now but still when they come to visit I am trying to figure out ways to peep on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Wow, how did I find this site? I've been married 26 years, never really knew my sil because I was in the military and never near her. She is 4 years younger than my wife, whom I married when she was 21, so her sis was 17, skinny, gawky, ackward and immature at that time. The next time I saw her, she was 32, and hot, hot HOT. 2 kids didn't affect her body, she had grown up and was slender, athletic and very cute. We stayed at her house for 2 nights, and behind my wife's back, we flirted, and I beleive if the opportunity had been there, we would have had sex, but it was not to be. The next time I saw her, I had retired, and we invited her up, kids grown, divorced, to live with us. She was 39, and still looked great, and dressed pretty skimpy, tight, and short shorts, or skirts, very feminine, smelled delicious and girly, just the way I like them. My wife and I were OK together, but after being married for so long, we just took each other for granted, and when her sis moved in,,,,,oh my. The flirting started right away, behind my wife's back again, we had a hot tub, and all three of would get in. One day it just happened, my wife was gone, I came home and sil was in the hot tub, naked, and invited me in. We ended up having fantastic sex right there on the deck, and it didn't end, every chance we got alone, we were doing it, and she was hot, nasty and so sexy. After about a month, my wife pretty much caught on and confronted us, and we didn't deny it. She asked her sis to leave, she did, but I would do her again and again and again and my wife knows it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): I have been in love with my wife's brothers wife for 43 years,
We have never had sex but we do tease a lot and I have seen her naked not to mention a few years ago we owned a two door car and she and my wife would ride in the back seat and when I tilted the back seat forward for her to get out O always got a shot of her panties in between her legs.
When she calls my house to talk to my wife if I answer she tells me what color her panties are.
Would I have sex with her? I don't think so but you never know. She has told me that she would like to see me in her panties and on my knees. That was a big turn off for me. I think she dominates and petticoats her husband. So I try to avoid her as much as I can.
Should you go alll the way with your sil NO by all means don't do it. If she begins to feel quilty about it she will tell in a heart beat. Do you really want to live throught a divorce. I don't think so. Remember every good looking girl is some guys headache or some guys bitc*
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): My sil is a major hottie and I not only want to fuck her so bad it hurts, but I honestly have much stronger feelings for her than I thought possible. She often comes to me for advice and has flirted on more than one occasion. I love my wife, but can't understand how I can have such strong feelings for both. I know that acting upon my feelings would be wrong and I don't think I could ever do it, but man do I want to experience making love to her just once. I almost always imagine her when having sex with my wife, or I fantasize about both of them. I guess I will have to settle for loving her in my imagination, thankfully I have a very good imagination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): I too have very frequent fantasies about my sister in law. She's smart, funny and we get along great. Her sister often comes to me for advice and she is admittedly wanting a relationship like ours, we rarely fight and get a long fairly well. My sil is incredibly hot and I she has flirted with me on a few occasions. I love my wife and admit that I have strong feelings for my sil, but I don't think I could actually act on my lustful feelings. Though I must admit that I would love to just once experience making love to my sil.
I think about her daily, including when I am having sex with the wife. I don't think anything could ever come of it, but it is weird having such incredible feelings for two women at the same time. If I could combine everything I love about both of them into a single woman she would be my dream come true.
But alas I will have to settle for loving my sil only in my imagination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): I don't know if lusting over my (our) sister-in-laws is bad or normal or healthy, but with the answers so far, I believe it IS normal.
I've been married for 5 years now and me and my wife have been together for a total of 10 years. When I met her sister before (who happens to be her twin-sister - but they're paternal not identical twins) I never really thought "damn, she's so pretty." Until I had the chance to live with them in one dormitory back in college. There, I started to notice her beauty. I started to lust over her when my wife got pregnant and all that stuff. I used to peep on the bathroom window and see her precious while she took a bath. When I masturbate, it's her I think of. I even videotaped her once when she was also taking a bath and masturbated on it several hundred times already. She is so lovely and successful and sexy and I definitely want to fuck her. The one thing you people don't have in you sister-in-laws is mine being a virgin. I know. She's a little conservative. Goes to church every Sunday and stuff like that. (But you know these type of girls. Once you get started with the "deed" they'll tend to be unstoppable.) She had had 2 boyfriends and yet nobody has ever taken her to the next level. We're all living together in one roof and every time everybody's sleeping already, I just want to go to her room and just take advantage of her deep slumber. Which I did once and man, it was awesome. She sleeps without a bra and just shorts and she tends to bring her shirt up so that her BIG boobs is out (but nobody will notice that - because she wraps herself with a blanket - unless they are me, and I used to slide my hand underneath the blanket and just work my way to her boobies). I once sucked her nipples when one night she came home so tired from work, wasn't able to eat, and just went straight to her room. I thought to myself then, "I'm ready to die now." because I just sucked her nipples without her even feeling it. I know she knew that given just the slightest of chances, just the slightest, I'll fuck her. She flirts sometimes. I remember one time there was this one big occasion in our house and everybody got drunk (boys) and tipsy (girls). I recall I caught her giving me glimpses with a smile that makes me hard whenever I think of it (like now when I'm writing this). I want to fuck her really. But I don't know how will I go about it. As one reader said, tell her that and it could easily bring down the house. I love my wife. But I want to fuck her sister for life. I want to be the one who show her what it's like to have sex. And when I do it, I'm gonna eat her pussy like I've never eaten a pussy before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): dont do it. my sister in law is always trying to bait me into making a move on her, but i know the type of person she is. she's always talking about other peoples business and is loud as i dont know what. she'seen through numerous relationships and her marriage ended in a terror because her husband couldn't take it anymore. she's now married to this guy in prison and when he gets out in 30 days he's going to run for the hills also. your sister in law is just trying to ruin your happiness because she never can find any of her own and like they say misery loves company. just stick to your wife and if you must fantasize let it just be that. remember they both came from the same parents so all your doing is getting the same thing. the skills might be different but that's all. my wife sister boobs are bigger than her's but my wife's butt is more plump than her sister's. it's all in your mind. stay away and don't make the mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Hello guys. My name is Sheila, I once caught my younger sisters boyfriend (now her husband) playing with my panties. He was very infatuated with me and when I confronted him he confessed tohave been jacking off with my panties and pantyhose for a few years. He even said sometimes he would put my clothes on just so he could pretend he was close to me. Well it turned me on so much that I had sex with him right then and there. That was 12 years ago adn we are still having our f****** sessions. I get very turned on by the way we have sex. It is very dirty and if anyone ever found out I would be labeled a whore or slut (not just because he is my sisters husband but because of what I am willing to do). He has taken me to parties where he shared me with his friends and some strangers. I love it. He has turned me into a sex monster. The other night we were talking about other people and he said he would love to be with his wifes twin sister ( my other sister). Any way if she keep quite like I have then I say you should do it.Love Sheila
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): dont do it. my sister in law moved in with us for a while and all she do is run her mouth. she has a habit of wearing skimpy night gowns when she needs money or some sort of favor. any other time she dressed like the holy mary sleeping in sweat pants and regular tee shirt. its just a fantasy and dont follow through with it or you will be sorry. its just a fantasy and keep it that way. go and spend as much time with your wife as you can and forget about your sister in law. its not worth it. she will tell as soon as she can or she will blackmail you for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): I too have had sexual desires for my sil.I have been married for 5 yrs.I have been with my wife for 9 years.I am 24 my wife is 27 my sil is 24.Sometimes when i see my sil i just cant help thinking about banging the piss out of her.Im not possitive but i think she may know that i would screw her if she gave me the chance.My sil lives directly in front of me and i see her everyday.Here recently she has been spending the night with my wife when i work 3rd shift.I will come in in the morning and there she is in my bed asleep.The other morning i came in and her shirt was pulled up over her boobs,I just stood there contemplating on if i should touch them or not.I ended up chickening out.About 2 yrs ago i had got off work and me and some friends of mine went out drinking.I came home to find my sil in my bed beside my wife.So me being good and liquored up i decided that i would wake her to see if she wanted to fuck.So i layed in the bed beside her and put my hand on her stomach causiously waiting to be rejected.She took my hand and put it down her panties,As i began to rub her pussy she rolled towards me and grabbed my cock.I started pulling her pants off and the damn alarm clock went off.She reached over and cut it off immediatly and we stopped everything right then.Realizing what had happened the next morning i was scared shitless,but she has never said anything about that night.I am confused because I dont know if she remembers that happening or not.I have never been good at picking up on females giving u the "lets get it on signs"but my sil does and says things that some would consider to be inappriate,like when im in bed and she comes over she ask me if i want her to climb in the bed with me, in front of my wife,or she comes out to our house in a robe and nothing else to borrow my wifes cloths,and makes a point to say you know u want me,or walking around in nothing but a thin t-shirt and no bra knowing damn well her nipples are showing.I just dont know if it would be a wise decision to persue this.One thing is it is just a sexual fantasy,she has nothing else i would be interested in.Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, bucdotcom  +, writes (4 September 2007):
man i feel you all of you guys. i will skip past the similarities in what has been mentioned already to the twist in my situation which is: my wife, who is very sexy at 24, has an older twin sister, who is just as attractive. now these sisters are different. my wife being the somewhat sucessful one and her sister being the now so sucessful one. this drives the jeliousy. its as if her sister is trying to get my to break.
we are all 24 and my wife and i have been married for 6 years now (well, in december), so this has been going on for some time now. i am telling you...S M O K I N...
this is a bad thing, i know. i am worried that my wife will pick up on HER doing something and will automatically blame me as having instigated. NOTE: aside from all of this, our marrige is great. we have two beautiful children who are above average intelligence. we cant ask for more from a marriage. its just this evil twin bum sister.
i thought i was alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): if i were you guys i would not do it. its the same as your wife. maybe she might have more of a package put together but in the end its the same vagina. they both came from the same sets of parents. and what if your sister in law has a sexual disease? now you have given it to your wife and she will know where you got it from. my sister in law use to push her breast up against me acting like she was trying to kiss my kids when i would hold them, and after i realize what she was doing i started avoiding her. i am so happy i did because this women cant keep the missing letter of the alphabet to herself. her mouth is so big and she is constantly complaining and always thinks she is right. this is what i put up with now that she stays with us. dont do it!!!!!!!! it will be the worst mistake of your life
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I think it is very healthy. I have had strong feelings for my sister-in-law since we first met, and this was before i started dating my wife. I loved everything about her, and i still do. The way she talks to me, the way she deals with everything and the way my emotions change greatly depending on the mood she is in, it's great.Me and my wife have a nice relationship, we argue occasionly, but who doesn't, and we have some good times. But after a month or so, all of my feelings always seem to go straight back to her sister, and everyday i think about what to do.We get on great, and have flirted many times. I know she likes me too because we talked about it before and i have even spent the night at her place before, after she made all the moves.I hope there aren't too many men like me out there who do nothing about this, because a love like this is too precious to ignore, and somehow i have been ignoring it for 5 years. 5 years too long to be honest, but too scared of the obvious circumstances, what can i do.I hope no-one else has to go through this, and good luck with your problem mate x
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reader, benjamin +, writes (15 August 2007):
benjamin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your input everyone. Problem solved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): I'm glad other guys are talking about shaging their wife's sisters, as I am ashamed at myself for having done this. My wife is korean and her younger sisters are even more beutiful than her. Big hot boobs too, my wife's are small. So anyway her younger sister comes over to our country and decides to travel around the South. While she was at a hostel one night she shagged a guy and made the mistake of telling my wife, who then told me. I thought she was really virginal and the news drove me mad with lust. After travelling she stayed at our house about a month and I tried hard as I could to get her staying up late and drunk, and finally it worked. my wife was asleep and I shagged her on the sofa, she was so drunk she couldn't really remember and actually complained to my wife about having a sore pussy in the morning. Her father is really traditional and protective, and if he ever found out he would definately try to kill me. Not learning my lesson I tried to shag her other sister but the same method when she came to visit, but I had to hastily stop as her sister grew suspicious of my intentions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): This article dates back almost 2 years. Still, Good Stuff.I have been fantasizing about my girl friends sister for a few months now. The funny thing is that I kissed her before I started dating my girl friend. It was in grammar school. The other day she was over our place and she bent over to tie her shoes. She has Huge breast and I couldn’t help but to look, the bra was not big enough for her breast and I was able to see her nipples. Now I can’t stop thinking of her. I want her badly. I sometimes give her rides home and we don’t really talk in the car it is very tense. I have never made any advance so she should have no reason to be tense around me. I wonder if she feels the way I do. I love my girl, but if her sister ever wanted to I would jump on her immediately. I would love to have a secret relationship with her. The type that lasts until our graves, but I will take all the advice I read today and let her make the move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): I love my sil and her kids. She has grown up kids, and dont look her age the same as my wife - the difference is, she takes an interest in me unlike the wife. She doesnt know my feelings, neither does my wife and I would suspect it would split the family but hey, Im a guy, and she has an interest in me - my wife doesnt.
I have been married for quite some time and remember seeing my sil at our wedding reception (the 1st time we met) and thinking holy shit, i messed up.
With us guys, it aint all about sex - yeah I would love to bang my sil but at the same time its just the company - we just get on so much better. She is virtually my best mate.
People meet, people change - thats life and unfortunatly marraige - if it dont work then change it.
Me? I cant take the risk - my daughter is my priority - if a lifetime of lies for me means a good and healthy start to life for her is the price i pay, then so be it.
Avoid your sil i say - nothing is a secret forever - I love and want mine to death but even that aint worth the risk of losing what i have right now even if it doesnt please me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I think you men are all very remarkable not giving in to your Sister in Law’s sexy antics. I have been married for 30 years and most of the time I have fanaticised about her. I have phoned chat lines and got the women on the line to help me in my fantasy. Over the years I have flirted with her and let her know I want to have sex with her but nothing ever happened. Until we both retired and her husband and my wife are still working. She needed a new passport and asked me to take some digital photos of her so she could select a good one to use in her passport. During the photo shute I suggested she did just one glamour pose and she agreed saying “they mustn’t find out” so down to her panties and bra she went and I took six shots which I downloaded onto her computer. She looked very sexy for her age so I asked her to do a nude session and after a pause and looks of uncertainty off came her bra and I took a couple of shots. At this point I joined her on the couch and slipped my fingers in the leg of her knickers and eased them to one side rubbing my finger over her lips. Her arms came round my neck and we kissed with in second my cloths were off and then I slid her knickers off her and we were in a naked embrace. She slid down and lay on the couch and I eased her legs apart and climbed between. We were now making love and both having orgasms. This started us having almost daily sex together and we consider nothing is not aloud so long as we both enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): First, you need to engage your wife in conversation about sex and her current aversion. Once started, you could cautiously explore sharing your fantasies of your sil.
Depending on the strength of the marriage and your wife's reaction, maybe it's possible to have some fun with her sister. We have been married 25 years and over 5 years ago added some variation to monotony - excuse me - monogamy with very good outcomes. DISCLAIMER: This is not, however, for a troubled or fragile relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): Okay, first of all going without sex in a marriage is something that should be dealt with in therapy. That is not part of a healthy love relationship. She shouldn't just allow the marriage to nose-dive because that is what will happen. And, for your part, you shouldn't let her get all apathetic for romance, intimacy and passion. I won't say don't do it with her sister-in-law. That is your sole decision. If the marriage is completely on the rocks after therapy and time and effort to save it, then you may consider taking a break from eachother. During this time it is better that you don't start boinking her sister! If after all your efforts, you decide as a couple it's really not going to work out, and you want to pursue a relationship with your SIL (love and flowers as opposed to simply getting your rocks off to stroke your ego) then you have to bear in mind that your ex will remain part of your filial circle. All-in-all it's probably better to work on re-creating the original spark with your wife, rather than wandering off down a road of trial and error with this or that babe, cute and not so cute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): I got this obsession too, after i got heavily teased by my g/f younger sister. She made not too subtle sexual advance( lying on the couch glancing in my eyes pressing both her legs to her chest) when we were alone, it wasnt going too well with my g/f... she was 16, i was 20 and my g/f 24...I thought she wasn't exactly knowing what she was doing at the time judging her age...Afterwards, it was those cleavage leaning, those thin morning outfits, the bikinis, just her scent drives me nuts.I just avoid getting too much into alchohol..to keep things under control.Men aren't made of wood.I never really fantasized about any other women ever, until my girlfriend put a lot of weight and wouldnt want to make out. Or if i ever dare asking being replied: we did it not too long ago(being 2 weeks or more) or that long sigh.I feel like it's her who drop the physical part of our relationship in the first place, and i wouldn't feel guilty one bit for "cheating"(or taking somewhere else what she cant give me).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I haven't had sex with my wife since she had the hysterectomy. That was 4 years ago.I used to fantasizeabout my SIL, but she lives on the other side of the globe,and so she faded away after some time. Over time my sex drive declined and sex lost it's importance.Sour grapes, ok, but only partly. I tried toflirt with women -mainly younger women- but they were not all interested in a balding, middle aged plonker. I understand them.So somewhere along the line I just gave up. My wife and mehad absolutely great sex.I don't think that any other woman could give me the same thrill. Sour grapes ? Maybe.But maybe it's not bad the way it is now. I feel less pushed by my sex drive, I can focus on other things in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I haven't had sex with my wife since she had the hysterectomy. That was 4 years ago.I used to fantasizeabout my SIL, but she lives on the other side of the globe,and so she faded away after some time. Over time my sex drive declined and sex lost it's importance.Sour grapes, ok, but only partly. I tried toflirt with women -mainly younger women- but they were not all interested in a balding, middle aged plonker. I understand them.So somewhere along the line I just gave up. My wife and mehad absolutely great sex.I don't think that any other woman could give me the same thrill. Sour grapes ? Maybe.But maybe it's not bad the way it is now. I feel less pushed by my sex drive, I can focus on other things in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): This question of whether or not it is "healthy" is completely gonzo. If you describe it as a sexual obsession, then you cannot possibly imagine it is in some way also healthy. Having said that, having fantasies is perfectly normal, and probably a healthy sign of a functioning libido. The trick is to keep it as a fantasy and to enjoy it for your personal "entertainment." Your wife probably has had her share of them, too, (surprised?)in spite of the fact she may presently find herself in a slump, feeling frigid, particularly following childbirth. My SIL has so many devious ways of getting my attention, that you wouldn't believe it: braless in a loose-knit sweater ("Hey, nice nipples, I hardly noticed!"); pumping her pussy against my cock during a friendly hug ("Hey, watch it, those are the family jewels!); greeting me at her door just out of the shower, wearing only a towel, knowing my daughter was present and I couldn't touch her. ("So, I guess you didn't have a minute to put some clothes on??") You get the picture. She's scandalous and she knows it, but you know I am thankful in that this desire for her keeps me buff (jogging, working out, etc.) and makes me want to attract all women, not just her! Keep it private and enjoy it for yourself. (By the way, reality is rude!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Over the three years of my marriage to my beautiful wife, my sister-in-law has all but noticed me. She actually was somewhat rude and unaccepting of me during the courtship with my wife. Her rudeness was severe enough that I mentioned it to my then fiance several times and compared her behavior with my soon-to-be father-in-law.
I've always thought that my sister-in-law was pretty and sexy. She's got a beautiful face, a great ass, and nice breasts--not too small, but not really big either. She's athletic, but not overly. She's fairly curvy and has pretty, long brown hair. She's not a tease. She's very intelligent. She too has been married for a few years.
My wife and I have recently had a child--a beautiful, healthy little girl. She's the joy of our lives, but undoubtedly has added a lot of tension and has been challenging. Her arrival has without doubt spurred reflection on my identity as father, husband, and man. At times, I've felt very trapped and have looked at my wife with unwarranted scorn and also have lost some of my sexual desire for her. I've had thoughts of leaving her and at times, my eyes fixate on every attractive woman I encounter.
Anyway, over the last two or three family trips (to the beach, back home, Spring break), my relationship with my sister-in-law has changed. She used to chastise me, make smart comments, or generally act somewhat unfriendly. When I'd "flirt" with her physically (pinch her or playfully poke), she'd act kind of put off or a little bitchy. But over the last few family trips, that's all stopped. At the same time, I've put on my peacock strut and have tried to woo her with compassionate and gentle listening and conversation coupled with manly bravado. To some extent, it seems she's fallen for it.
On our last family meeting, just days ago, we were separated from the rest of the family for an hour or so running an errand. We had had a few drinks and had both let down our defenses. During our time alone, we chatted about this and that and for the first time in our relationship she reached over and casually touched my hands. We both acknowledged what just happened then she moved her hands and there was a short pause. Neither of us said or did anything. We finished our conversation and the errand and then rejoined the rest of the family.
That was the last night of the family trip. As we bid our farewells, she and I hugged goodbye. Her breasts pushed up against my chest. I imagined my left hand gently but firmly grasping and squeezing the back of her neck and my right hand sliding across her stomach and down her pants. We released our embrace and half-heartedly said, "It was nice to see you again."
As the family departed, we waved our goodbyes. As they walked away my eyes met hers for three or four seconds which seemed to last four or five minutes.
Now, just days later, I can't stop thinking about her, fantasize of having sex with her, and what would've happened if I would've kissed her. I regret missing the opportunity to kiss her while on our errand. Almost as frequently, I think "Thank God you haven't yet fucked this marriage up by kissing your sister-in-law!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): Yeah, I hear you guys. It's pretty much the classic fantasy scenario, especially when the SIL is younger, hasn't borne any children, works out, dresses sexy and plays up the flirtation to an art. One time in the heat of a marital spat, I too, blurted to my wife that I have resisted her sister's advances for years. Definitely a faux pas. She may have suspected it beforehand, but my admission just cut her confidence in me. I thought it would reassure her, but it had the opposite effect. We did the therapy and all and I have never to this day mentioned a word to my SIL about my feelings for her. Well, she knows! Yeah, the grass is greener, alright. She has had so many boyfriends over the years, but can't keep them because she is a manipulator and too selfish and controlling. She's beautiful and she knows it, but after a physical fling with her, the guys just run in the opposite direction. If your SIL is purring for you, it could be she wants to see if she can overpower you for her own amusement. Don't betray your wife for a player. Think with your head, not your gonads. Nourish your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): i understand where you are coming from but do not do it under any circumstances. i to have a thing for my SIL but its mostly just infactuation. before me and my wife got married i think my SIL was trying to bait me into trying to do something because she would always press her cleavage against me and see how i would respond. at first i though it was accidental but then i realize it was on purpose. after a while she stopped and her attitude changed towards me completely when i would not respond and starting avoiding her. now she is living with us and i can tell you that im glad i followed my morals and didnt do anything with her. she couldn't keep the missing letter in the alphabet a secret because she tells and talks about everything she sees and hear and do. all of her relationships and marriage have been horrible and its mostly because of her personality and attitude. i think my wife sometimes doesn't trust her and really doesn't want her living with us anymore. last week my wife did something strange to me and i realized that she did it because me and her sister had been home alone for about four hours. she doesn't have to worry about me and her sister because her sister had an S.T.D when she got married and didnt know it and gave it to her husband and now they are divorced. just imagine what would have happened if i had did it with her 4 years back. i would have got the S.T.D and gave it to my wife and then there would have been no way of hiding it. its better to be safe than sorry and if your that bad off go and get yourself and your wife some adult material and novelties and you will forget about your SIL in no time
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): maybe you need to talk to her or go to a marrige counceler!
i helps ive been there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007):
God ! I thought I was the only guilty guy thinking about my SIL !!
I'm 36 yr old, married for last 7 years. My wife has lost all her sex drive after two deliveries and some health problem to my kid. I feel I've lost her completely. Nowadays, our sex is just mechanical that too after a lot of prodding !
Don't know if it is the 7 year itch or what ? I am going crazy over my SIL who is 34 yet very slim and attractive. I get turned on by her twins !! Fact is, she is also very aware of my naughty looks but appears to keep herself in check.
I am scared one false move might spoil it all. However, I feel she too needs IT becos I see here reading voraciously novels on love, the girly mills & boon type.
I go hard thinking about her...infact right now typing this !!
What do i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): Healthy, I too am afflicted. The key is to never act on those lustful thoughts; just keep them to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): It's completely normal to fantasize about your sister in law. Two of my wifes sisters are beautiful & I fantasize about them, they are both getting older & I too think of them as they were when I had first met them. My wife is the youngest of the sisters & by some accounts the most attractive. We have a very active sex life & she doesn't deny me anything in the bedroom & I still wish I could have all three of them.
I might be a dog for thinking it, but I never acted on it. As long as you don't act on it I see no problem; I would advise you not to attempt to strike up any sort of sexual relationship with your wifes sister....I mean absolutely nothing, no cyber sex, no anything. One of my wifes sisters knows I would have sex with her in a heart beat if it weren't for my wife & even though we talk on the phone when she calls it's never sexually charged even though she's aware of what I think about her.
It's funny because the other sister I think is attractive is separating from her husband because their older sister (who is an ugly hag in my opinion) is fooling around with him. Just do yourself a favor & keep it a fantasy or you'll have no end to the headaches; don't forget you have children to think about also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): I received a call today from a lady in the A P office area wanting to know if I knew where a certain file box was located. I asked for some numbers and looked it up and told her it was in another building on the grounds. She asked if she could help me look for it. I told her yes because she knew what was written on the box. I met her at the location and we went in. I have seen this lady before and we have exchanged smiles and greetings in the past. I opened the door and we walked in. It was dark except for the light from the windows and there is no electricity in this building. We walked around and found several pallets with boxes on them. She looked at one and then another. I followed behind her. She knelt down in front of me and was looking at the boxes on the bottom of a large stack. She was talking and looked up at me and her face was about a foot from my crotch. She glanced at my zipper as her eyes came up to mine and I listened half heartedly to what she was saying. Her presence near my penis made me think thoughts of pleasure and I began to swell.She lost her balance and her hand swung forward and she caught herself on my knee. I reached down and took hold of her arm and helped her regain her balance. As she rose upward her face came within inches of my semi-erect penis. She stood and walked some more and stepped between two pallets to see if she could find her box. When she re appeared in front of me, she had dust all over her shirt where her breast had rubbed against the pallet. It high-lighted them. We walked around and chatted and I stayed erect. When she decided she could not find what she was looking for, she said she would just make up something for the files. We started out the door and I told her she had dust and dirt on her back and hips. I started patting her back and acting like I was removing dust and then patted her right check. I said I was not trying to get fresh but she didn’t mind. She turned toward me and I told her she had it on the front of her shirt as well. I jokingly asked her if she wanted me to wipe that off as well. She said well, go ahead. So I patted down her upper shirt and felt her breast at the same time. She was as surprised as I was that I was running my hand across her chest. Then she leaned forward and hugged me. Now my dick was ragging inside my shorts. I reached down to make an adjustment and let her know that my tool was stiff. She looked at the bulge and said “wow, you must be happy to see me.” I said I guess I was. We started toward the door again and she stopped and I or shall I say “it” bumped into her. She said “feel me one more time.” I placed my hands on her breast and slowly fondled them. She groaned and then placed her hand on my bulge. I groaned. She ran her fingers up and down my zipper and then pressed her hand against it. I reached down and unzipped my pants and she reached in and maneuvered the long stiff rod out of my pants. She pulled on it and it winked at her. Some pre-cum was on the tip and she touched it with her finger and smeared it around the head. I continued to molest her breast as she stood there looking at my shaft. I wondered if she would do what I was wanting her to do. She squeezed my dick and more liquid slipped out. Her finger caught it and she raised it to her mouth and slipped the wet finger between her lips. I moaned at the sight of that. She pulled her finger out of her mouth and touched the head again with her moist saliva covered finger. The penis was only about eight inches from her mouth. Suddenly she leaned forward and took it in her mouth. I squeezed her nipples and held on tight as she pressed her teeth into my rock hard dick. She started stroking back and forth. She went deep, very deep and used her teeth as a pleasure instrument against the skin. She pulled out and began nibbling on the head. Her left hand squeezed me again and more pre-cum slipped out the hole. Her tongue took it and rolled it around the head. Then it happened, I came with an explosion that almost knocked me off my feet. She totally engulfed my penis and had the head in the back of her throat. Cum came out of me and went straight down the back of her tongue and into her belly. She sucked and sucked till there was no more to cum. She slowly started to release me but savored every drop. My hands slowed down on her breast and I backed away. She looked at me and smiled and said, “thank you.” How backward was that. I should have thanked her. I squeezed my penis one more time before slipping it back in my shorts. A little more cream slipped out and she leaned forward and licked it off. I then put it away and we walked out the door and I told her that if she needed any more files to call me. She assured me she would and we went back to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I too have a thing for my sister in law. I used to have to only imagine what she looked liked naked. I had of course seen her several times in her bikini, but never nude. Finally, (opportunity presented itself)I got the chance to see her stepping out of the shower. She has the most amazing breasts and her body is nearly perfect, just like I had imagined. Since that first time I have had the chance to see her fully nude 5 times. Each time is more exciting than the last. I still have a thing for her, but now I know what she looks like naked...fantastic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): I have craved my sil for years. She like her sister is absolutely beautiful. She and I have always flirted and been very touchy feely with each other, so much so that we both knew we had the other worked up. Two years ago while my wife was out of town my sil stayed over the house at my wife's request. We started the night out eating and drinking and feeling really good. While watching TV I reached over and tickled her quickly and pulled away but from the look on her face we were not done. We each made little jabs and touches at each other that turned into some light wrestling and holding. The next thing I knew we were face to face (like that was an accident) staring at each other. In two seconds we were involved in a passionate kiss and groping session and pulling the others clothes off. We had some incredibly sex all through the night and woke up in the morning wondering where this was going. I adore my wife and she was engaged and said once was enough and it was more fun then either of us had imagined. A month later we were back in the sack and decided we could keep this up and now have our thing once a month and it has been great. We both keep it as fun wild sex outside of our relationship and thats it. We've experienced no repercussions or awkward moments even when we flirt around the family because that is what we always did. It can work if you want it to and can keep it all in perspective. My sex life with my wife is also amazing, we've done some serious swinging and loved that life. We are taught guilt throughout our lives and it holds us back. Life is fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): I have the opposite problem. My brother-in-law is infatuated with my wife and has been quite open about it since before I married her. He often talks quite openly about wanting a threesome, letting me sleep with his wife or wife swapping. This makes everyone else quite uncomfortable, but everyone tacitly plays along as if its "just a joke".
Recently, I've been getting funny vibes from my sis in law and I'm starting to wonder if SHE is starting to think about it too. I've had a few dreams about scenarios where we all get it on, but they always turn out very badly. I suspect this is my subconscious giving me a fairly blunt warning.
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