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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Long distance category)

Long distance: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Where do I go from here? Broken hearted. How long should I wait for to contact my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost the entire time, although I've bought plane tickets to visit her several times, and she came to stay with me for 8 weeks over summer where we ...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

I am afraid to lose her but I think its certain!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - i feel like a dummy for asking but...some people, including my gf are convincing. i met a young lady half my age a year ago online. fwiw, she spoke to me first and the first few times after meeting her, when i'd go online she'd be the one to ...

Has anyone been through a situation like this...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4543 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I had a friend back in school (8 years ago to be precise). We were really close and good friends but didn't date. Over the last couple of years, we've been in contact, at times 3 months apart. Thing is, I think about him a lot and I feel he does ...

LDR--we were to get married but now he's always ill. I just don't see things happening

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - i'm gonna have to say sorry in advance cos this may be a long read. I'm 30. He's 31. We been in LDR for 3 years. Different countries. We met while he was working in my town for a few weeks. I was in a mess trying to end my then relationship. He was ...

Is it normal to feel lonely close to 30? All my friends are married and presumably happy. But they don't talk to me anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4562 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - Hi I just remembered that once upon a time, a few years ago, I used to have friends I could pick up the phone and talk to, but now I have none, and it really isn't my fault that I don't - just that, choices were made by them. And I went far away, an...

Boyfriend is addicted to online games

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I think my boyfriend is addicted to online games. He plays at least 8 hours a day, sometimes with his friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by himself. Right now it's mostly LoL and DoD. He used to play WoW but quit, only because he couldn't afford ...

We were getting along so well, and now I have heard nothing! To contact or not to contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I need a little advice. I met a guy on a match making site, we both are newbies to the online dating. Initially, I did the contacting and he responded. I was intrigued by his responses. After a few messages, I didn't hear from him again. (we were ...

Should I stay or should I go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I met this guy online and when i asked him if he lived in Singapore, he told me no, but he would be back four weeks later. I waited for a month and during that month, I spent my time talking to him. I am impressed and instantly know I love the ...

My casual LDR is becoming too serious, how do I let her down gently?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - Heres the situation: i met this girl on holiday back in the summer and we hit it off straight away. With regards to looks she isnt what i go for, but she makes me laugh and we got on well so i just went with it. We stayed in contact and have visited ...

I wait for her to be online but she rarely contacts me. We love each other. How can I make this Long Distance Relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend,studies in india,and she is now here back to own country.. Out of thirty five days vacation now only ten days remain. Recently we 've not met much.. Don't know what I shall do. We love each other, but i'm not satisfied with her. She ...

Should I keep trying to contact him or just cut him out of my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - I've been having trouble with my LDR boyfriend lately. We've been together for 3 years, things haven't been easy lately but I didn't think they were this bad. He was supposed to visit me two-weeks ago for my birthday, but he couldn't because...

Our problems are stupid, but the situation makes me think she isn't for me.....what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - I'm unsure of my situation and where I should turn from here. I have been in a long distance relationship where we hardly get to see each other. When we are together it's great and there are hardly any problems, but when apart it's difficult I...

Trying to make a teenage LDR work....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - ... So I have a girlfriend she lives in Texas and I live in Illinois were both very young and were in an LDR , it's gonna be like that for at least 3 more years . Longer for her I should say since she's graduating next year as to we're I have two ...

Why do people complain about their LDR relationships when they are not really that far away from each other?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Okay, now I don't know if I'm going off topic or something just tell me why do so many people I know who are in LDRs always complain when there only two or 3 hours apart from each other while me and my gf are 18 hours? It bothers me with a passion ...

My ex left me because I'm a wuss.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - So lately I have been thinking about my ex and how she left me. Basically it was a LDR and we always tried to make time to see each other every day. She's pretty much moved on but I still miss her a ton, and think about her everyday. At one point I ...

Advice for an English girl moving to America?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hey I'm an English Girl looking into doing one of my university years abroad in the US. There are 2 parts to my question really: 1) I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we are in a fairly long-term comitted relationship, and this i...

I'm planning a big move to be with my boyfriend and my father is telling me it's the biggest mistake of my life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I'm planning on movine abroad and start living a life with my boyfriend. I'll be leaving in early spring, take 6 months to see how things go both work-wise and love-wise then, if things don't work out, get back here and get my old job back (already ...

Girlfriend sleeping in new male flatmates bed, when I am stuck abroad!

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24 October 2011 (M) - Hi, I am seeking advice in regards to my girlfriend. I am Irish and 21 and she is Spainish and 26.We have been together for a year, and I moved to Spain with her three months ago. Seen that the economic situation is shyte at the moment she failed t...

Boyfriend went to the movies with another friend without me knowing!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - Hello everyone, My boyfriend is 22 and am 20 we are doing long distance relationship,we are both going to different universities!I love him and he loves me.we have been together for a little over a year now! My boyfriend has a way of doing certain...

My boyfriend is at uni now but I don't know if I am strong enough to cope

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - Hello, I'm 20 and my boyfriend moved away to uni 5 weeks ago, 2 and a half hours away from home. I see him once every 2 weeks now. how do I cope better with this situation? I feel like he has a brand new exciting life and I'm just at home with the...

Will she ever give me what I want? And is what I want right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

20 October 2011 (M) - I have been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now and our relationship is in a really bad place. i am recently graduated from college and she is in her final year. we met over the summer and fell in love and now that she is back in school two hours ...

Army wives and girlfriends - do they ALL cheat when soldiers are deployed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4571 days ago

19 October 2011 (M) - I am in th army and I leave for deployment in less then 3 weeks. My current girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months, we have a great relationship. This will the first time either one of us will eb dating someone who is deployed. a few ...

LDR b/f says I'm too depressing

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4572 days ago

19 October 2011 (F) - I just got off the phone with my LD boyfriend and I'm a little hurt or annoyed, I'm not sure. He says that I'm too depressing, and that I depress myself for no reason. He brought up the way I get every time we say goodbye when visiting. We onl...

Boyfriend is having to leave with family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - hey i don't know what to do right now. See the guy i love and who is my boyfriend we have been going out for a year now and he is just after telling me that he has to go away forever because something to do with his parents and money. He has to go a...

I miss my cousin terribly

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - Ahhhhhh I'm going crazy!!! Its not even been thirty days since I last saw her... My cousin, I mean, I miss her a lot... Days are as mundane as a rainy blackout afternoon Tuesday. My heart is just aching for her... She only lives seven miles away ...

Is he loosing interest or just not enough communication?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - question: i'm starting 2 feel my boyfriend doesn't care about me well first off we are long distant relationship so i feel we should communicate more to feel closer to each other well he got me mad cause he was lagging it and than when i called ...

He's been away for three months, now when he's finally coming back home-he tells me he's thinking of going back again!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - My guy has been gone for three months because of a work project in Costa Rica and he's supposed to come back in early Nov. Today, he told me he might have to go back again but it's voluntary-he wants to go back. Ok. But then he says he's missed me ...

Why is my fiance trying to look different?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...

3,000 miles separating them, will their LDR work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - Okay my sister is 22 and her boyfriend is 23. They both graduated from college but her boyfriend moved to New York for a job and now he's living there. My sister is working at a hospital here in Seattle (working in a hospital is her dream job). They ...

It feels like the relationship is taking a turn for the worse

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4572 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - Please Help me out I need advice!! I'm having problems in my relationship right now. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for going on four years and we recently decided to put the past behind us. We've had some problems, but we always seem to ...

Am I over-thinking this issue with my LDR?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf of three years. some times some of the stuff he does makes me question if he really is in love with me. he doesn't put as much effort into the relationship, makes me feel like I'm not appreciated, puts ...

I think my boyfriend almost cheated on me but he won't give me any details

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - bare with me, im a little p'd off right now.. ok, so im currently in a long distance relationship. its only for about 6 months or so until he comes back.. im pretty sure he cheated on me, but only came half way clean, because i went off on him,...

I h ave given up everything for him and he cannot give anything back. Do I cut my losses?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - hi aunts and uncles, hope you can shed some lignt on my situation please. I met my partner 4 years ago, it was long distant at first but i moved in with him 2 years ago, left all my family and friends cause i wanted to be with him, he has children...

How can I tell my boyfriend that I've lost our baby?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - I was 8 weeks pregnant until 2 days ago I lost the baby. Inside I feel so sad and desperately lonely. This is because I dont know how to tell my boyfriend I have lost our baby. I am in a LDR with my bf whos in the military. We have been togeth...

Why? He Suddenly changed his attitude, from being positive that things will turn out well to being negative about our chances

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4575 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - I been in 3 yrs long distant relationship with this guy. He wasn't doing well in my country and left to go back to his own country. I visited him two times. we live half the planet away. it took 18 hrs to fly to him. We even plan to apply for work...

Does he have commitment issues? Or do I wait longer for him to use the 'love' word?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4576 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - I met my boyfriend last year, via a mutual friend. We were introduced online (3 way convo on msn) and after 1 month, we decided to meet up. We got together two months later and have, so far been a couple for nearly a year. my problem is this; after ...

To me he is disrespectful. Why mess me around? Is this how men act when they mess up?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I were supposed to go to Jamaica yesterday. I booked the ticket for us back in April. He left to his home country in August and the first thing I said was remember our October trip. Anyhow three days ago, I kept asking if he had b...

Is he worth obsessing over for two years??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - so..currently i am living abroad for a 1 year school internship, and yesterday i was talking to this guy who i have had a crush on for 2 years now, and he asked me an akward question. i had just posted a new photo of mine on f.b and he said he ...

He is cruel, but I am afraid to break up with him, what should I do??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid It might sound pathetic, but i love my bf to nuts. But he is often saying things like he is going to have sex with prostitute and he found someone else and he is thinking abt breaking up with me. Whenever he says things like this, he'll...

Why won't my LDR boyfriend see me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4576 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - My bf and I are long distance and have been for a long time. We don't get to see each other often, generally once every month or two. But lately it feels like he's trying to avoid seeing me. I'll admit that he does the work in visiting, he's u...

LDR boyfriend neglecting me so I got a fake profile and had sex chat with a guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4575 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - okay my boyfriend and i have a great relationship otherwise..its a long distance one..however i always had one basic problem..i dont like the way he talks to his female friends..as well as mine(when i introduce mine to him) he treats women with ...

How can I keep a distance relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4576 days ago

15 October 2011 (M) - How can i keep a distance relationship?.Although we've been dating for more than two years now and distance just seperated us recently....

I slept with someone else when were not properly together and now I'm worried my boyfriend will find out, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

14 October 2011 (F) - I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22, I've wanted to be with him for over a year, then I moved away for work in june,and he finally told me how he felt, we acted like we were together but wasn't due to long distance, when I came back for a few days I slept ...

How can I get him to open up about his past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

14 October 2011 (F) - Ok, so here's the dealio: Me and my boyfriend (It's kinda long distance) is a foster kid. When I met him, he lived five miles away, but a while ago, he got placed in a new home, and he ended up being 10 miles away. Now he's just told me he has t...

He has made me feel so bad about myself I am considering breaking up with him. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

14 October 2011 (F) - I need to know the essence of our relationship and also the essential lacking. Following is the sequence of events: We met and he fell for me head over heels. Would keep complimenting me all the time, was happy with me. I did not very much ...

Horrible long-distance story, cold feet, not enough love, no balls, or a combination of all three?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - My apologies in advance, for this is going to be a very long story. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year. He is a 29 year old German scientist and we met when I was there for a summer research program...

How do I make my LDR b/f understand that his actions make me feel like I'm not worth it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4579 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - Im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of three years. As of these last few months we both are very busy. We see eachother about twice a month, skype here and there, and We text maybe at the most for a couple hours a day everyday and ...

Dad is critical of him. I like this guy. But am I falling in love too fast?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4492 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - Hey folks, It's been about 4 months since I broke up with my ex, and now I've found a good guy. We met online, and began talking quite a bit. We got together, and since then he's asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes, and its been a lot...