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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Long distance category)

Long distance: Help and advice

Should I suggest him a LDR and how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i think i'm falling in love with a friend. we live hundreds of miles from each other but it would be perfectly plausible to meet up every couple of weeks and we speak daily for hours do you reacon it would be plausible to hold down a relationship? ...

I have learning difficulties and feel incomplete, please advise!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hello, I have lost the will to live, I am a 21 year old male. when I was born I was deprived of oxygen and as a result i developed learning disabilitys/difficulties. I have a very poor concentration span, and co-ordiniation problems. This really did ...

Does he really want me or her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have a friend who lives long distance. When he moves to my town he always breaks up with his girlfriend to date me, but when he moves home he gets back together with her. He hasn't told me about her but he is from a very small town so I hear about ...

LDR & communication issues..I'm feeling really down

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I am in a long distance relationship for 2 months. We have seen each other last month, (for a long weekend, 5 days to be specific) and we are planning to meet again the following weekend. I never really dwell on the difficulties this kind of a ...

He can go two weeks without talking or texting me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5441 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Hey people. I need your advice. I was in a 2 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. But since this year started we have been fighting alot. Once he got problems he would not want to talk to me.Few months he changed completely it became ...

Why does he keep going back and forth and not just choose one of us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - [Moderator's note: Please concentrate all the details in one question next time. It is harder to give accurate opinions on pieces of a fragmented question.] Help my mother is making me insecure. My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and she always says ...

She wants a break

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Ok so here's the rub, I'm a male 6 - 7 years older than his ...girlfriend? It's complicated. She recently decided that she wanted to take a break from the relationship because she constantly feels like a bad person due to the fact I'm making most ...

Should I stay with the guy in rehab or try the new, clean guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have started dating "lee" since dec i actually drove 2000miles to met him he drove w me back to my state to live w me everything was fine til he started his new job which was a nite job which ended up him finding drugs and booze... i kicked him ...

Trust issues/Long distance relationships/How to ask her to stop getting drunk so often

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Ok, basically im in a long distance relationship, we have been together 5 months now, and i feel she is the one and know that she feels the same Basically recently she has changed which group of people she hangs out with and this new group goes o...

If you were in love with someone once can you fall for them again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - if you were in a serious relationship and in love with someone once can you fall for them again? after years of being long distance friends? ...

In a long distance relationship, am I expecting too much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i have been speaking to this guy for a couple of years now and love him so much, we are the same age but live in different countries, we always say that one day i'll go over there and we'll get married and settle down, but how realistic is this, am ...

Letting go

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I hope someone can offer me some guidance or answers. I've been dating this guy for nearly a year. I love him and to me he's the only person I want to spend my life with. We're stuck in this long distance relationship. Anyhow, last time we met up, ...

Should I forgive him, do I even have the right to be mad at him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Ok so my bf and I were together for 4 years, and he was always a great bf. We were in long distance relationship and eventually things became difficult and over the last year have been on and off. We stayed in touch, and when he came back to ...

He seems genuine, but my friends think he is just after sex! Tell me what you think.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Let me apologize in advance for the long posting. I met a guy through some mutual friends about a year ago. We were paired up in their wedding. That was the first time we had met in person. He seemed like a nice guy. We talked for a while at the ...

Can LDR work if you barely see each other?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Well im a 20 year old female and im currently dating ah 21 year old female. we have only seen each other once since we've been together. we have been dating for 3 months now, and i can honestly say i love her. she's there for me when others are not. ...

He wants to leave if I don't do what he wants....please help

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - we got married 7 months ago.we meet every 3 months,its long distance marriage,cos im waiting for spouse visa. any how,before i meet him i was in relationship and he did read the emails i had with my ex which i sent and received before i met with my ...

My mum thinks my boyfriend is abusive but I want to move closer to him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - okay my family LOVED my boyfriend up until we had a massive argument and I told my mum everything that he's done (he's not done anything abusive, but he does small things like reads my texts, hacks my email, reads my msn history, doesn't let me talk ...

Does he actually care about me if he is ok with me having other boyfriends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I don't live in the same city. He says he is completely in love with me, but he doesn't do anything about us moving together to share a relationship. He is actually in the position to do that, to create a circumstance for me moving ...

I like this girl, but don't know whether I should continue being friends, what do you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - So this is my story: I love my friend, and I promised I will always be here for her. (Am I gay? no, bi? Maybe) and I am, I try my best. Anyways, we are in 2 different states, so there isn't much I can do but talk on the phone. She's always going ...

Long distance friends, would like to have a more romantic relationship, how do I accomplish this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Well i have been stuck in the friend category for way too long. I have known this guy for almost three years now and we have continued to treat each other with respect and care. I actually met him in a very casual manner but we did not exchange...

A reconnection but I'm not sure if its worth it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I met a male friend in 2000 at school we hit it off big but never dated. We stayed friends for about a year and a half until I moved away. We eventually stopped talking...years later in 2008 he finds me on facebook and allthese feelings he said he ...

How I feel? Or leave it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - So, here is my situation that I need some help with. Im a girl as you can read by my screen name. Me and my friend who also is a girl (she's gay) started talking again after years without talking. I don't like girls but I like her, I think I ...

Like him a lot, but age difference, 14/20, religion and distance pose problems, any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - So I met this guy not to long ago. From the moment i met him I loved his speech, his train of though.... EVERYTHING! We try to talk as much as possible and I already know he likes me. He reminds me constantly on how adorable he thinks i am and how ...

My boyfriend is angry, because I hung out for 30 minutes with old friend, what can I do to help him get over this nonsense?

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25 May 2009 (F) - ok here is the deal...im 18 years old and I've been dating this guy on and off for almost 3 years. we r in a long distance relationship and we love each other so much. the problem is I was at a reception after a concert and I saw this guy I had a ...

Wanted to marry me everyday, now wants to take it one day at a time, what gives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - I have a problem I have been seeing this guy for 3 months, he is 10 years younger than me, from the first week he was telling me he loved me and that he knew that i was the one he wanted to be with and marry we get along great together, he lives 2 ...

After he moved, he's been ever so distant

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5450 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - Im confused with whats going on with my bf. He recently moved to a different town for work, he said he would miss me lots and will visit me heaps and he wanted to continue our relationship long distance. After he first moved away, things wer...

He wants to be with me but we are just too far apart

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

23 May 2009 (F) - I dated a guy long distance a few years ago. He recently contacted me saying he was thinking about the past and could never forget me. He calls me beautiful and when we text he will type a 3 at the end. I asked him what our relationship was and he ...

He ex says he has something to tell me, but wont say what. Why is he waiting so long?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

22 May 2009 (F) - My ex and I have not seen each other in a year now, we live in different countries, but still love each other, as we have both expressed it to each other. I had some issues and I hurt him very much, not by anything external of our relationship, but ...

Do you think that because I was worried about him he will think I have feelings for him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

22 May 2009 (F) - There´s this guy I have feelings for who is a military stationed somewhere across the country. We met 2 years ago when he did TDY in my town. We kinda clicked since the moment we met, unfortunately he had to leave a week later with no chance f...

I still want her in my life after a year apart

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - ok i really miss this girl now ...she ant be said my ex girlfriend but we came so close once upon a time that it was even not less than that ...it was a long distance relationship ... long story short ,we have had a lot of fun in the past and we ...

Part of me is craving being single, and the other part loves my perfect girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5452 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - So, I've been going out with long-term girlfriends for the past five years, since I was 15. There's never been much of a gap between long-term relationships. The first turned out to be a compulsive liar and screwed with my head quite badly, the ...

Asked by my lover to visit him in Turkey....is it safe to go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I am American Black female who is in Love with a Turkish Man. We meet while working together, he was on a visa working in the States for a year. He has invited me to come and visit Turkey. I have never left home and would like to know if it is safe ...

I love her, she says she loves me. Is it true?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - i got this girl, we tried it once but din't really work cuz long distance. back in 8th grade i was a player wont lie. but she say's she has done alot with other peopl in her past. I told her i've changed. she said she has to. i belived her an she ...

Is there anything wrong with being a long distance friend, to a married man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - More than 2 years ago, I met a guy in a business who was very friendly. He´s military and we became friends, nothing more. After he left we started to keep in touch by email, and sharing regular friends stuff. He have always talked about his...

Sorted things out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5452 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - me and my long distance are on a break and its been 3 weeks now, and she whats to see me and work this thing out, and i am going to in 2 weeks time, also she told me that i am the one for her and now one else also the other night she was crying ...

It's very hard for me to not "relive the memory"! But I don't want him if he isnt sincere!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - my ex and i dated for 2 years in high school and about 2 years on and off at college (we went to different colleges) and decided that it was too hard to have a long distance relationship and broke it off. We fought a lot, but untimately it was the ...

Could my past be getting in the way of the present?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months(talking for 4). We talk every day and send each other cute messages quite often. We get together about once a week or so since it's kind of a long distance thing. We recently had a l...

He broke up with me without a reason but do you think he will come back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5454 days ago

19 May 2009 (F) - Hello everyone i need somehelp I went out with a guy for a year and he lives in austria now he dumped me with out reason he broke up with me but didnt explain why? do you think was the reason that he met another girl / is there any chan...

Long distance relationship - I need help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

19 May 2009 (F) - This might take a little bit but I'm going crazy over here and I need to know what to do. I've been dating this guy for months now, we met offline, he lives 5 hours away from me. We see each other a lot, so it's really neat, I like the distanc...

We love each other, but she still won't date me!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

19 May 2009 (M) - well im in love with this girl. and she loves me too she says. and well we do everything together and we do everything, like we are going out, we hold hands and cuddle and make love to each other. but she wont date me. she says the time isnt right ...

LDR is causing me concern..could he be cheating?

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18 May 2009 (F) - well i have been in a long distance relationship,,in the start it was amazing but now its a total mess,,he doesnt call me like he used to,,he doesnt text me like before,,we dont even chat anymore,,we have been fighting alot these days too,,but im ...

It's the "Carrie-Aiden-Big Sex In the City" triangle come to life! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5457 days ago

16 May 2009 (F) - im currently in a situation that can be likened to the Carrie-Aiden-Big triangle on sex and the city. My 'Aidan' is a boy i've been distant friends with for about two years now, following the demise of his relationship we grew closer and recen...

I don't know if he cares about me but I still love him after everything.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5457 days ago

16 May 2009 (F) - hey, i lost a guy who meant the world to me a while ago he was my first love and best friend for four years, and he left without saying why. the only one i can think of is that hes moving away, and he is trying to help me let go because he saw how ...

What am I for him???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5458 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - I am two years and a half older than him, I knew him three years ago via internet, we were chatting almost every day.. he lives at 5000 km from. I thought that the age gap and the long distance would keep us from falling for each other but I was ...

I can't stop thinking about my stalker!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - This man has been harassing me for years! We had a brief relationship 3 years ago, it was very intense but it ended quickly. He cheated on me with a hooker! We were sort of on a break though, and I was cheating on him too, though I don't think he ...

B/f needs texts or calls me back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - My bf doesnt always reply to my messages or phone calls. This really frustrates and upsets me, and it also makes me worried. We have a long distance r/ship- this makes it even harder to deal with this. Last time he visited me, he was all over m...

She's against the idea of a LDR. How can I change her mind?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5459 days ago

15 May 2009 (M) - I've been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a year and I really, really love her and she loves me similarly. She's 14 and I'm 15. The problem is that both of us have a parent in the military, so us being apart is a very likely ...

I don't trust him sometimes because of past experiences

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - Hello everyone. I have been in a long-term, off-and-on relationship with a man for going on 4 years now. Of course I cannot possibly tell the whole entire journey but I will basically tell the most important issues I have. I am 21 years old and he...

I can't be sure of what he's doing as we live so far apart...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend, but we live far apart. I only see him on major holidays, like summer and christmas. We talk a lot on the phone and we don't have a lot of problems. The major problem is that we miss each other badly. I sometimes feel like he ...

She can't live with me, but can't live without me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5459 days ago

14 May 2009 (M) - Hey guys. First time writing here.. I've been in a relationship with a woman for nearly three years now (Long distance)..We see each other every month or so for about a week, but will soon close this gap shorter so it's more regular. Only...