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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Long distance category)

Long distance: Help and advice

I'm finding it hard to think that the kind, attentive, wonderful man that I fell in love with has disappeared at the moment or even forever.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm having problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 2 1/2 years in an LDR. My boyfriend has been working really hard lately, so much so that I haven't seen him since the end of September whereas we were seeing each ...

How could he say he might love me only to drop me shortly after?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I had been dating this guy that lived in my hometown for almost 7 months. The first 2 months were while I was at college, but when I was home, I followed him to all the summer ball games he played. When I had to go back, he told me how he would ...

Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel t...

Will he leave his ex alone for good if we get back together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Ive been seeing this guy who lives an hour and a half away from me. We really conected and Ive been seeing him for about 5 months at this point. He told me he had an ex that he has a 2 year old daughter with and they were no longer together. But one ...

Can I trust my long distance boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi everybody. I just little confuse about my long distance boyfriend. He never lie to me before. But yesterday I found out he has new email address and he found some female friend.He invited some female friend and give them his phone number.It's ...

If I like her should I convey my feelings or will she think I'm rushing things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5235 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am in late 20s. I have been chatting with this girl for almost 3 months now. We initially chatted almost every other day for 2 hours. We also talked on phone for 4-5 times (everytime for more than 3 hours). We have never met due to geographical ...

Is there any way I can save this? Whatever I say is falling on deaf ears!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - (i posted a few days ago, but have reposted with extra details) my boyfriend of three years works very hard, and long hours. he has a son who lives with him, and money is tight. i also work but part time, i have three sons and we usually s...

I feel like there's someone else...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5286 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years now and we are very serious. i go to his house and spend a lot of time with his family and all that. However, in those 2 years we basically fight everyday break up once a week but always get back ...

I don't love him any more, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5286 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - hi everyone, i'm 20 years old and i'm with a 27 year old man. we have been together for a year and a half. my love from him is fading away. it is a long distance relationship, different countries. at the beginning everything was good, and we were ...

Should I persue this girl and our internet "relationship"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5287 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - me and this girl I know have been in a sort of internet relationship for about 2 or 3 years. Well actually we were in one for about 5 months and then we lost contact. So I guess you can say it was over. This was in 2006-2007. Forward to may 2008 and ...

Does it sound like he isn't interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - There is a man who I connected with very strongly the first time we met. We had so many things in common and confided in each other. We realized we lived 3 1/2 hours away from each other. He got my number and said he needed to take me on a date. ...

There is a guy who lives a long way from me, but I like him a lot, how do I get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - There is one guy I want to date. He lives a ways away and its hard to get together. I am trying to get over him because I don't think it will work but ever since I have met him there have been numerous guys who want to date me. I find none of ...

How do I reconnect with my friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year. We are irrevocably in love and everything is great. But it seems like I have no friends anymore. I don't go out like I used to, I lost contact with one of my best friends that I ...

LDR: do I let her go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Ok im confused, scared, frustrated... Me and this girl have been dating for 5 months now. Everything has been going good till she went off to college. I know the whole giving space and letting someone go. I understand if you care for someone its ...

He said she was only a fling yet I found emails saying he wanted to marry her, how do I know that I'm not just another fling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - ok.....this is a really long one but Im DESPERATE for help. 4 yrs ago i got in touch with this awesome guy n we really hit it off. he is 3 yrs elder to me.... and we've been together for over 3 and a half yrs now....and its always been in a ...

Should I tell him how I feel? I don't know whether it is possible to have a relationship with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - okay so i'm like freaking out. i think this sort of started maybe 3 years ago when i started talking to my friend from germany. at first, it was just normal things and we chatted like everyday, and then he gradually started flirting and stuff bu...

What do you do when you are torn away from your soulmate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm so upset at the moment as i recently got back from an amazing holiday where i met the greatest guy ever. But i only got to know his first name and where he came from and i just del so down without his presence. I feel as he i have been torn ...

I thought I met the man who could change my life and solve my problems!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - 2day, i have a big problem that i can not solve by myself. i need help from u guys. i am 17 yrs. and my boyfri he is 17 yrs too. i am living in Maryland, USA. and my bf living in Cambodia. we love each other almost 3yrs until now. since we're going ...

I can't let my abusive ex go.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - ok basically this is a long one. I met my ex on the internet, back in january(big mistake im never going to do that again!) we started off and friends, we got together in april, even then he used to tell me about this girl that girl, which shouldv'...

What can I do to feel less lonely?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - I feel so lonely that I am starting to feel very down. My Mum and Dad are both from large families yet they very rarely do anything socially together. They aren't nasty people, they just aren't social people. I have 14 first cousins, yet only ...

How do I stop wondering what he's doing when I'm not around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - ive been with this guy for 2 years and ive caught him cheating on me twice. but last time he left me for a girl because i didnt want premarital sex but then 4 mnths later he came back to me and apologized i took him back. But i told him that i am ...

Shouldn't we be cementing our relationship by now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - Hey 32 yr old male here..quick story and I need some honest advice...been with this girl for 8 mo now and things have gotten pretty seious..i feel like she is a great girl all around..i am a very busy guy at this time in my life..2 jobs, 2 houses ...

Why did he lie to me about the way he felt about her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5289 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - ok.....this is a realllllllly long one but m DESPERATE for help. 4 yrs ago i got in touch with this awesome guy n we really hit it off. he is 3 yrs elder to me.... n we've been togther for over 3 n half yrs now....n its always been in a long dis...

Should I wait his LDR out, or has he told me I'm second best?

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25 October 2009 (F) - I've recently started at university, and met a guy on my course who is just amazing. We get on really well, similar interests and we just 'click' He's told me he has a LDR with a girl in Eastern Europe and even though he likes me, he wants things w...

Why did he have to call his ex about my STD?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I recently broke it off with a guy I was seeing LDR for 7 months. I got myself tested since I always want a clean break from everything before dating again, and found out I had Gonorrhea. I never had symptoms which was weird. I told my ex about it ...

LDR: feeling neglected!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5291 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Lately, I feel my boyfriend doesn't make an effort to talk to me. LDR. Even though he calls, but sometimes I feel he does it 'cause he thinks he has to since I complained about it before. Just recently, he slept over his friends house out of the ...

Losing interest in an LDR?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

24 October 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, I'm in a LDR right now and i have been for about 3 months now. I love her, a lot, but i only get to see her about 2 times a month. I feel like im losing interest but i think it's just a feeling of not being able to be with her. I d...

He has suddenly stopped communicating and I am supposed to visit him soon!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Hey. Ok...so I worked at this place over summer and I met this guy who also worked there...and we kinda got together towards the end (went on a few dates). Then, however, he had to quit and go back to uni, as did I. However, my uni is in London, ...

We're planning a trip to see a couple we met, but they've now split and we have a dilemma.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hello this is not a relationship or family or sexual question but I wonder if you can help me, I am going to the USA next summer on a 3 week-one month long trip. The plan is to start in los angeles, and then to visit Las Vegas and then San ...

Should I ignore my parents and go to Ecuador to see my long distance boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - so i have a huge problem in my hands. i am 18 years old and live in the U.S.A, i met my boyfriend when i was 15 years old and he was 17 years old, but he lives in ecuador.every year since i was 14 i have been spending my summers over there in ...

Do you think a relationship with him is possible?

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23 October 2009 (F) - Hi and thanks for taking the time to read and comment on this i really appreciate it! Ok so here goes last week i went out with a group of friends, we were going to see a gig but it was still early so we went into a near by bar for a drink. we ...

What can I do to get over this? Am I completely nuts?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5292 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I've got this problem. I just got out of a very abusive six year relationship a few months ago, and there's all this court stuff to deal with. I came to terms with it, and was doing fine. Feeling much better, even relieved because the burd...

I do not want to leave without him because long distance relationships don't work!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and living together for 3 of them. We have had many ups and downs. He has finished college and we have been talking about moving so that I may finish as well, we were talking about moving in ...

I'm having a hard time because of the long distance, how can I get him to be more expressive with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5292 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been with each other for sometime.We are now in a long distance relationship because of employment. We still manage to see each other 3 weekends a month. We still get along great and have great sex when together. We are both ...

I feel like he makes no effort anymore.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - i dont reall know where to start, have been with my long distance boyfriend for a few years now, we usually get to see each other at weekends if not then fortnightly. he has cheated once in the past, it was the first time i had been cheated on,...

I'm married to someone else but he said he'd wait. Should I trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - I have met a most wonderful guy, only thing he lives 2hrs away from where I live, so I dont get to see as we would like.The first two week of our relationship, we email and text contantly. One weekend he got a email from his EX, which upset him and ...

Depressed by his absence.....is there something wrong with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - i've been through some shit in my life. i've pushed through drug addictions, an abusive father, promescuity, terrible decisions that ive had to live with. these things made me depressed and hurt at the time, however, they are all in the past now. ...

Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...

Was his reason for breaking up a cop out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Hi, My new boyfriend broke up with me, he says, because he was laid off and needs to figure things out, and he's probably moving across country to NY. He's on a work visa, so if he doesn't get a job he'll get sent back to India? I'm not sure I t...

How can I change myself so I'll forget about him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Hi everybody. I used to post about my boyfriend before. And finally we broke up. But we still talking like friend. I think I still love him. Yeah! for sure I love him. I still worry about him. We talk at day time after we broke up, but I called him ...

Suspicious letters...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - okay. so i was searching through my boyfriends room the other day and i came across a letter, behind it was more . there were about 7 or 8 of them saying "i love you " and such. His mom claims that there has never been another gurl come to the house ...

Should I be alarmed by this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - ok me and my boyfriend have been together for awhile even though we live in separate countries..recently he hit my cousin up on facebook sayin..i love ya pics keep lookin good love... he didnt kno she was my cousin... so when i confronted him he ...

Long distance disaster...is he over me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - ok, here is my story.... me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years now. we have grown up together since we were 15yrs old. we are eachothers 1st bf/gf...1st EVERYTHING! i am SO in love with this boy and i thought he would say the...

Should I compromise and give him a call or ignore him forever?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - I've been sort of seeing this man for the past 5 or so months...we never slept together but the chemistry was so there-it was on a mental level maybe the most intense relationship I've ever had. Part of the reason is he's 15 years older than me ...

Should I convert to Christianity for him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - Hi dear cupid. I need help again. I broke up with my boyfriend for one week but now we get back together again.(we're long distantance) We broke up, because of his family. And I told him if he stop listen to his family and move on with me (just me ...

Can anyone please shed light on what the hell is going on with this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5295 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - For the best part of 2 years, I have been seeing my boyfriend most weekends, as he lives 60 miles away. To give you a bit of background: We had been living together previously in the same town for about a year and a half in what was a very int...

I want him to give in to me once in a while and not just yell at me when I ask him for a favor.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5295 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I love him with all my heart but in every case whether it be fights or what he wants, I have given in to him. I want him to give in to me once in a while and not just yell at me when I ask him ...

Is he not interested in hooking up again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5296 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm looking for some advice... I met this guy at a friend's wedding back in August and we got drunk, talked for hours, and hooked up. The next morning we had the usual 'if we're ever in each others cities, we should meet up' chat (we live in...

LDR suddenly no contact at all from her

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5296 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - I live in England, the girl I love lives in America, we had a great thing going between us for over 1 1/2 years, but then she suddenly stopped all contact, any attempt at contacting her have been meet with silence. I wasn't given any explanation ...

How likely is it they will get together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5297 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - okay. still on the same stupid boy. so quick background info. im 18 hes 21 we moved in together about a month ago. i didnt think i was ready and wanted to get my life together first so i broke up with him and moved back with my family. i realized i ...