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writes:I'm planning on movine abroad and start living a life with my boyfriend. I'll be leaving in early spring, take 6 months to see how things go both work-wise and love-wise then, if things don't work out, get back here and get my old job back (already asked my boss and said I definitely will)- and it'll be like I got 6 months off. I don't like it here, my mom passed away, don't have many friends and don't really like my job either. All I got is a controlling father who keeps calling me telling me I'm making the hugest mistake of my life, that I should just stay here and enjoy what I got (what? A frustrating job and a house I can easily rent out?), that it is totally unprofessional to leave your job and that people will judge me fot moving away and that in a few years I will be left stranded with nothing left. He's harsh and mean and says I'm adisgrace of a daughter. I'm 30. I'm scared about this big move, but I'm truly in love with my bf and I'm faithful things will turn out for the best. Am I crazy for being hopeful? Or sould I give up, leave my bf and live a life of lonely quiet desperation here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey aunts, thank you for your feedback! Just wanted to add that my bf is actually from my own town: I've known him forever and we've been in high school together. We've been very close friends before getting together. He moved abroad for work about a year ago and the plan's always been I'd try and reach him at some point.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 Your Father is probably motivated by his instinct to protect is daughter....For you to MOVE to live with (yes?) a "boyfriend" is a high-risk arrangement.... and I'd venture to say that at least as many women end up disappointed and some place far from home as find love and happiness in there new location...Don't be harsh on your Father..... Instead, ask yourself, "Just how dumb IS IT to do this????"Good luck...
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reader, stressedandtired +, writes (24 October 2011):
 You're 30 and if you feel like this move is the best thing for you then go for it. Sometimes parents can be a bit controlling and try to scare you out of doing things because they fear you will fail. If you love your bf and you have a good relationship with him then you should be with him. But if you are just running away from your problems 9 times out of 10 it won't work. You can never just run away from your problems, believe me, I've tried. Just sit down and think about the pros and cons. Only you know what is best for you, not your father or your boyfriend. This has to be your decision. If you have any doubts about moving you probably shouldn't do it yet.
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