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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Long distance category)

Long distance: Help and advice

Last day in Spain, I have to go home, but I don't want to leave. I'm so sad. Please advise?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5150 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hola, For those of you that don´t know me, I´m an aunt here on this site. I´m always glad to help, and I try to give very direct and sincere advice without judging people. I´m here because I´m feeling a little sad today and I´m not really sur...

Would it be stupid to start something with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Met this boy online. I'm falling for him but he lives about a hour away from me. Neither of us can drive and I haven't even met him yet. Would it be stupid to start something with him? Or can this actully be the start of something amazing?...

Why didn't he let me know where he was being deployed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I made a male friend 3 years ago. He's is in the USAF and we met on a temporary duty. We kinda liked each other so became quite friendly and flirty , but never intimate. He left soon enough and started emailing since. We shared jokes, thoughts and ...

How do long distance relationships work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - So right now im a member of this site where gay or bi guys can chat, share pics, share music... its basically a myspace for dudes only but betta den them otha sites cuz u dont gotta pay nuthin to earn gold memba status or nuthin like dat (btw this ...

Long distance love is fizzling out

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - hey i`m a little confused i`ve been in a long distance relationship with this boy who lives in ireland called Sean but lately i feel like my love for him is fading and some feelings for my last boyfriend called simon are still there. this is a pro...

Is this a lost cause? I feel threatened by his best friend, she will soon come here and I'll study in another city.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Sorry about this being so long. I honestly didn't realize I went on this long rant until I was finished. Anyways, I hope you have the patience... My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now (January 1, 2010 will be our one-year). A...

How do you make LDRs work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5233 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I have had several relationships, none of them working for very long. What helps make a good relationship continue? And how do you make LDRs work? In general those have been the quickest to fail for me. I really want this to work out with this guy. ...

Long distance and younger/older relationship...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - A while back, I met this guy online. Since then, we have been talking and we both believe that the relationship we have is real and it's begun to get really hard to cope when we aren't talking. We have a lot in common and what should be considered a ...

Conflicted...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I've been single for almost 3 years now, and it seems all girls ever do is use me. I recently started talking to a girl online, and she's cute and funny, but after just knowing me a day she said she loved me, and I told her I loved her too, which ...

Am I just fooling him and myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - Ok so I've met a guy on some social networking site. We have corresponded over that SNS, then later we've moved onto the messenger. Since then, we've chatted almost everyday. Before I get to the gist of my narrative, I'll give you first a brief ba...

Why isn't he staying for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5238 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend so much and i am so afraid to lose him. We have been together almost a year. But we are from different country. We are get on well but he is going back his country soon. I want him to stay with me and i wana spend my future with ...

2 week holiday fling was so special I want to emigrate to be with her, what do you guys think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5238 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - I have just come back from a wonderful 3 week holiday in New zealand, where i had an amazing fling of 2 weeks with an amazing girl( a friend of a friend) I am now back in UK but she is talking about me moving out to NZ, getting a job, be together...

Should I leave my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5239 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - Hello all I am writing because I do not know what to do about my relationship. I met a lovely girl, actually on a dating website (which was new to me). We have now been together for around 5 months. The relationship is for the most par...

I have no answers to my emails from USA boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5240 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - last month i have met a guy from U.S, he is such a sweet guy to me, i confront that i like him so much, i love the way that he talk, i like the way that he smile at me,i think that i really fall in love with him and it seems to me that he also likes ...

Should I revisit my marriage or move on with the new boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5241 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - I'm a divorced mother of three and have had a long distance relationship with a wonderful man for the last three years. My children are 11,9 and 5 and have had limited contact with my boyfriend but get along very well with him. It's getting to the ...

Should I choose my potential husband or the name of a school?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5241 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend and I were together for two years and we currently go to separate colleges, 6.5 hours away from each other. It's been a year since we broke up and I'm trying as it is to get out of this city. He's successfully done that because he ...

How should I fix this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5241 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - My ex and I had recently broke up. We were in a long distance relationship and it was difficult. We didn't break up because of distance though. We broke up because I've given him so many chances to treat me right. He acts like he controls my life ...

Long distance trouble

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

20 December 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl long distance now for 5 months. 2 days after i came back from one of my trips to go see her, she broke up with me. It has now been a few weeks and I can't help but constantly think about her. I still want to be friends ...

Should I take the chance even though he doesn't want a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5242 days ago

20 December 2009 (F) - I like a guy who lives in a different state than I do. We went to h.s. together and knew who each other were but never talked. About 2 weeks ago he initiated conversation with me and we have talked every day since. Only problem is, he says he ...

I lashed out my fiance and now I regret it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5242 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - I know this sounds stupid, selfish and I shouldn’t feel like this. But today I’ve lashed out on my fiancé for no reason to be honest. Today he has been at his brothers wedding all day, which I was invited to but last minute a couple of weeks ...

What do I do about this online, long distance guy that just wants friendship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - I like this guy so much that I'm jealous. :( I've known this guy for a a year and he's helped me through so much, he's like a best mate, the only problem is that he lives in Edinburgh which is 200 miles away from me, a few months ago we started ...

I'm lost and scared about my own feelings

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19 December 2009 (F) - I tried searching for answers or useful information online, couldn't really find it, and so I came here. It's a long distance relationship, and we're going to meet in a week! After 4 months apart. Now at this point I feel that I should in all re...

Did I go too far in sending the second email?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5242 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - I'm going to ask your indulgence in posting this question since I had spoken of it a while back. I visit London twice a year to see family and friends. I go to a local Church of England service when there. In October I noticed a man (also ...

I feel pathetic coming to the internet for advice but here is my story!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5243 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - hi... i feel really retarded and pathetic for coming to the internet for help but i honestly dont know what else to do. i guess i should start by saying im 19 and ive been "in love" with my best (guy) friend since my sophomore year of high sch...

I told a guy I liked him, but he only said "okay"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5241 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - I have liked a guy at my school since this summer (he is smart and nerdy and funny and perverted and weird and philosophical). I had a budding friendship with him and suddenly found myself ridiculously attracted to him. We spent the whole first ...

His text said "What are we going to do about us?" I thought he wasn't interested!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5243 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - My partner and I were together for 2 1/2 years in a long distance relationship. I am very confused and I think he is too as there was no official split. We last saw each other in late September. I had made several arrangements for us to meet up ...

Should I tell my online friend I like him even though he has mental issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - I have a good friend in Canada who I met online a few years ago. I would have to say he's one of my best friends, and as I've gotten to know him, I sort of developed a crush. Problem is, he's Canadian, and I'm American. He's 27 and I'm 18. He also ...

Sometimes I don't understand him, and it makes me sad

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5244 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - I'm feeling down tonight. It had been a few days since I had talked to my boyfriend and I missed him greatly. I was finally able to talk to him again tonight, and everything was pretty good. But then I mentioned how I was working on a Christmas gift ...

He worries I wont 'get over him' so we cant even be friends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5244 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - long story short, long distance thing, never met, but knew eachother from a friend, talked for 4-5 months (not every day) but wen we did talk it would be for 6 hours straight (like once a wk) and maybe a few minutes everyday) Got along real well, ...

Cheated in a long distance relationship... can I forgive her???

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5172 days ago

16 December 2009 (M) - I am in a long distance relationship with a woman in another country for 3.5 years now. She is 26 now. We love each other very much and our sex is so good that it is almost unbelievable. To my huge dissapointment, after 6 months into our ...

I need some feedback about a questionable friendship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - Re submitt question on my internet friend, I found this person on a looking for friends site , that was all i wanted just someone to e mail.I retired six months ago so i was bored i just needed someone to talk to. Nothing sexual i just wanted t...

Long distance relationship!!Advice needed!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

16 December 2009 (M) - Me and my g/f have been together for 4 years we lived together and traveled together but then we spent a yr apart from each other occasionally seeing each other every month etc. We decided to move in together which she said she was a bit nervous ...

We are happy, our mothers are happy but what will the wife say when she finds out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - Had a wonderful friend in high school, I knew he was in love with me but I just wanted to be friends, 4 years after graduation he comes back into my life,by then I am a young single mother to a 1 year old son and he said he would be honored if I ...

I haven't been able to contact my online g/f for a few months, I think she is cheating on me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

16 December 2009 (M) - For the past few months my girlfriend and I have lost contact. I've not been able to get hold of her at the best or worst of times with the constant reasoning that she's sleeping. I do understand some people have sleeping problems, however I call ...

Long distance and separated but both still in love. Maybe.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5244 days ago

16 December 2009 (M) - Long distance "relationship" I dated my girlfriend for a year and things were perfect. The entire relationship, we always had this tension hanging over our head. I'm 23 years old and told her right off the bat that in a year, I'd be moving to LA ...

I've really messed up, is there any chance of fixing this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5246 days ago

15 December 2009 (M) - I've messed up with a girl I care deeply for, is there any chance of fixing this? A girl I've been friends with for six years has recently become more interested in me. We've had the beginnings of a long distance (2 hours by car) relationship, an...

Does this sound like the beginning of Erectile Dysfunction to you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - Hi all Ive been with my partner for 18 months now, we see each other weekends mainly due to distance. But are looking for a place of our own. Obviously our sex life revolves around the weekends. This weekend seemed fine, we made love friday ...

Break up help...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I know what I need to do, but... ...but I still need reassurance? Strength? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He comes to see me twice a month and stays at my house. We talk to each other every day. I wanted to go see...

If I follow my career dream it means another three years apart

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We met when we were both working abroad over the summer, and when the summer ended we decided to keep things going even though he lives in Holland and myself in England. With the help...

Should I just get over it? Or should I tell him how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5250 days ago

11 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a long distance relationship for two years but have recently started developing feelings for my friend and i feel i need to end things. There have been a couple of drunken nights together with this friend, and he is very sweet to me...

I want to initiate contact again, but should I use the "read receipt" option?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5251 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I just have a quick question - but first a little background. While visiting fammily in London in October I attended the church I normally go to when there. I was able to attend on two Sundays out of my three weekends. I met and talked with a ve...

What can I do to still feel like he's around and not have to cry every night because I miss him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5252 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk on the phone and text every day. We're always in contact, but tomorrow he's leaving for his winter vacation and won't be back until January 7th. That's 4 weeks! He's going to a ...

How can I keep her from getting mad at stupid things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5252 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half and its getting stressful since it is a long distance relationship. We get along really well and I really do love her, but she gets angry at me for the smallest and stupidest things and it ...

I'm confused about the comment he made and don't know what to feel now

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are long-distance. To bring us closer I tried to do one thing he fantasizes about: anal sex. I don't like anal sex, never really had much of it and the little I had I didnt like. But my boyfriend wants to try it, and to not loose ...

Does my girlfriend love or hate me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - umm .. i am a male aged 24 and i have just recently got my first girlfriend at age 23. my girlfriend lives in a forain country at this time. although i have not physically met her i still love her. i have many problams with anxiety and stress t...

How do I deal with a beautiful woman hitting on my husband 1000 miles away?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I'm at my wits end. I'm trying to be rational but the emotional side is winning. I need help! I'm trying to keep a long story short, so please be patient. My husband took a temporary job for 8 weeks that is 1,100 miles from our home. The owner ...

Why did he suddenly stop contact with me after being so polite and so nice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been seeing a man I met through a dating site, we clicked right away because we have the same goals. He treated me with respect and always sent greetings to my parents. He was actually talking about marriage after 8 days of dating. He ...

Could he change his mind and want to see me when he's home?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - been with bf since august he wanted carry on relationship while he went in army. his pass out parade soon kept begging me go, we really close and always including me in future plans for next year, also said i really do make him happy then co...

Do I have a problem? My sex drive is through the roof!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5254 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - I'm a active healthy, woman, I work, go to school, eat and exercise, and as of lately, my sex drive has gone through the roof, I masturbate at least 2-5 times a day, I don't want to call anyone over because the two men I got gets tired, do you think ...

How to deal with stupid boys

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - So, i am not a typical relationship kind of girl. i never liked having a boyfriend or being tied down by commitment. i would much prefer to be single and go out and do whatever i want whenever i want with all of my friends. ive always been proud of ...