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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Long distance category)

Long distance: Help and advice

Breaking up--I want to be single and enjoy life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok, I'm going to try and keep this short and to the point. I love my girlfriend, but recently we have become distant (we have a long distance relationship, I'm in college, she's in high school). I have been thinking about us for the past week ever ...

You don't know what you've got until its gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon ...

How can you love someone and get turned on by other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Here's my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I am now convinced that I'm in love with her. So here's why I'm writing now... A few weeks into our relationship I found out that she gave me several STDS, some were easily...

How do I help boyfriend long distance? He's really struggling.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 55 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Wow, I haven’t posted on here for such a long time… basically, am in a longish distance relationship with this really amazing guy who I love to pieces. Last night he got taken into hospital after having really awful headaches and he is really ...

Will our relationship survive once I move?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - i have to move house with my parents and leave my girlfriend that ive been with for around 3 months. Basically my mum and her boyfriend loves wales and the go there quite often camping, and had been looking for houses to buy without me reali...

How can he end things with her without hurting her? I want us to be together.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - 4 yrs ago I was dating a guy named Jay, we had a great relationship and we loved each other very much. We ended up breaking up because I was moving across country for work. We kept in touch and remained friends. During the next few yrs he went ...

No negative advice! Do I go with the flow and see what happens?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - i am not looking for judgement or negative advice. alls im looking for is some guidance. and i know some things i did were massivly stupid. i have known him for almost two years. we met online through friends, and he lives in a different state ...

What do you reckon he wants?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hey everyone! just need some advice here. I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost seven months now. It is long distance but nothing terrible and over the summer I broke up with him because he was acting as if he wanted out himself ...

Geographically undesireable is becoming desireable

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, Great longing and an aching heart for someone far away brought me to you tonight. I look towards the wisdom and divinity of dearcupid.org to lean on. First, I will get right to the point, then provide support details and describe the...

My girlfriend never tells me she loves me and calls me homie! Should I be worried?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Okay I have a Problem with my LDR relationship and need some advice. Alright well My girlfriend of 2 months (we were friends before hand for about 5 months) Never tells me that she loves me while talking over skype as we do. She will type it to me ...

Does he want me eventually, just not right now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - i don't even know where to begin. i started seeing this guy over a year and a half ago. at the time when we met i was actually pregnant with another guys baby but the father didnt want to be involved at all. i decided that i wanted to keep the baby ...

I'm really worried our relationship won't last 6 months because of distance

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I'm 19 years old and i'm thinking of moving in with my boyfriend of a year, i really love him and we get along great when were together, but he's in the army and he goes away alot. Sometimes hes away for two weeks or even a month at a time. he's ...

What is the longest time you've survived without seeing your partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - 1.) What is the longest LDR (long distance relationship you have been in? 2.) Why did it end? 3.) What is the longest time you've survived without seeing your partner?...

My boyfriend has been away for three weeks, and I feel hollow and vulnerable without him. Is this feeling normal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - This is really strange but, my boyfriend has been away to Canada for three weeks out of 10 and without him I just feel very hollow, and like half of me is gone/ just no here. I don't know why I feel like this but I feel very vulnerable. And I just ...

He's dealing with family stuff, but I love him and don't want to lose him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - So, I'm in the Army National Guard. I met my boyfriend while we were training to get deployed. We have a great time together. He says he loves me to death and he was even thinking about asking me to marry me. That was untill he found out that his ...

Why can't I just move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I'm finding it really difficult to get over my first love... the only guy I've ever been in love with. To begin with, it wasn't an official relationship due to long-distance circumstances but I ended up falling for him. In the few months that we ...

How can I see her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (M) - what can i do? im so in love with my gf..but she moved alway to riverside. n im comin out here 15. we berly see each other. on friday to sunday. but now i only see her sum saturdays n sundays. man idk its hard to be with her. i dont want to break up ...

Was my exgirlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. My gut feeling always had this thought that she was cheating on me. She had a facebook account for almost one year but she disclosed this on me in the first week o...

Can he be so cold to not acknowledge the wrong that he's done?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 1/5 years and we spoke and emailed every day, several times a day, for several hours. We somehow managed to make it work. Last week I was away on business and told him i'd talk with him on sunday as ...

How do you get your ex back when he is in another country?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - how do you get your ex back?when he's in another country? now i know some of you would say:why do you want him back?or he's not worth trying..and blablabla... but i know for a fact that this is what i really want..i know he has feelings for me b...

B/f talking to his ex even though he knows I don't like it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - well, my boyfriend and i have bin together for past two years..although we live very far apart but still i have never been felt so low..i have started to feel insecure over these couple of days..sum days back we had a fight because of his friend who ...

How do I stop worrying about this person who was the love of my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - All right, here goes. A few months ago now (almost 4), my Ex and I of 15 months (with not a single fight)split - more accurately, she broke it off with me. Less than one month prior, she was telling everyone she knew - her friends, parents...

Should I get back with my ex? Or will the distance be too much to handle?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - my ex and i broke up about a month ago. it was a mutual thing, we went to college and the long distance thing wasn't working because we didn't have enough time to create a strong relationship first. we still like each other, we just can't make it ...

Do you think it is worth it to forgive someone who did this to you?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl for 3 years. We graduated college and had a long distance relationship. In this time she broke up with me for someone else. Im am pretty sure she cheated on me before she broke up with me for this other person. Well ...

My g/f really has downtime in a LDR

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 61 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, My girlfriend and I are in a LDR. I'm in college and she's in high school. She goes to school, then work then she studies and she hardly ever has any down time to just talk to me. I know she really does try to make time and i apprecia...

This guy has me confused! He doesn't want a relationship but wants to hang out all the time...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I have been talking to this guy for 4 months and I need help to figure out if it is going anywhere. We don’t live in the same town but are close enough that it’s easy to see each other. When we first met he was the one who would text me all the time ...

I've really fallen for him but all he focuses on is the distance between us!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - So I dunno how to start this or what to say tbh. I know this might sound stupid, but oh well. There is this guy i've spoke to for ages now, must be 2 years at least maybe longer or shorter..but anyway he is the nicest guy i've ever met and is reall...

Loving someone with an expiry date hurts!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 63 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I fallen for the most beautiful boy in the world, only thing is he's leaving the country. I always knew he wouldn't stay here, but now the date is set i'm shattered. Do I continue to play in the sun and enjoy our time, or stop this heart ache ...

Her past relationship screwed her up mentally, physically and emotionally, so she pushed me away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 62 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - So here's the deal me and my ex were together for nearly 2 years and throughout those 2 years our relationship was amazing. I must add that we were and still would be long distance (her sf me la) anywho we were really good together.....she shared ...

Am I considered too clingy in my LDR?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 62 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - Hi, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now and are in a LDR. I don't want her to think I'm to clingy. I ask her to keep me updated what she's doing throughout the day but not every second like what she's eating or anything. I just ...

We have a phone relationship. Could he like me romantically?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 64 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I've recently struck up a relationship with a man over the phone. We've known each other for many years, but he was married and I was married. He'll be divorced in January and I am also separated from my husband. We started talking innocently ...

Is my online, long distance boyfriend a player?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - He denied me to other women online that he doesn't have a gf. I am dating this guy online I am from another continent, he is in USA, we have been talking for more than a yr, we're in love but we have not met yet. He has been telling me to meet me ...

How do I go about living in New Zealand?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 64 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hi there, i need some help, i would like to go live in new zealand. Now i'm not exactl sure what the law says at present, i have heard a few weird things about work permits i have been on a few new zealand goverment sites but its not giving me what ...

The child will be a constant reminder of his cheating!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - I met my fiancé when i was 18 years old.He is the only man i have known.We dated for 2 years but then he got a scholarship to go to america for his post grad.For five years we have been in along distance relationship.He has been coming home each ...

What is the solution for a dramatic relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 62 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago after a relationship of 2 years. She is Canadian studying in Frankfurt, I am Austrian living in Luxembourg. We had a long distance relationship, seeing each other every weekend. When we met, she gave...

LDR and suddenly he's not responding

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 62 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hey guys, im in a bit of a muddle atm. you see, im in this long distance relationship with this guy ive known since i was a baby. Im 16, and i left England to live in australia 2 years ago, at this time we had been dating for about 8 months. ...

What should I send the girl online that I like? I was thinking flowers or a stuffed animal..

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 64 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - I met this girl online and we have been chatting for almost a year now. I really care about her and I want to do something special for her. She lives about half an hour away and we have been planning to meet, but I want to do something before we do. ...

My LDR seems to be fading away

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 65 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I started college not too long ago. It's a long distance relationship. I had the upper hand since I started it during summer, and everytime class ended or between my classes, I'd call him and he would always pick up. The long ...

Did this guy ever like me? Is he using my friend as a rebound?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 62 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - Dear ,cupid I recently met a guy and he an I were kicking it off really well We got to point of where we can tell each other anything in just one month. But he lives 5000 miles away and when visited him on vacation he offered to take me out t...

Common sense is telling me to move on. What do you think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - I was in a very loving, caring relationship with a guy for almost two years. At the end of July he had to move to Pennsylvania for grad school, and I stayed here in Hawaii to finish my undergrad degree. He will be there for the next year and a half, ...

How do I show him he needs to work for our relationship?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - WHAT CAN I DO BOUT THIS**LONG ONE**? I'm in a long distance relationship with a really nice dude. When we are face to face we get along extremelly well.Now that we're apart from each other we communicate through IM,email,text,calls. A few weeks ag...

I feel second best to her ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 67 days ago

17 September 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship; in November, we will have been together for two years. She started grad school recently, and she says that she wants a change of scenery because she's been sitting around the house lately ...

I know they messed around, but my wife won't admit it. How can I deal with how angry this makes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 67 days ago

17 September 2009 (M) - Im currently deployed to Iraq, I got married to my wife before I left and we found out she was pregnant. She is completely faithful and the best woman I've ever met in my life, I love her beyond words, and she will be my wife until the day I die. ...

Can he ask for custody to our baby?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

17 September 2009 (F) - ive been dating a turkish guy for a year and got pregnant. My boyfriend didnt want to marry me but we still keep the baby, ill born my baby in turkey. I still have a contact with my bf. My question is: can he ask custody to our baby and what is my ...

His skype had strange messages from girls wanting to webcam!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 66 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - Hey guys, any help would be much appreciated. My boyfriend and I have been going out 2 years. Were currently in a long distance relationship. I logged into his skype account to send a text as I had no credit on mine and he had messages from 2 girls ...

What's going on inside his head when he's away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 68 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a question about long distance relationships/friendships. I have a friend that I have known for 15 years. I have been told that he is in love with me and he has been since 3 years ago and I have to say that all the signs are there wh...

Should I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 68 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I broke up with my ex(long distance relationship) two years ago. I still loved him but couldn't bare the fact that he had a girl who lives in the same city with him. I can't forget about him and he's begging me to give him another chance and swears ...

I'm afraid of losing love in the future

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 68 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - Hey everyone i need some advice... My girfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and we've talked of our future. Although we're in a LDR we truly love each other but im just so afraid of losing her in the far future... I dont know wha...

I didn't say anything to her yet, and I need some advice on what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 68 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - I had a relationship with a girl right after summer ended. We had to go our own ways, but we still remained together, so it turned into a long-distance relationship. After a couple weeks, she said that long-distance relationships di...

I've fallen in love over the internet. The problem is that it's making me sick!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - I have been talking to a girl over the internet for years. I have always had a very big soft spot for her, and she has always had one for me. It has always been inevitable that we would meet at some stage. After talking over the mic a couple times ...