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writes:I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22, I've wanted to be with him for over a year, then I moved away for work in june,and he finally told me how he felt, we acted like we were together but wasn't due to long distance, when I came back for a few days I slept with a friend.. We weren't together and it was a mistake but I feel guilty! Now I've moved back home, and were properly together, things couldn't be more perfect, but a few people know, and it got mentioned the other night by a mutual friend, she said she wouldn't say anything, but I can't help thinking its going to come out eventually! I don't want to loose my boyfriend I love him.. But I'm scared if I tell him I will and if I don't it'll come out and I will, I don't know what to do :s x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): Tell him yourself, then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): if you dont tell him yourself he will find out anyway. is this what you want? He has a right to know because although you say you were not together because of the distance you both knew what each others intention was. he told you how he felt and you knew what he wanted from you exclusivity. being together/not being together is just mere concept. for me he told u his intention and if you ask him he will tell you that you that you both were an item.this "secret" will come out sooner rather than later. if you listen to everyone telling you that you were not "technically" cheating, you are mistaken. the reason you feel guilty is because you have something to feel guilty of.what would you really have? people mocking him and passing comments, ridiculing him, making him feel less of a man or having respect for him and telling him the truth. if you want a future with him you must tell him the truth.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (14 October 2011):
 If he wasn't your boyfriend when this happened then it wasn't technically cheating. However, if you hoped to become bf-gf at the time, having sex with a friend was not the wisest thing to do.
You have the choice to tell him what happened and hope he understands that you feel it was a mistake, or say nothing and hope anyone else who is aware of it, doesn't go blurting it out. Not that it's any of your friends' business, anyway.
I hope all goes well and you don't "loose" (proper word is LOSE, by the way!) him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): You weren't together then. There are girls in his past and you probably wouldn't want to know about them either! These things are better left unspoken and you shouldn't feel guilty about who you were with before you were official and neither should he!
How do so many people know about a one night stand you had?
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