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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...

What do you class as cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - OK, I wanted the aunts views on this.... What would you class as cheating?.... naughty phonecalls, texts, emails, pictures, thinking about someone else, a kiss, or full sexual contact?... My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails o...

I've confessed to almost cheating, now we need to talk. Where do I go first?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - To make a long story short, I almost cheated due to testosterone levels yet I didnt. I came clean via email and said that I'd like to talk. Now I must explain myself. I figger that my b/f at the moment is crunching on this since he has not respo...

I found out she cheated 2 years ago, now all she does is cry. How do I deal with this?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi Guys, If your partner of 20 years cheated on you just once and you found out by chance would you forgive and forget. She is the love of my life and a great mother. Apparently it happened with a mutual so called friend. I confronted her with thi...

My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. How can I get through this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Married with 3 children under 8 years and as I thought happy. My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. According to him it was a lustful affair but he didnt sleep with her. After a few weeks he finished ...

I cheated on my girlfriend. Should I tell her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I am in a new relationship with this girl, who I have fallen in love with. However stupidly, I slept with another girl. This other girl was one who I had liked for ages and to be honest I succumbed to lust. The guilt now is unbearable, and I truly ...

How can I learn to trust again...?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I find it really hard getting back into relationships with men and i find that i cannot trust anyone. You see i was going out with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years and he cheated on me, i was completely devastated however that was 4 years ago. ...

Where do you draw the line between cheating and not cheating when it comes to dancing?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm going to ask some... um, shall we say, hypothetical questions here about dancing and whether or not it is "cheating". Hypothetically if you've been with a guy for 4 years or so, and you do these things: 1. Slow dance alone in a room with anot...

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

Is Oxycotin to blame for his behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi well my question is abit difficult to ask but I will give it a shot.I will start by saying I was in a relationship which I fell in love with a guy and I thought he was in love with me.He had told me he was..but shortly after living together I ...

Can we fix this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...

An honest and anonymous study on infidelity

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - There have been so many posts about cheating and fidelity and who did or didn't do what. I thought it would be interesting to see what happened if everybody was honest and nobody was judgmental about infidelity. Here is what I propose: 1- P...

Should I go through with it or keep him as a friend and nothing more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - i was a teachers assistant my whole senior year for this art teacher and he was young looking i always tought he was cute since my sophmore year so i became his t.a because he insisted me to be his t.a. so we would spend allot of time together ...

Did I cheat on my boyfriend, and if so does that mean I'm not happy with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I'm very much in love with my boyfriend, we've been together for 7 months and it feels very right, like I've found my soul mate. I've been through enough abusive/controlling/violent and generally unhappy relationships to know that I'm definitely ...

Return of my first love...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I love him to bits but my first love is now back in my life and I'm falling in love with him all over again and we have started sleeping together. My head is so missed up I don't know what to do. I need ...

She tells me she needs me... but she's got a boyfriend! How do I handle this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - help!!! there is this girl who has had one boyfriend all her high school career, they have been going at it for over 2 and a halve years, i started talking to her 8 months ago. i have relaized that im and absolutly 100% in love with this girl, and ...

I feel like I have been "cheated" on, even though we aren't really a couple anyway. Help me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am 19 years old, and I have never had a girlfriend before. But during this past summer, I met this girl at my work who was amazing. I was very shy at first when talking to her, but as I started talking to her I could see we were making a ...

Is there any way I can save this? Whatever I say is falling on deaf ears!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - (i posted a few days ago, but have reposted with extra details) my boyfriend of three years works very hard, and long hours. he has a son who lives with him, and money is tight. i also work but part time, i have three sons and we usually s...

Should I leave my wife and live with her sister?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I've been married for three years to who I thought was the woman of my dreams. Over the three years our sex life has declined to non-existant. I've tried talking to her about it but she just says that she doesn't feel like sex anymore. I've told her ...

Should I end it if he doesn't trust me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help me, i'm 16 and have been going with my boyfriend for 1year and 9months, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i really regret this and would never be unfaithful to him, however, my boyfriend has trouble ...

I don't think I can be happy with him anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her? This 'friend' has been in my husband's life for a long time now abuot 4 years, we used to go to a certain pub each week and he would always be ...

To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...

No sex, is it still considered cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I have a dilema If a guy we had been seeing sees someone else but has not had sex with the other person. Is this still considered cheating?...

Who should I believe, my boyfriend or his ex wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriends ex wife told me that she and my bf had sex since weve been together. When I confronted him about it he said he almost had sex with her one time when she tried to seduce him. He said he stopped himself. However, months later she said ...

My boyfriend cheated with me on his ex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex wife 2 or 3 times that I know of. He has kids with her and sometimes talks to her 4 to 5 times a day, but not when I'm around. I told him that if he has nothing to hide he would talk to her in front of me. She ...

Did I do the right thing by staying with my husband?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I'm very confused, and feel like my brain is not functioning properly, I make a decision know it's the right one, then change my mind. I really want your advice. Should I stay with my husband. I want to stay and be happy together, but do...

How do I let the other man go without hurting his feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - i am / was in a relationship with a great guy. but had another on the side. i love my man and see my self even married to this man but i don't know how to let the other one go. l have feelings for the other one but i don't see a futre with that ...

Exposing the girlfriend for cheating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - I wanted to expose the events that happen in the last 5 months or so with my 4 years girldfriend who has a 9 y.o. kid. We meet up +4 years ago. She moved from her country to look for a better future for her and her son who was in her country. Whe...

Overhead my boyfriend say he would have sex with some girl!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I am 23 years old and am almost 6 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We love eachother very much. The pregnancy was planned, we both wanted and talked about it before it happened. I have a hard time tusting ...

The Love Triangle

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I have two best friends that are not necessarily friends with each other. One of the girls was my aquaintance for the past 4 years and has now become very close with me. I go to her for advice and she comes to me with her problems. We can count on ...

Am I a whore, or am I just confused?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - i have a bf, and ive cheated on him 2wice. he doesnt know about it. but both times, it wasnt just sex. with the first guy we had had feelings for each other for years and when i was visiting home him and i ended up sleeping together and having this ...

I'm married and in love with a younger co-worker. What should I do?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted today

28 October 2009 (M) - Hi All, I'm a 30yr old Married man for 1 year now, but have been in the current relationship for 10 years. After a very long engagement we finally got married, not because we didn't want to, it was just a money thing. We have 2 kids. One form ...

Should I persue this girl and our internet "relationship"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - me and this girl I know have been in a sort of internet relationship for about 2 or 3 years. Well actually we were in one for about 5 months and then we lost contact. So I guess you can say it was over. This was in 2006-2007. Forward to may 2008 and ...

Will she forgive me and date me again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My ex gf had sex with another guy while we were dating. When I found out I called her a whore. I was hurt bad. I felt like I was justified at the time for callin her that but now I know I wasn't. We havn't talked in almost a month. I want her back. ...

I am in love with a married woman. What can we do about it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - been married for 14 years have 2 beautiful kids but i'm not in love with my wife anymore i'm in love with another women who is also married 20 years. went to school and graduated with this women her marriage is bad also she is not happy we want to ...

Should I give him time? Or should I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - please read this although its long i really need someone to help me. i was with my boyfriend for three years, ten months into the relationship he cheated on me, it lasted for three weeks until i found out. we stayed together, and his cheati...

He backed off after I told him the truth about my past!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I met somebody about 8 months ago, he seemed to be a really genuine guy with good morals and lots of ambition like me and I really thought it could go somewhere. We had several dates and was all going well only I made the mistake of admitting I had ...

His cheating has left me feeling so insecure...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Ok this is a little confusing but here goes... I am 6 months pregnant and really don't enjoy having sex. My partner cheated on me before, and I'm worried he will do it again if we stop having sex. I've spoken to him about it and he said that...

Is there anything I can do to win her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Three months ago I took a trip to my hometown of Palm Springs California. I moved away four years ago and I had to leave in my senior year in high-school and moved to Bakersfield California finishing my senior year at Liberty High School. Back when ...

Does she think she is not worthy of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out ...

Should I have an affair on my husband?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...

Do you think I should trust him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - my partner of 6yrs went on a night out for a big game so lot's of drink consumed and when the team won partying didnt stop.... he went to a female work colleagues house who lives in the opposite direction to our house with two others after a night ...

We had an affair together and he ended it. Why is he still calling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Please can I havw advice on how is is acting, should I give up on him. Met a guy, liked him, he got married, we then had affair for many years, he kept promising to leave the wife etc. He said he would get a place for us never did, was still li...

Why do I feel guilty about ending her emotional affair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife had what I figure was an emotional affair a few years ago. There was a lot of texting. I don't think there was any physical contact and she came totally clean about it in the finish. It devastated me at the time and had a pretty bad affect ...

My husband cheated on me again while I was pregnant. Should I take him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hi there. I'm currently 9 months pregnant with my 3rd child. Around the 8th month of pregnancy I found out that my husband of almost 9 yrs was cheating on me with someone from another state (he's in the military and travels a lot). It sta...

Did he cheat with his child's mother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - sorry to write such a long story. i believe my bf cheated on me with the baby momma on saturday, i phoned him late that nyt the lady picks up and said my bf was asleep and cant speak to him, i hang up.. he called me the following day to say that ...

Did I do the right thing by calling my ex back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-convince-my-boyfriend-im-not.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/men-are-you-able-to-forgive-your-lady.html http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

...but should I stay with him??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - ok so ive been dating this guy for like a month and a couple days now and i think i really like him but like im not sure and usually wen i go over to his house his best friend is over there and me and my boyfriend got into an argument because ...

How do I deal with my unhappy marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - helo.im married for 8yrs now.i have 3 daughters with my husband.my husband was employed at first and in those days had many affairs with other women which resulted in him having two kids outside our marriage.we managed to work through all that and ...

I have cheated on my husband resulting in 3 abortions and now he wants a baby!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - its been 10 weeks since my abortion im trying for a baby but it keeps coming negative.iv had 3 abortions. Due to careless behind my hubbys back.but now my hubbys really desperate for a baby.please help....