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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

What are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 296 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. ...

Should I stay with husband? Or go to lover?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 297 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I had an affair for about 7 months, both my lover and I told our spouses.Both of our spouses want to try and work on our marriages.My lover said he told his wife he would give the marriage another chance. So we were stopped visiting and only...

I rushed into marriage and now another guy is looking good

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 296 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I'm 19 and i've been married for two years my husband is 24 we've been very happy for the past years but lately he's been treating me like he doesn't love me. i've talked to him about it and he says that he'll try to change but it only lasts about a ...

My friend wants to know if he's doing the right thing by getting back with his cheating ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I was wondering if i could get your opinions about a situation a friend is in, who asked me my opinion. My 27yr old colleague/friend G, who moved to Spain a month after i did, his dad youngest brother and step mum were already living here for ...

I just want to know if he's okay. Should I get in touch?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I wrote to you guys a while back regarding me and my patner who cheated on me for the whole 10 months we were together with his wife who he never left. I broke it off with him a month and half ago, I could no longer trust him, I felt sick every ...

Still love him but can't get over him cheating

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 289 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for just over four years. A year into the relationship, he cheated on me. I found out a week later and kicked him out and he then spent four months in a relationship with this other woman. All the while he was texting and ...

Should I have sex with a boy I lust for if I already have a boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Ok well Im 14 and I had sex with this boy that I was talkin to for 2 months and I always liked him the first time I saw him, and also we have health class together. anyways after we had sex a couple of days later I didn't talk to him for like a ...

How can I overcome thinking about how explicit they were?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 297 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I posted last September about my husband of 31 years having a text affair with a colleague, although they don't work at the same premises, he sees her at meetings. It is now 7 months since the first discovery and I found another batch in July ...

I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I'm in love but I suspect my man is cheating, how can I catch him...? I can't go through his phone because no one calls and he tells everyone that does call to call him back because he's with me. What do you suggest???...

I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - Hi there, I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends. I only found out as my 18 month old son was playing with her phone. I took the phone off him as I didn't want him to break it and found tha...

I'm hurting... how can I learn to trust him again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship now for 3 years and now have a 3 month old baby boy who we love amazingly, 3 months into the relationship my boyfriend went away to America and ended up extending it. I did ask if he had met someone else as it was odd, he ...

Is my friend acting this way because of her boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

30 January 2009 (?) - My best friend and me went to this party. She heard her boyfriend was there as well and she started looking for him. Long story short I saw her running down the stairs crying. When I ask her what was wrong (in private) she wouldn't tell me because ...

How can I forgive him? Where do I begin to find the forgiveness over the anger and pain?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 297 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - So I'm going to try and be brief with my history. I am married to the absolute love of my life. He has done everything completely right...Up to this point. Back in october 08 I took in a 17 year old girl who was heading down a path I knew all too ...

Why did my boyfriend lie about the mystery girl he was texting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why did he lie about something like that? I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been on a break since november. Until around christmas, we had very little contact. For about a month, he didn't answer my calls or text messages, etc. B...

A foolish affair turned sour.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Regretfully, I have been having an "affair" with one of my husband's oldest friends. This guy lives over 500 miles away from us, and we have met up a few times, and talk for hours on the phone/e mails. I've left my husband, not for this guy, but for ...

I now question if she ever loved me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 297 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I have been with my wife for 6 years. She recently cheated on me and the person she was cheating with needed a place to stay and she had him move in with us. I found out what was going on about a month and a half afterwards. He petended to be my ...

Both cheating on our spouses for 7 months but never had sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have been having an affair with a man that is 17 years older than me. We have been seeing each other for 7 months and have not had sex. We have very passionate kissing sessions with lots of petting and that is fine with us both. We are both okay ...

I am pregnant and don't know who the dad is? One is white, one is black

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am 4 months pregnant and my boyfriend who thinks he is the dad and is in prison. My midwife worked out my due dates and the baby could have a different father, who is black called W. I slept with them both within a day of each other (as I...

My husband and my friend... an item?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 11 year and were together for 14 years. Then about two and a half years ago I injured my back at work. It has been rough on our relationship that is for sure. We were making it though we supported each other ...

Is cyber sex just as bad as physical cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 96 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, i have a problem i am in a happy relationship i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he works away in the week i only see him at weekends. I have been chatting to this guy online but i also now him, everytime we talk after a while it ...

I think my husband is cheating on me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I think my husband is cheating on me! I know this is true because of the things he’s been doing to me and my kids. His behaviour has changed dramatically towards me ion the last two months and I could really kill right him this very moment. Let...

I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...

Relationship going nowhere

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 300 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We're both in college and we've have a ton of problems. 2 years ago i kissed another girl and she never really got over it and we still get into talks about my past with girls (too many before her ((14)), ...

I'm worried about bachelor party, strippers & lap dances!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hello, I'm getting married and well, of course I'm excited. My fiancee is great. He truly is. But I have a bit of a problem regarding the bachelor party. I don't think he'll cheat. But of course there will be strippers. it's a tradition, and...

I feel like I am the other woman even though he was with me..she's still in the picture

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I am so deprest, this year has been a very hard year for me. My fiancee and I broke up like 10 million times last year because he cheatted on me. I called of the engament but I woul always find my self accepting him back. This year he cheated on me ...

Does my ex want me back after he gets engaged to someone else????

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - This guy was my best friend of 5 years and my boyfriend for 2 of those years. Recently he and I stopped talking cause he randomly got engaged to a girl he has only known for a month and a half. (Personally I don't think they're gonna make it) My ...

Hoe can I prove how sorry I am after I cheated on my BF?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Dear cupid I'm 16, i lost my virginity when i was 13, but anyway, im 16 now and i have a boyfriend and i went to a party and i met this guy who i didn't realize is my boyfriends 2nd cousin, i had sex with him at my boyfriends house and he cau...

He thinks I cheated and now he won't talk to me, help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Heyy; i split up with my boyfriend a few weeks back; because he thinks i cheated on him. the story is i live quite far away from my school; so i have a different group of friends during the holidays to who i would hang around with at school. Well; ...

My guy and my half-sister...I am convinced something is going on...please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Somebody please help me???!!! I have this aching feeling that my half sister whom i have had a rocky relationship with is creeping with my dude!!! He once had a show 2 years ago..and she showed up wit friends because she knows someone else in ...

I love him, but staying with him would make me a home wrecker. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - o dear god you are going to think that i am a right ho but im not honest. i had the most amazing sex this is what happend. i work wid the guy ok and he asked me if i wanted to go for lunch and i said ok not thinking anything of it den he drove us...

My g/f doesn't know that I was on her profile and know she is sending naked photos of herself to another guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - i went on my gf's tagged profile and she sent a message to another guy saying she will send him pics of her naked and so on. i wasnt meant to be on there so what am i suppose to do?...

One day you'll read my book..I need help..I'm a train wreck!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - long story short... adult story girl meets boy on lake, 2 weeks later he moves across country... their friendship turn to love and he moves back for her. They get a house things are going good and SNAP everything goes to shit. He basically rap...

I can't believe him, did he ever care about me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 300 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me. The sad thing is I had a feeling he was cheating on me. I kept asking him did he still want to be in the relationship and he would always say yes I am in love with you. I would ask is there someone ...

I feel regret to cheat my lover, I don't know if marriage is ok?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 301 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have cheated several times, and when caught, I appologise and am forgiven. Although trust hasn't been back in the relationship, because he has my email password and checks it. Recently I have called my ex-boyfriend and I have fear he understands ...

Cheating and found out!!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I had been having an affair for about 2 years with a former co-worker (I recently got a new job). He's married with kids, I live with someone. We spoke everyday, multiple times a day, on our way to and from work, sent each other goodnight emails ...

I can't stop seeing prostitutes...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 105 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - hi agony agony aunts and uncles, I have a problem which is really getting me down. To put it bluntly in the last year I have had sex with more than 20 prostitutes. I have no problem getting women the normal way (one might even call me a player...

I'm scared he's going to cheat on me (maybe with a girl?)

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 301 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I recently foundmy perfect boyfriend, and although it doesn't seem long we are celebrating 3 weeks together tomorrow. However pleased I am (as normally people get sick of me by now) I am sometimes worried as I think he is going to dump me at ...

I am considering having an affair with a married man

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I've known a guy for about a year through some other male friends, and have never been that bothered with him. Last time I went to see my friends I spent most of the evening with Mr X and we found that we had a similar hobby, exchanged numbers and ...

I have a constant need for someone other than my husband to want me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 280 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - my husbands caught me out cheating. 2nd time in 10 years, so im sure you can imagin the trauma we are going thru right now. i do love him but i think for his good i should leave, i think my heads messed up from my childhood and i cant be ...

He's married, so why does he need a girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 41 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - i've been married to my husband for two years.. but seems like i still don't know who is he.. i found quite several time that he with another girl.. even bring the girl to the house when i'm not arround. i try to forget and forgive. coz i really ...

How can I trust again and what is going too far?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 299 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I recently stopped dating this guy, about 4 months ago, we had been together for 2 years. After the relationship ended, he confessed to me that he had been cheating on girls throughout the relationship. I am quite glad that I got out of the ...

He told some foreign girl online that he was single--leave him or dismiss it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 298 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - I've been going out with this guy for about 3 weeks now, and I was friends with him for about a month before that. Anyway, like it or not, a standard protocol of mine when I am with a guy is to, after a few weeks, go into my bogus myspace ac...

I suspect my b/f of cheating. How do I talk to him about it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 301 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - I need help urgently!! I have been with my boyfriend now for over 2 years. I suspect him of cheating and we going to sort it out tomorrow evening after work etc... He had denied it all and my reason for suspecting him is I know him better than ...

My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 302 days ago

26 January 2009 (?) - My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband. I would never do that and I already have a (hot) boyfriend. Ever since our other sister slept with her ex bf (which was 3 years ago and she didn't even let her come to her wedding) she been ...

Battling my thoughts vs obsessive vibe

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 303 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - Sorry if this is long, but any input will be appreciated. I am currently 22, and in all of my relationships I have always been the type of guy who was never fully committed. Even is I was taken, I would still hold sexual conversations wi...

Is he waiting to see if something better comes along?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 303 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - My other half was formally a bit of a womaniser and while we were on and off a long time ago he cheated on me. Since then we have become stable and moved in together and he became a completely different person. i feel like i can trust him completely ...

I'm so cut up he chose her over me and cannot get over the pain.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 296 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - I have just come out of a cycle of getting caught up with my ex although he is seeing the girl he cheated on me with. I can now see he just came running to me when he couldn't take the heat with the current on/off girlfriend, and would always go ...

Do all married men want to make love to other women?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 185 days ago

25 January 2009 (M) - My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...

He has a g/f and doesn't even care if I contact her

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 214 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - dearcupid i've been seeing a guy 11yrs my junior and he has a girlfriend. this had been going on for nearly 9 months. i know it's wrong, so i don't need anyone to tell me it's wrong. i just can't seem to leave him alone. i've even went as far as t...

He didn't tell me he was getting married, and now married he still calls me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 303 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - Ok so I used to work with this guy, we got along really well started dating. Things were great until I found out he was getting married. Yeah.. we even had sex. We were dating in the summer until early september. He got married in october. Even now ...