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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I thought he was a player, so why is he obsessing over me??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months, on and off. it seemed like it was going nowhere, so I slept with this other guy I had just met not that long ago. He knew I was already seeing someone and He's kind of a player so I assumed he knew ...

Cheating, Love, and Hate.. I don't know what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This es...

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i...

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his ...

I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 104 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...

I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happenin...

He has a girlfriend but is there any way to get him to like me more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Okay ... i like this guy , but theres quite a few problems , hes 3 years older than me , my friends have already reacted and called me a slut , but i like him too much to care , he has a girlfriend , but hes had a sort of 'crush' on me. He was alwa...

Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of ...

Will I have the same problem with my partner as I did with my ex when I'm pregnant?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - im 20 just found out that im pregnant by my bf who is in love with me completely.i have a child by my ex boyfriend but whilst pregnant with my first child he cheated on me alot so after my child got over the age of 1 yrs i ended the relationship and ...

Help! I think my dad is having an affair!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Am suspecting my dad is having an affair with a lady, about 2 months ago he had to go to another town for a contract that was awarded to him and comes home on weekend. I've not really been around though but last week when i came back from school he ...

She's up late at night doing who knows what? Is this a sign she is cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My gf says am not payin her any attention and that one day i would regret it...now ever since we met i have been there for her emotinally and all the rest of it and lately i've realised that she 's up late at nights doing god knows what. dear read...

Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?

This question has 71 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...

Have I made the right choice?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok, I need some advice to know whether I have made the right choice. If you only have negative things to say, dont bother, I am not here for a bashing, I just want to know if I have done the right thing. I have been married 13 years, and have ...

My wife had filed divorce because of my internet addiction, how can I get her back?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 114 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for almost six years. It is a second marriage for the both of us. When we first started dating the passion and love making was amazing. As we continued dating and became engaged, things stayed fantastic. As we ...

How do I confront my partner about his cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my partner for over 7 yrs. He has cheated on me once, early in the relationship when it was not 'exclusive' but it hurt me a lot. About 6 months after that I went through his phone and found lots of intimate messages between him and ...

We stayed together after her affair, but she's not happy!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 100 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - My wife had an affair last year. We are still together as I was desperate to keep things together. The thing is, she doesn't seem very happy. I'm certain she's not seeing this chap anymore but she seems so miserable all the time and cry's whenev...

He cheated, how do I regain the trust needed to get over the betrayal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 104 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i neeeed soo much help... ive never asked for help but i need help... he recently cheated on me but realised he made the biggest mistake in his life and we have been tryna work things out ever since... the thing is i dont trust him and though i know ...

Which guy should I pick?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I have been with this guy for more than 4 years now. He is my first love and my best friend. We had our share of problems but amidst all that we managed to survive. My mom loves him like he's her own son and his family and my family are really great ...

I've tried to trust but just can't. I don't want to be alone forever!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I was sexually abused when i was a child so i have very little trust in men as i've got older the guys i've dated have been abusive and cheated on me. Now i'm at the stage where i just can't trust, i've finally met a guy who treats me like a ...

I am desperate for help and need a way out of this!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been struggling with a situation for months now and recently things came to a head I just couldnt bear it anymore. I'll try to be as brief as I can about a complex situation... I'm gay and have a partner but she and I have had ups and down...

Any advice on why she is acting crazy?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - What is worse - being cheated on by the man who said he wants to marry you, or having him accidentally break your nose during an argument? I want to be with my girlfriend more than anything in the world but she just doesn't understand me so...

I think I love him but he annoys me with his silence..... is it fair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - well i met a guy a while ago through a friend and i tend to like him in the same way he liked me too.we decided to build up something concrete in the sense that it supposed to be something strong which can not be destroyed that easy.but this has ...

Her daughter told me she is cheating on me...who do I believe?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - i got a question for you all.. i have been in a long distance relationship for 12 months. 3 months ago my girl cheated on me with another ..he was an old boyfriend..she said it was the distance and booze that helped her do it.. she said that in wil...

I cheated. How do I prove I'm not that person anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I cheated on my ex bf for about a month in April. We lived together 5 out of the 7 months we were together. Things got really difficult because he was having financial and family problems while i felt we were drifiting away. I realized our fla...

Why did I act as such a fool? Have I lost him for good?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hello there, I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling like a complete fool and move on after breaking up with my bf of 9 yrs. I'm sorry if this is a bit long, bit here goes... I met him 9 years ago at Uni, fell in love hard and fast, and 2 ...

No Sex Nellie: thinking of having a fling!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am 45yr old female married for 16yrs.Is it abnormal for me to still want sex as my husband seems to be incenced if I approach him.I am getting desparate and thinking of having a fling. No Sex Nellie...

Should I forgive my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...

A girl kissed my boyfriend, is this considered cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend just told me that another girl kissed him.it happened 7 weeks ago.he was out and stayed in his friend's house,he went to bed in his friends house.later a girl came into the bed and turned to him and kissed him.she kissed him twice.he ...

My husband doesn't know that I found out about his cheating, what should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My husband tells me he loves me but he has been texting this lady since 2008 up until now. I see the number on the phone bill but he doesn't know I know. What should I do?...

Do I just let him go and forget him, or do I keep trying to make this work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend or try and make it work? I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years (he is 25.) We are mostly happy but have broken up a few times, and have had periods of intense arguing and ...

Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...

I still love her..but does she love me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 118 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - hi i am in a separation with my wife we have 2 kids ,one she had with another guy before me but i have been there since her birth. i love them and i still love her. we have broke up before and in a matter a days she has found someone to date. one of ...

I'm being pursued by a married man! Not interested! Is it time for me to find another job?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I work with a married man..nice guy but married so I am not interested. The problem is that he is interested in me...I think. He will talk about his wife all day long and then email me in the evening saying he is looking forward to seeing me the ...

How should I tackle things with my cheating hubby...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Dear Readers Hi! I'm a 31 years married lady and mother of two young kids. I'm beautiful fair and my hubby and his family and friends thought him to be very lucy to wed me I'm married for past 7 years. I can't recall a single day when i could ha...

Do I let her go even though I love her or do I try to get her to be with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - I am not sure where this should be posted, and I am unsure of why I am posting at all but I am completely confused by my feelings. I am in my mid 30's and technically single. I have not been in a "relationship" in 5 years, but I also am not the ...

I think my husband is having online affairs!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - think he is at it again my husband was caught internet cheating 2 months or so ago and hes suppossedly was behaving but in the last 2 weeks or more hes deleting his internet stuff off the phone again (our only access to internet at home) im sure ...

We had an affair, then became just good friends. But his wife found out, so now he has stopped contacting me, and I am left heartbroken...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Ive just been told its over by my best friend/ex lover. Me and this married guy had an affair about 2 years ago. It lasted for a year and then we stopped seeing each other like that. But we remained in touch. Gradually we built up a friendship, a ...

He constantly makes up lies! Do you think he's cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am in a long distance relashionship.I am a registered nurse with two children, uprooting my life is complicated.The person I am in the relashionship with lives at home with his Grandmother,works but is not really successful.When I first met him he ...

The man I was dating has been cheating on me. What should I do if he contacts me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (?) - I'm so sad tonight. I have been dating this guy for 4 mths. we have met families. talk everyday. He actss like a boyfriend. Things didnt add up so I surprised him tonight by showing up at his house because this morning he texted saying he would call ...

Why not let me see the message? Why lie?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Im am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. Before we got together he used to cheat on a girl he was seeing but changed when we got together. We have been together for just under a year and he hs never cheated on me and we have a really good ...

How can I prove that I won't do the things he did?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - A girl that i met on a online dating site, who originally approached me online first likes me a lot and I MEAN A LOT, probably the most a girl has ever liked me, and i like her as a person and her looks. Ive seen hundreds of pics of her and she has ...

Please help, missing pieces!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'ved dated this guy for seven years, he is the first and last person I've ever have to asked if I need or wanted something however, he has cheated twice that I know over and we've been seperated for over six months and I've began to sleep with some ...

If I don't move out I'm homeless! I'm pregnant and my boyfriend is looking at porn and cheating!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - hi i need some help, im very scared :( me and my bf hav been together a year, im 19 and pregnant with his baby, he's lied to me in the past about where he was going, he's given me 3stds, im proper possessive over him as i suspect hes bin cheatin ...

Will he wait for me while I'm in another country?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 119 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had been together for about6 months, but we were seeing eachother for about 6 months before we made it official. We both loved each other deeply and everything was going fine until I recently cheated on my boyfriend by kissing ...

When does friendship become more than friends?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Okay, I have a question. Say a woman is married and she has a good male friend (we'll call him Mr. X) that is also friends with her husband. Mr. X and the woman are pretty good friends, closer friends than he is with her husband, but she and Mr. X ...

What would you do if you found your 40 husband in bed with a girl age 18-21? Help me

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girls blonde, young everything he would like and i even found texts on his phone where he told her she was hotter than me, and would prefer h...

I fear my husband isn't attracted to me anymore and is having an affair! Is anyone like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 119 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I'm a housewife since our son was born 5 years ago. Taking meds to get preg for 2nd baby.I'm tired most of the time(due to medicines i think)I'm overweight and I know my husband is not attracted to me though we have sex twice a week. I'm scared o...

What do you think about this player... does he like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 119 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Hello. Well I need help here....to know where I'm standing...I met this guy on a bar (he works there) and ask me for my cellphone. He works close to my house and I always see him and chat. Anyway, last thursday he came home after work to have a ...

I'm the Other Woman...How do I break away from this man?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I need help! Help me get over this mm, I don’t like this relationship that I’m in, as good, great and as much as I love it.. I don’t want to be the other woman.. it hurts.. hurts like hell!!! So help me… how do I break away from this man! I’m ...

I have been cheated on before and now I think my new boyfriend is cheating too!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 99 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Boyfriend trouble..... Not sure what to do/think....................? I have known this guy that I am now seeing for almost a year. We just recently started dating almost 2 weeks now. I am 28 years old and have a 9 year old daughter. He is ...