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Archived questions from: February, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

She kissed another guy! How could she do that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 266 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - I have a LDR and my girlfriend that's so far away called me and told me that she had made a mistake and that she and this guy kissed.. But she promised me she is not seeing her any more. We have talked it out but... I still feel like weird... from ...

My "text" affair has gone wrong and I fell for him, any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 266 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a happily married woman who has been having a text 'affair' with an older fella who I met through work although we don't work together. He is in a position of high standing and he has made me feel good and given me confidence. I feel he started ...

He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 265 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I been going through some shit lately. He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it. He tells me it's only because of the kids he loves me, so it's best if we keep just a friendly relationship. ...

I feel like an old stupid woman!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 251 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a 53 year old caucasian woman. Been married for 28 years. My husband is 58. Have four adult children lost an only son to suicide. My husband cheated on me for 1 year with three asian young women. He had a five month affair with one and took ...

I am a married woman in love with a younger guy, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 260 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a married woman in love with a younger guy, what do I do? My husband is abusive how do i get out of this marriage? ...

How can I get over always thinking he wants to be with her??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 266 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex last year while i was heavily pregnant with our 2nd son, and even though i hated him at the time i took him back. Now our son is 4 months old, and our first born is 2, and my boyfriend wants us to start ha...

Knowing how serious they were...I'm not sure I can be with him anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My partner cheated on me in 2007 but we got back together after 6 months, 4 of those months he was with the woman he cheated on me with. When we got back together he said that she'd meant nothing to him, that she just showed him some attentio...

Will all of this that I have found out "blow" over???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 264 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I just found out my wife cheated on me while we were engaged. I'm really angry and hurt. I don't know what to do. We were engaged and got married in Summer 2007. There was one time we had a big fight and didn't speak for 2 weeks, but didn't break up...

Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers.. I found dozens and dozens of emails in his account going back and forth with hookers on Craigslist.He travels a lot, and most of the cities he was in, he seemed to correspond with the hookers ...

I have a b/f but I miss the thrill of the chase that I could have with this new guy, any thoughts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Im happily in love with my boyfriend, and though we have our ups and downs, its great, only thing is, theres this guy.. and i dont like him, but he speaks to me on msn and lately hes been telling me he likes me .. he gave me his mobile number and im ...

How do I know if he'll lie and deceive me again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My husband has been having an affair for 9 months. Twice he said he would never see her again. The third time I kick him out. He has been living with her the last 2 months, lying and deceiving me. He was calling a dating service 13 years ago for 3 ...

How can I get my colleagues to mind their own business?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Hi me and my wife both work at the same office but in different departments, my wife is senior to me and have had a one night stand with my boss and now she is pregnant with his baby. My boss has made a MMS of him and her and is circulating the same ...

Would it be sensible to hold off on the military until I'm divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - okay, so im leaving for basic within the next two months, I have been dating my boyfriend for awhile now...and when i say awhile, im not talkin about more than a year. I love him to death, i would take a bullet for this man. Here is the probl...

My long term b/f has caught me on several dating sites and left. Shall I forgive him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 264 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My long term bf has caught me in chat rooms and several dating sites over the last 9 months. We argue,like a child he walks out and doesnt come back for a week or so. All i do is harmless flirting and the odd guy i text. We broke up and this time i ...

Husband takes viagara but I'm not reeping the benefits!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I think my husband is cheating, were do I begin. 6 Years ago I fund a pack of 4 viagra hidden in his wallet (I only picket it up because I though it looked a bit tatty and I would buy him a new one), I cuckled at first until I realised 2 were ...

I want to break up but I'm afraid of what he'll say about me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - hello dear cupid friends francy is back on track again............ lol... well i have a problem with my current boyfriend , we have been dating for a year and two months now...... the thing is ,he once cheated on me with a girl in the same town as ...

Found out that my ex cheated on me, and I feel guilty and have trust issues.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - i just found out my ex (broke up with me less than a week ago) cheated on me. i'm trying to deal with things in the best way possible. i'm not doing psycho ex stuff, or trying not to. i'm letting out steam by talking to my friends. i constantly tell ...

No proof of cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I have been cheated on multiple times, and emotionally rejected. My best friend went out with my ex basically. And that relationship only lasted 4 years then broke up. Now that I am in a new relationship of 6 years now, I always have a gut feeling ...

I was working 4 jobs and she was at home watching tv & cheating on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I did perhaps the greatest mistake of my life. I met a girl who was coming out of an abusive relationship and I decided to give it a GO. I worked 4 jobs at some point but still had time to attend her emotional and physical needs. I workship and a...

He cheats because he doesn't want to get hurt...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - i have a boyfriend who has been thru alot he fears being cheated on so he hurts me first. he cheated on me and got the girl pregnat we are now back together but i fear it may happen again. he admits he has a problem and that he wants help and needs ...

I can't stop snooping because I worry he will cheat, please help me me keep my family!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm going to start off by saying I feel like I have really accepted that part of him, soemtimes anyways. But I just cant stop snooping. I worry all the time that he is cheating, why you ask becuase I was with a guy before him who ...

Manipulated, lied to, and cheated on by whorehouse

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do! My husband and I have almost been married for a year and we have a 5 month old baby. He had been going out a lot for "business" and would never answer my phone calls or even call me regardless of the fact he was out WAY ...

My husband is "gay for pay"?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Earlier this week I came home from work and found my husband in the living room on the floor writhing with another guy. The windows were blacked out. I asked him what the hell he was doing, and he was brazen enough to say he was making guy-on-gu...

Did I make a mistake by confronting the woman I suspect had an affair with my hubby?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Ok, a few years ago I think my husband had a affair with his cousin's wife who is also my best friend. I never caught them in the act but my instinct tells me something was going on. Signs after signs like she knew things about him before I did or ...

How would she of gotten his email address if he wasn't a member?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - i found a email from a girl in my husbands email box that had her email address. she claims to be from adult friend finder and it read this. hey its been like a month or something since we last chatted and I was thinking about you and decided to s...

I bought a ring to ask him to marry me..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend thinks I am cheating on him; he came home and I was hanging out with one of the people he works with; but we've all hung out before ;and I didn't think anything of it. All me and this guy did was talk about tattoos, concerts, some ...

Cheated on b/f now I'm 7 months pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I cheated on my b/f back in september and now im 7 months preg. well my b/f found out about it and left me. it is killing me not bein with him or talkin to him all the time he said he might take me back if the baby is his but thats not good enough i ...

Is there any hope for me and my former cheater husband?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Hi, Im wondering If anyone can help my sitation, I was I in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4yrs. He left me 2 months ago, I found out lasy year he was having a affair with a married women for about 7 months. Any way He pleaded with me to work ...

I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - i think my girlfriend may be having sex with some one else. she is a lot wider down there than what she used to be, i have been seeing her for a year know and i dont fit aswell as i used to. am i write in thinking this way. can some one help me out ...

I found out my girlfriend had cheated in the past and is lying to me too....Can I trust this girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - My question is similar to one I've read, but I want to post the question for myself. I'm in a relationship where the trust has been damaged, I've been lied to a few times. Each of these lies had a "purpose", or some kind of plausible reason...

Seeing married teacher...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Okay, SO I really like this old teacher of mine (graduated '08) and he likes me to. We've made out and done some touching and what not and are "planning" on more. I really really like, enough to say I love him. I *don't* think he loves me, he is ...

Wife wants my consent to follow sexual lust for another man...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions fallen out rather dramatically over suspected cheating on my part. It's always been the case that she found out he...

I keep having dreams that my boyfriend is cheating on me...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I always have dreams that my boyfriend is cheating on me. I do not see any signs that he is and I don't think he is but what do you think this means... about once or twice a month... I have dreams that he is with someone else....

Curiosity killed the cat???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - Hi my dilemma is from the fact that I found out my girlfriend cheated on me. However there is a catch to it! As my girlfriend was checking her mail and forgot to sign out, I being nosy and completely in the wrong decided to read some of her emails. ...

I'm sooo totally paranoid!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for two months but we we're "getting together" several months before we did. He's a lovely guy and totally different to all the idiots i've been out with! I know people say that a lot and get let down but I truly be...

Should I break it off, because I can't accept his child in my life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Here is my story and wonder what should I do? I am back with my ex boyfriend that I was with when I was 16 (now 21) we dated until I was 18.. I had to move to the mainland after high school. I cheated on him before but he took me back and our ...

I don't want to be the reason she does something crazy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - So I broke up with my girlfriend last night. we have been dating for 2 years. I am very much in love with her, but She cheated on me more than once. Last night she came over to "talk" she started to cry and then after a while of begging me to take ...

I can't get over my hubby's affair of 2 years ago, help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Well, its been 2 years, since my husband had an affair. I still can't get over it, will I ever? He is there for me he never leaves me, I know he is remorseful, and he makes sure I know where he is at all times...but I can't get over it, why, when ...

She can't get over that I cheated on her

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - I had a texting fling with a younger woman and my wife seems to class it as 'cheating' even though it was a daft game which has all finished now. I stupidly left some of the texts on my phone and she found them (should she have been snooping?). It ...

Did she or didn't she

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - my girlfriend confessed to having sex with another guy. she even gave some detail. after a couple of days she told me she made it all up! i dont know what to believe! my gut tells me that she did! what do i do?...

I cheated on my husband, and then lied to him about how far I went with this man. How do we move on in our relationship?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Hello, I have a huge dilema, I cheated on my husband and it all came out about 9 months ago,the affair stopped and my marriage is still intact, although it has taken a lot of trust and patience from my husband.I have been married a long time and ...

For anyone who has forgiven a cheating partner, how did you do it? How long did it take you?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - How do I forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me? How do I get the images of the two of them out of my head? A short background: My boyfriend broke up with me last March and slept with a girl that night. We got back together a day or two later...

I kissed another girl, but I didn't plan to cheat, help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 and half years now. Last week when she was away I went to the cinema with a friend of mine who is female as it was her birthday. After the film while waiting for her mum is was a bit cold so we hugged ...

My husband has cheated over and over again

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I know you will read this and say i deserve what i get here goes. 12 months ago(feb 08) i was told my husband was having affair,i confronted him and he admitted to seeing this girl whom he worked with but said it had only been going on for a couple...

I love you. Why can't you feel the same?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Ok. Some people are probably going to ignore this question. So, I`ll ask that you just stick around to hear my ENTIRE story. *sigh* I fell in love, and that sounds cliche. But, as we all know, everything does, and, it`s true. I love him so much...

I really like him but he never shows his feelings toward me in front of others!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Well there is this guy,and he has a girlfriend + he is my best friend's brother. Blah,he is just really confusing. Like,he tells me he loves me and whatnot,and We have had..um,"action" in the past. But when we are around people,he just hides it...

How can I leave my past behind?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Recently i started dating an ex of 8+ years although i was in a long term relationship with another man of 7+ years. I allowed myself to get in this situation as i always had a weakness for my ex and he said all he things i wanted to hear(he was ...

My man has a history of cheating on me and dating teenage girls. Now another one says he's with her, but he denies it. Am I wasting my time on a man that'll never change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I would like to make it clear that i love my man 101% before i go any further! I'm not sure how to put this but I've been with my man about a year and a half and all is good but in the early day's he did cheat on me with someone but...

I sincerely regret I cheated on my wife, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - I have messed up. I cheated on my wife. I tried to come on to her best friend and I feel awful. I was going to tell her about it tonight when I got home but her friend already has. She says she is done with me. How can I get her to stay with me. I ...

I need objective advice... She wants to be friends... is there any serenity in this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - I began a relationship with a woman who was younger than me a little over five years ago. Initially I didn't imagine the relationship would last given numerous variables beyond our age difference, but as time went on I quickly learned that I had ...