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Archived questions from: March, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I have slept with my best friend in the past, and my fiance has no clue

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 236 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - I am 32 and have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We have had our ups and downs and I have caught him cheating three times (but who knows how many times he has actually cheated?). He used to put me down regularly and I am not happy with our ...

We broke up because he is playing around!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 237 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - We broke up because he is playing around!! He told me he loved me and would never break up with me and leave me and he'll never love any another girl. I loved him so much but lately we've been fighting so much because he's lying to other girls and ...

Shows interest in other women..disappears for an hour at a time..cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - Hi, i am a 25 year old dating a 43 year old man, the relationship is comfortable, but i cannot tell if it is too comfortable. Me and me husband have sex every night and we both say we enjoy it, but i am starting to think my husband is getting ...

I don't want my ex to find out I am cheating with his friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 238 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - my ex broke up with me because i cheated on him with a family member.. we are now planning to meet face to face so we can talk things over, but am having a fling with his best friend again which is still unsolved and he has not heard of it just ...

Do you think chatting with people online is considered cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - Do you think chatting with people you don't know online (like on adult friend finder" is considered cheating or almost cheating?...

My ex has become my best friend but what does he want from me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 238 days ago

31 March 2009 (F) - I found out recently that my boyfriend of one year has been cheating on me. He moved here last year for school. I found out about the other woman by accident. His explanation is that they were dating before he moved here, but he didn't love her, ...

Is it best for us to stay together or go our seprerate ways?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 221 days ago

30 March 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 15 and I have an amazing girlfriend, she's also 15. Well we've been going out for two years and we've had our ups and downs but were still together. here are some of the bad things. She cheated on me about 2 or 3 times with her her ex that ...

What if he's the one I'm supposed to be with ???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 230 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - I'm with my guy for 6 years.... love him to death. Perfect on paper and in person. Handsome, outgoing, sweet and would do anything for me. He's my best friend and we're getting married in 6 months. Our families and friends love us together and ...

My husband chose his family over his affair. But now we are "lost"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 236 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - My husband had an affair, he broke up with her and chose to keep his family, but I feel he is a different person now, he is a broken hearted, he is absent minded when we are together. it seems he loved her, I am lost! help!...

How do I chose between the two women?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 238 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - so I've been dating this girl, "K" for about 7 months now. i do love her, my first love. and she's in love with me. but I've lost interest since she never wants to come see me. it's been 6 months. (she lives in Brighton) it's heart breaking, and i ...

My instincts say not to trust him..should I listen to them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 238 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - things are just not adding up lately with my boyfriend. he was angry when i questioned him over other women's numbers in his cell phone. he deleted the numbers though. a few days later he put his free profile on a dating website that he started. ...

How should I convince him to forgive and forget our pasts?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - My ex has made it clear that he is seeing some else because he cannot trust a girl who cheated on him with a cousin (I mean I cheated on him with a cousin)! the thing is I want him back and am really sure.. he asked me to suggest something that the ...

I lied to him and told him the baby was his... when it wasn't!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - There is a guy that I met 7 years ago and we were never in a relationship.. but occasionally slept together. We had that "understanding" with one another I guess. Well to make a long story short of course I secretly had more feelings for him than...

Me. my husband, my affair, my affair's ex-mistress, and my husband's affair

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - Hello, I'm married for almost 10 years. I am having an affair with a married man since 2 years. First of all we are great friends, I frequently go to his place and I know his wife and children. He says I'm like his second wife. The problem is w...

Is it time to move on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 236 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been going to marriage counselling now for a few months,during these sessions i have found out that he has cheated on me more times than he had confessed. Sorry its long but a bit back ground on my problems,Feb 08 i was told...

Is he over it all competly or just playing mind games with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 239 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - hey guys im in need of some help on understanding my ex any thoughts would be appreciated my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago when i see him i usually have a convo with him cos im still friendly with him because thats the type of gal i am...

How would I win his trust again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 238 days ago

30 March 2009 (F) - hey there , to day am kind of happy because we finally had a heart to heart talk with my ex........... recently i was worried about his decision of breaking up with me but now he spells it out for me last night.. apparently he broke up with me ...

I have an evil stepdaughter and a stupid wife

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

30 March 2009 (M) - I have been seperated for 4 yrs. Recently me and my wife have been trying to bring our family together. We have one child together and she has a child from a previous relationship. The step child a girl is an absolute brat. She is a little slut as ...

I don't know if I can trust him again, even though I love him as a brother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 237 days ago

29 March 2009 (M) - i dont know if im overreacting or taking this too seriously or anything but after and incident last year i've become extremely jealous... weel it's because last year i was with a girl, and our relationship was great, but she ruined it by cheating...

I found out that he's telling other girls that he is single

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - I started dating this guy 3 years ago and everything was great. We loved each other's company, so after 1 year we decided to move in together. Everything was good in the beginning, he would cook, clean make breakfast, and cuddle everynight. Th...

Can he know about my past sex relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - i had sex with my four or five time but i am getting married to another man.so can he know about my past sex relationship? ...

Is cheating the way of the world now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 233 days ago

29 March 2009 (M) - I was in a wonderful relationship for 5 years - complete trust and no infidelity. However, now that I am 'back in the game' I am noticing that most of my female friends are cheating on their partners. The most disturbing thing is that it appea...

What do I when he changes to be cold hearted and doesn't care anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - i've been in this relationship for 2 years and my boyfriend and are now common-laws we live together and we have 3 cats. he just turned 21 and i'm going on 22, he changed 3 days after his birthday it went on for 2 weeks and after that he was fine...

Can she persuade him to stay with her, if he likes me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - Well, I'll try not to make this too long. Here goes! I've been attracted to this guy at work for over a year, and he's known this (he was chasing me, she got jealous and chased him). He dated her (for sex only) for several months but continued ...

Maybe I went too slowly and pushed him into the arms of a hooker

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - I am in my 40's and only really started dating after my mother past away some 5 years ago. Well 3 years ago I met a guy but wanted to take things slowly since I had a constant fear of someone coming in and taking half my house. Anyway, I went around ...

I went into his myspace account and found out he's cheating

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

29 March 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girls so i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access) and he is cheating i want to end it now b...

Should I cheat?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for over ten years. This man has nothing to offer but child care. He is extremely selfish. He has been unemployed for over three years. Refuse to work under any circumstances. He complains when ever he do a chore and ...

My wife is going to sleep with another man tomorrow

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I do not have a direct question, I just want some love from the dear cupid community. My wife of 12 years has plans to sleep with an old boyfriend tomorrow. She is in another state visiting her mother. While there, she met up with this guy. Th...

He's cheating,..got another girl pregnant..but loves me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 240 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - My child father cheated on me and got another girl pregnant but she miscarried.and he says it was an accident.he tells me he loves me.but he continues to cheat. I don't know what should I do?...

He cheated once. Do I cheat now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - okay well i just currently turned 14 and i'm in a relationship wit a 15 yr old. But he live's in another town. And he currently cheated on me. But i got bak wit him. Now a 16 yr old asked me out and i don't want to cheat on my boyfriend. But he chea...

Follow up: My husband has impregnated a girl-twice in our marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - This is a follow up to My husband has impregnated a girl twice during our marriage! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-impregnated-a-girl-twice-during.html Thanks to all those who responded to my question i really vaue all your...

I cant stop flirting with other men and it is driving my boyfriend away!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - hi i was with my exboyfriend for 7 years on and off i cheated on him and he has left me a few times and gone with other girls and i have bagged him back and he used to come back cos i do belive we loved each other but he could not cope anyway we had ...

My flirty fiancee wont stop flirting with our younger friend...why does she need to do this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I am 47 and my fiance is 41. She constantly flirts with a younger 23 year old friend of ours everytime she sees him. She says she has no attraction toward him and it's innocent but this really pushes my buttons everytime she does it. I've told ...

Can our relationship be saved? Or is she just one of "those" girls who cant be faithful?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 240 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - So me and my girlfriend first started going out almost a year ago now. Although, it’s been very far from perfect. At first, as it is with most relationships I imagine, it was great. I thought it was perfect. But time went by, and we began to see the ...

Now I'm being bullied by the co-worker he's dating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 240 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - I dated a guy in my workplace:we kept it secret due to policy.i previously helped him get a job there. he didn't know at the time that i was bullied there.i didn't want to get him involved and was scared he would think less of me. anyway, i fell i...

Dont want to push him further but don't want to give up either

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - Can time realy heal I met this guy on line Jan 08 shortly after joing a chat site. We became friends instantly as we had a lot in common. About 4 month into the friendship he met another girl that he almost instantly fell for. As there relation...

Who do I choose...my wife or my lover?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 106 days ago

28 March 2009 (M) - I ended up having an affair due to lack of affection from my wife. I know I was wrong and I take full responsibility for my actions. Obviously, I wasn't looking for affection, it just grew from a friendship to an emotional level, which turned ...

My husband has impregnated a girl twice during our marriage!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 240 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - Should i stay with my spouse after i have forgiven him twice for impreganating **PERSON-A**,who happened to miscarry on both occassion. I gave birth to our daughter (**PERSON-B**) three months ago and he is now telling me that **PERSON-A** had a ...

He left me for another girl and it's killing me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 241 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - This guy left me for another girl. It's been a week. She is prettier and more popualar. I feel really gutted. But also, we parted on bad terms and I can't ever speak to him again, and I know for a fact he will never contact me ever again. I miss him ...

He told me he ended their affair... but I found out he hasn't and I'm heartbroken...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 238 days ago

28 March 2009 (F) - My husband had an affair a year ago, I found out after two weeks, he ended it and we stayed together. I found out a week ago that he did not end the affair it has been going on all the time. He has left me for her and I am totally broken, we have ...

She made out with another guy, should I forgive her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 241 days ago

27 March 2009 (M) - Hi, well my dilemma is with my girlfriend. We've going out for a year. She's 15 and I'm 14 turning 15 this year... and yes we've been intamate once and decided to wait until we started doing it casually.. we love each other very much. The th...

My Husband cheated on me. I do not know what to do !!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 235 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Hi, I am going to describe my problem in two phases. Thank you for taking time to read this : Phase I I have been married to my husband for 5 years. we met on the internet on a chat site. We decided that we like each other and decided to mee...

I'm cheating on my husband and feeling guilty about it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 190 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - I'm posting this from a friend's computer for the sake of anonymity. I'll try to do any followups from here, but I cannot make promises that I will be able to get back. I'm a black woman, and I've been cheating on my husband with a white coworker...

I want to force him to chose between me and the wife!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Hey all new to this site. Look I know how most of you feel about affairs. Sohere it goes. I am in love with this man he says his relationship with his wife is gone. They have been married for 30±yrs. No I don't feel bad. He spends most of his ...

Phone records show my wife having an affair

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 126 days ago

27 March 2009 (M) - I found out by phone records that my wife was having an affair. she says it was not at all sexual. But she was in contact with this guy while I was out of the house, during work and other times. She even texted with him 26 times in one day after ...

Would you consider this cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 241 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Hi people, this morning I was walking down the hall of my school with my friends and then I meet up with my best friend. We were walking down the hall and we go past my boyfriend and all my friends say that they saw him hug and kiss a different ...

Needing forgiveness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 241 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Im 22yrs old, I was separated from my son's father A year ago because of his infidelity. Since then my friend (guy) of three years have been there for me. We started dating but he saw a couple of emails where i was talking to my ex boyfriend from...

Help! Boyfriend troubles

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 241 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - hi , 'im just wondering if i can get some advice me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months now ,, but recently i've noticed him staring at other girls practically all the time and he keeps giving my girl as friends and other girls ...

He is married. I am married. BUT, we love each other!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 239 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - i have been seeing this married man for a year! I know that he loves me and i love him! He spends so much more time with me than he does at home, i understand why he can't leave though rihgt now! He has a lot he has three businesses and lots of p...

Does hypnosis work? He says he will do anything to know why he cheats.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 242 days ago

27 March 2009 (F) - Hi Could you answer some of my questions please. My husband had been having an affairs though out our marriage 3 that i know off,but he keeps changing his mind as to why he did cheat how can he not know the reasons? We are going to relate ne...