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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I just found out that he has a girlfriend, I'm distraught, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I ...

I want my cake and eat it too. Why not he has!!!!!!Help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I got married young and Iam very confused about what to do at this point. My husband and i have been married for 7 years and its been a ride. He has hurt me in the past in which i forgave him.Now he is giving me his all (i think) Now I have a lover ...

Attracted to another guy, but I love my boyfriend, help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4958 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I need help. I have a boyfriend who i have been dating for 11 months. i love him so much and i really don't want to lose him but a few days ago i went to my friends birthday party and there was this boy there who i have met a few times and have ...

I recently found out that my boyfriend is married with kids...and dating other women!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - well i have a big prob i don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for nearly year and a half now, About 8 months in the relationship i found out he is married and had kids. I was so upset. I asked him about it which he denies at first an...

Do I leave husband & kids for a 20 year old?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am 35 and have been married for 7 years now, and have three children. My marriage has been a rocky ride up to now. My problem is that I have fallen in love with a 20 year old. He is a student an doesn't work yet. We are such good friends,we do as ...

Involved but now he's asking for space!

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31 December 2009 (F) - Hi I have seperated with an abusive man and my old friend from high school has also separated with his spouse. We are both going through alot and we both are having issues with children issues. We have been romantically involved for some time an...

An affair & an abusive husband! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I desperately need some advice. My husband has been physically and verbally abusive to me for the past 7 years we have been together. I still feel like I have feelings for him, but recently I've met someone that I know I'm going to end up having ...

Please Tell Me How To Handle My Man's Accusation Of An Affair

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

31 December 2009 (?) - The boyfriend did it again; saw a guy approach me and lost his mind and accused me of having sex with him. Said from what he saw it looks like we are having an affair and I need to come clean. I was lifting weights and a guy came up during m...

Our affair..does it stand a chance to last?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a married man for 18 months we call and text daily. I am seperated from my husband he moved out 4months ago due to my affair. Last week my estranged husband confronted my lover informing him he is naming him in ...

Can a relationship recover from infidelity if the cheating partner still denies it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I know that my husband cheated on me. However he denies it. I do love him and want to move past this but if he will not admit it can we move on? We have been together for 15 years. Now this just happened after he started this job about 2 years ag...

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

Should I end a happy loving relationship because... he had sex with 3 girls?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5092 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Okay now I know this may sound ridiculously jerkette and dumb, but...I don't want to be in love. But I am. Now yes I am happy because of it but the other side of my mind snarls at the happiness. With my personality, I just do not feel under control, ...

What do I do in the meantime while my boyfriend is in jail?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5223 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is going to jail. I'm very confused about what to do. Here is the thing: we had dated previously and had had a very rocky relationship which ultimately ended badly. It had been a relationship full of lies and cheating and both ...

What do I do...Nina or Lily?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I'll try to make this short. I'm a teenager and I have stupid teenage love problems, but I'd really like some help. There's this girl I was in love with for a few years, Lily, she was my first everything first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my ...

My mind wont stop saying why why why...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - well.. way back in september.. i was introduced to this girl. dam i fell for her quick but she had never been with a guy before so i new i didnt have much of a chance if the other guys didnt. but then we got real close real fast and we started ...

I'm staying for my son basically but I Want to know how to remove myself from this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have only dated my bf for a little over a year. He had previously dated the girl before me for 4 years. 4 months after we started dating we found out I was pregnant and 3 months into pregnancy I started having nightmares about his ex, ...

How do I make up to my gf with actions, not just a simple sorry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with my gf for 4 and a half years now. She has gone back to her home country for 2 months and will be returning in February next year. The thing is that she's hurt by my actions and wants me to make it up to her to ...

He slept with a prostitute

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - i found out that my boyfriend of 7 years slept with a prostitute on a lads weekend. he had been to a STD clinic and i found the appointment slip. at first he tried to deny anthing and then admitted it. i asked him to leave, and he left the next day ...

In love with my sister-in-law and afraid of losing her...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - i was alone with my wife's sister march of 2008. we were alone at a place where she used to live. i was and still am really in love with her, and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. we were alone in her kitchen i froze. i could have stood ...

My gf lied and cheat on me back in hometown

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - Hi Cupid, I've been going out with my philippine gf for 6 months now and we have lots of great time together. lemme introduce herself first. as i did before in my previous post, i will do it again here. she have a kid in philippine when she was...

5 months later we find out she's pregnant after cheating

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend cheated on me and got pregnant.......she didn't know she was pregnant until five months later..........if u were in my shoes would u forgive her or leave. We tryn to work it out going to counseling and all. Am I'm a bigger man by tryn ...

Am I overreacting about fiance and texting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Am I overreacting because I called this women and asked her why she was sending my fiance text messages inviting him to the movies and thinking of him while she is having christmas dinner. I called and asked her she said that he didn't tell her ...

Do I sound like a prude for not wishing strange men crawling into my bed uninvited?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Hey everyone. Insight requested just to make sure I am not crazy. I am single and not in a terrible hurry to find anyone even though eventually I would love to. I have been hanging with a crowd of people for almost a year and everything was going ...

Boyfriend is texting multiple women

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - so i know it was wrong but i went through my boyfriend's phone and i found that he has been texting multiple women, before he used to call me when he was at work but he stopped, that is what got me suspicious( he works at night) one call he talks to ...

Affair with college tutor

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - So heres my question, I've been having a year long affair with my college tutor. It was great at the beginning all the excitement and stuff that came with it. Yes he is married and she is another tutor at college. And yea they both teach me. It r...

Fiance got appears to be suspicious email from girl. Should I call her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Ok this is the situation. On Christmas my fiance went to the bathroom upstairs and his phone beeped because he got a text message. I picked it up and saw that it was from some women but didnt think anything of it. But curiosity got me and I opened ...

Is my wife trying to break my attachment to her by being unemotional?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Hi everyone whats all this about can you help me, im going mad. Over the last 12 months my marriage has broken up, we were together for 7 years. Myself and my wife have had affairs, She moved out some months ago. Two weeks ago we both admitted...

Is sexting considered cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Ugh. Okay, im in a really difficult (for me) situation. I feel I have cheated on my boyfriend of 3 months. Im one of those people who are insanely against cheating and is 100% for honesty so the possibility of this sort of thing happening never ...

My boyfriend is emotionally cheating on me...

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28 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I will have been together 2 months now apart from the 6 month break we took from eachother. we were together for 6 months before that and broke up because i cheated. I was devistated and felt horrible and he told me he couldnt see ...

I've been sleeping with a younger man who has a boyfriend, I don't know what to do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I'm a older woman I haven't been in a relationship for two years but I have been sleeping with this younger man off and on for six years he has a girlfriend and sometimes when he calls I don't answer I think I'm starting to really like him I don't ...

I don't like keeping things a secret, is this cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - hey, im 18 and bi. i have recently been fooling around with another guy that i met at college. both of us are still in the closet and no one knows about it. My problem is that im starting to date this girl at college also. me and the guy have still ...

Could a four or five-way relationship even work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Im in a really difficult situation at the moment. There is currently 3 women in my life. At this point you might be thinking right what a ba***rd an ye maybe i am. I have been engaged for 3 and a half years to a very money driven career woman. Sh...

Taking a chance with a coworker?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Thanks for your help in advance. My boyfriend lives with me (6m) we are happy. Now at work before I dated him I had this connection w a coworker(female). I really like her- I am very attracted to her. However she has never been straight forward...

Why is my girlfriend giving the impression she is available to other guys?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - heyy just found out my girlfriend, who has previously cheated, has told two different guys that shes hung out with (one of them was the guy that she cheated with and second a new guy shes been hanging with alot) that she is single and me and her ...

Our affair was exposed and my reputation is at stake!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I had an affair with a married man. About a year ago we started hanging out and a kiss led to touching, and touching led to sex. We had sex 3 different times and hung out from time to time after that. I have not seen him in about 9 months and then ...

Finding it hard to forgive and forget my partner's cheating..advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I found out one month ago that my partner of 2 years has been cheating on me, by talking to girls online, on cam, swapping rude pics, flirting etc. I couldnt believe it... but I forgave him, for a few reasons. The first is that i love him. Secondly, ...

Could she just be playing games?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - I really need help I am going mad with all this!! I have been seeing this girl on and off for 3 years now when we both started seeing each other we were involved at first it was just whenever we were out together like one a month or so, after abo...

My husband left me for another women on boxing day!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5214 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...

What our chances of success, I am in love with her.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - leaving my wife of 10 years 2 kids for a woman who was my wifes good friend of 5 years She(the other woman) is still married but seperated, left her resent boyfriendof 2 yrs for me and we plan to get an apartment next week, we started the affair a ...

Cheated and felt ill, what do you advise?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I am a married female, aged 34, with 3 kids. An ex BF from another town persuaded me to meet him on the sly.It started with flattery and ended with a hasty hotel room sex episode. He was unable to perform. I felt revulsion and became phy...

How can I convince my bf I am not cheating!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - what do u do to let your boyfriend trust you and believe you are not cheating on him....

Cyber cheated... Now my wife hates me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - I did a really really stupid thing and cyber cheated on my wife, I met a girl through a chat room and for 3 months we sent dirty emails to each other and spoke on the phone a dozen times and emailed pictures of our privates to each and pictures of ...

I have fantasies about my ex-girlfriend talking about and sometimes actually cheating on me with another man. Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - My ex-girlfriend cheated on me and I was upset at first, eventually got over it, etc. but then somewhere along the line (we were still going out) I began fantasizing about her with other men...sometimes black men, other times one of my friends. I...

I love her and I think she feels the same but she is married!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (?) - Im a middle aged female in love with another middle aged female. I told her my feelings went deeper than friendship and I can assure you that her actions and words speak volumns that she feels the same way. I don't believe she will ever act ou...

I want to have his baby but he doesn't love me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - im 24 and pregnant. Ive been in love wit the same man since i was 18 and he def isnt in love wit me. He has another gf who ive seen he loves yet we still sleep together ive not told him yet. We have a bad past ive previously told his current gf we ...

I am going through a divorce but I still love her!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5123 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - I have a problem and I need advice. I am going through a divorce and I have custody of my very young children. My wife is severly mentally ill and her mental condition has really collasped over this past year severly bad. She abused the kids so I ...

Is there a probability that she is sleeping with others?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - I am still in a sexual relationship with a former partner. I suppose I get to see her once a fortnight or once a month. So far she has not been keen on us getting back together formally. My question is do you believe she have other sexual par...

I'm pregnant and can't decide whether to be with the father, be with the ex, or go it alone?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5195 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I am 30 years old. My live in boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me, and moved out and into his new girlfriends place in May 2009. A very good male friend of mine, split from his wife, and I let him stay with me until he could get on his feet. He ...

Sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - One of my best friends in the world and I have been sleeping together for a few years now and i am in love with him. He says i am his dream girl and wants to be with me but because of other circumstances (neither one of us drive, he has no job ...

Friend having an affair, husband knows but doesn't do anything!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - guys can someone translate this please.. a married friend of mine is having an emotional affair with a married woman whose thier famillies are friends it is a common dilemma but the confusing part is her husband who knows what she is doing but ...