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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3819 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like ...

My husband said he was only on the dating site to look at the pictures

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3823 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I found out my husband had been going on hookup/dating sites. He claimed he was using photos for masturbation vs going to porn sites. At first he lied and denied it at all. He said he didn't know how those sites got on his phone. (And I found them ...

How do I stop thinking about a lying cheating ex boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3824 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I started seeing a guy about six month ago, a few months into 'seeing him' he tells me he has a girlfriend. Gave me the whole as soon as he met me he planned to end it with her but couldn't bring himself to do it but he couldn't lie to me any ...

My online boyfriend just used me for money!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3824 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I meet my bf online 4 months back. Initially he was very sweet. And always told me he loves me very much. We never meet face to face. He is financially a broke. I helped him pay half of his house rent once. He also didn't have money to eat food I a...

I feel like I'm being disrespected, used, and attacked by my boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3824 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 13 months now, and I have never loved someone so much before. I recently started my first year of college, and my first job. My motivation was him, it was for our future. He on the other hand wont ...

I messed with her emotions and crushed her heart. Do I deserve her friendship again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3824 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - Hi. I'm bisexual and some time ago I was seeing a woman during a rough point in my life. I was going through a divorce and simultaneously trying to detach from an emotional affair I was having with my male boss. The woman I was seeing had no idea I ...

Do some women like being someones bit on the side?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3815 days ago

29 October 2013 (M) - Do some women like being a man's bit on the side? the reason why I ask this is because I have noticed this girl at work in this situation. She is single but she has started seeing this guy whose in a long term relationship living with his girl ...

How can something feel so right yet be so wrong? In love with a married man who loves me too, but also loves his wife and wont leave her.....

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3822 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I don't know what to do... I don't even know how to start. I never been on any of these sites before.. this is also a long story. I met this man at a work place..once I was working there he texted me and would flirt just a little (he had my numbe...

5 years of my life stolen by a lying cheat

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - My whole life has just fallen apart. I have been with my long term boyfriend for 5 years but things have only got really serious in the last 18 months, we have discussed marrige and he has been concidering moving in with me ...I have never met his ...

Would this behavior indicate a possible cheater

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, just a question in general. I have noticed when people watching, that there was a man sitting with his wife and she with her body language indicated that she was insecure, she was begging for his attention and affection, he barely took any ...

FWB wants to meet up but hes dating someone. Is it moral?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - my fwb just asked me to meet up even though I thought it was over because he apparently had a girlfriend, he then explained that she wasn't his girlfriend and it wouldn't be cheating because they haven't defined the relationship. is it moral to ...

Past love haunts me to this day... and now he's engaged...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I was in a strange relationship for a few years... I was living with someone else but trying to get out of the abusive relationship and started seeing someone else... I fell pretty hard until he cheated then things pretty much went from hard core ...

Does being cheated on make you more likely to cheat?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3818 days ago

28 October 2013 (M) - What do you think? My girlfriend's last boyfriend cheated on her. Would that make her more likely? Since her experience with her ex, she is very jealous with me. That is understandable. I wonder if that makes it more likely for her to cheat. ...

Can he learn from this and remain faithful or am I dealing with a ticking time bomb?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I found nasty texts on my boyfriend's phone to a friend of his about his pursuit of trying to find a woman to have sex with while I was out of town. He found a girl he was interested in while he was at a bar and proceeded to hit on her and relay the ...

Boyfriend thinks I cheated and I never have. How do I convince him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3822 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of four years thinks that I have betrayed him with infidelity (cheated on him), I did not commit such a act, I'm innocent but he will not listen to the truth, he also wont express his reasons why he is so sure about his accusations. ...

Affair turned bad and now I don't know how to cope and be a good mom to my kids

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I had an affair with a man I met in April 2010.... He lives 3000 miles away but we talked and texted every day often for hours each day... We also met for get always several times.... We both declared the other was the love of our life and hoped one ...

Having trouble adjusting after moving back home

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3828 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - When I spent a year working in Australia, I met the man of my dreams. He trained at a gym which had a coffee shop nearby, so as I worked there I saw him daily. After a few weeks of flirting, he asked me out and started dating. When my year was up we ...

I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3828 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart. Basically, when we broke up, we made a stupid agreement to still have sex from time to time. I ended things because I got sick of ...

I don't feel sexually validated by my boyfriend and have found an online MM in another country who understands me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3829 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - Where do I start?! My problem seems so silly but it's got me so confused about what I want with my life. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We're perfectly suited in every way apart from he's just not horny! At all. I've tried so many th...

I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3830 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...

Messages on his phone were at a minimum disrespectful, possibly much worse

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3829 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I noticed my boyfriend of over 3 years was really touchy about me using his phone yesterday. He didn't seem to want me around it. I decided to take a look at his messages while he gave me the phone to use to look up something. I discovered text ...

I know I should just break up with my girlfriend but I can't stand to break her heart!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3831 days ago

23 October 2013 (M) - i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and its been pretty rocky for the last year. we fight alot and dont really seem to have much in common. its one of the situations where we cant stand each other but both truly love each other. i had caught ...

It's a terrible mess, can't stay, can't leave my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3832 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - Please help. I'm a 39 year old woman, been with my husband for 11 years, one of them married. We have two beautiful children. My relationship with my husband began breaking down about three years ago. Too many details as always but essentally...

Do you think he's found out about my hook-up? I don't want to text him because I don't want to annoy him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3830 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I went on a date with this guy and It went well, his definitely my type. We've texted each other and are always flirty and he said we definitely have to hangout again. However there was a party I went to and one thing lead to another I hooked u...

Why would he have a condom?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3833 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...

I am a very professional, very good looking woman in a high-powered job, and I have a lot going for me in my life....but I can't seem to stop cheating on my husband!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3830 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - I can't seem to stop cheating on my husband. I cheated on him before he and I were even married, and I've cheated on him after we were married, and am still cheating on him. I cheat on him with one of my current co-workers on occasion. The co...

He messaging a girl on Facebook, just like we did when we first got together! Do I have a right to be upset by this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3831 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a relationship that is distance for about two thirds of the year. We've been together for about a year and a half and the distance is ending in a couple of weeks. We talk on the phone most nights and Skype each other once a ...

My husband just left me for a younger woman

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3829 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - i am feeling like a total fool. i was informed last night that my husband of 23 years wants a divorce, he has a baby by a girl that is 24 years old and she is expecting another one by him again... yes you read this right the baby she just had is 4 ...

Keep getting hurt in relationships. Are relationships really worth all the hurt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3835 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Do you think some people are better off not in relationships and instead dedicating their life to other things? The reason that I ask this question is because of men. I am beginning to think that my life may be better if I don't have relationshi...

I think that fact that I want to stray is telling me something about my current relationship

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3834 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - I'm in a bit of a dilemma here and not sure what to do? I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and I thought that everything was great. But, recently my ex girlfriend got in touch with me. Me and my ex dated nearly 6 years ago for ...

Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3823 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...

My mind is on overload and I am going crazy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3837 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - Hello aunts and uncle's I really need some advice here and fast before I go nuts. I have been with my BF for 7 months now and I am so in love with him, and he tells me he feels the same. we moved in together and everything is going great excep...

Do cheaters ever change?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3836 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...

Lingering guilt about how we got together

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - Four years ago my fiancee and I got together in a not so good way......his relationship with his wife was going down hill (so he told me) and she was also seeing someone else....at this point we were work colleagues who crossed the line and started ...

Can a man get addicted to the woman he is having an affair with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - So recently I heard a man say that married men come into 3 categories: 1) The ones who have been faithful for a long time and suddenly discover (about the age of 45 or so) that there is sex beyond what they are getting at home and once they have the...

My widower partner on chat rooms to women - this is ultimate betrayal and cheating

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - hi, I am a female and i have been with my male partner for 6 yesrs. he was widowed in may 2006 and I met him on match.com in September 06. he has been hard work due to his three steps forward two steps back routine and he just has periods when he ...

Should I have an affair with my married colleague?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - I recently ended up kissing a women I work with after a night out. It shouldn't be a problem, only she is married. We have always had great chemistry and she has made no secret of her liking me--I guess you could say she is a cougar or whatever. She ...

Should I mention to the counselor in front of him about this other man or should I keep it quiet?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - Hi Aunts. Three years ago, my now husband were dating and my visa was running out so we decided after a year of dating that we'd get married. We didn't want to be apart, and you know the immigration laws in the US aren't exactly happy-la-la-land...

I'm devastated over this breakup and over being used!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - I’m so heartbroken right now…I need advice on how to get over this woman. I wound up being in a love triangle which has driven me into therapy but I need some additional advice, criticism, feedback…whatever it is…I just need to hear it. I met this ...

He says he has "proof" even when he doesn't. Need help, fast!!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3837 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We're in our early-mid 30's. Every once in awhile he will accuse me of cheating and claiming he has "proof" when I know he doesn't. This morning at 7am he text me and asked me who the hell I was texting. I ...

He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...

She's the only friend I've got but she's cheating and I don't like how shes changing!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3839 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, i don´t have many friends and yet the few I have, they have moved abroad for better work, to study etc...So now I´ve got only one friend I can hang out, we´ve known each other for very long time and I can say we were best friends... ...

I need some guidance about my husband's behaviour. I feel I can't trust him anymore.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3826 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - I've been married for 14 years and my husband started behaving different with me since 2 years. First of all he has many woman friends, and he is always on the phone, skype, and FB with them. Last year a female friend of him thanked me on my FB page ...

If I cheated does that mean I don't love my g/f?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3842 days ago

12 October 2013 (M) - If I've cheated on my girlfriend with the same girl, 4 times now. Does this mean I don't love her? Im so confused. Ive been with my girlfriend for 8 months. Yet met a girl in May, became really good friends really quick. There was chemistry be...

My friend has a perfect girlfriend yet cheated several times. He needs advice what to do now.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3842 days ago

12 October 2013 (M) - One of my best friends is with a girl and has been since Feb. The girl went away travelling over the summer but they stayed together, despite only being together a few months at this point. Anyway my best mate fell for a girl at work, whilst his gf ...

Beating myself up for immature mistakes

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3842 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - I was never a wrong person but some circumstances made me commit some really silly and immature mistakes. Like forcing myself to go out on a date just cause my trust on my boyfriend was lost. I never intended or had any desire to be with any guy. I ...

My friend forced me to makeout, how do I get over this guilt? I can't tell my boyfriend!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3840 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - Please help Recently I made a dumb impulsive decision to let a friend of mine drop me off in his car. His shocking colors came to picture when he insisted to kiss me and makeout. I refused for making out but he started insisting and wouldnt drop...

I am lost. I need advice on this proposed separation, help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3845 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - I am a 42 year old woman who was married for 14 years with 2 lovely boys. About 3 months after separating I met a man, and our relationship started off slowly, but within a year it was apparent that we both cared for each other deeply-and still do ...

How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3840 days ago

7 October 2013 (F) - To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...

I snooped on my partner. Is this woman my rival or am I paranoid?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3846 days ago

7 October 2013 (F) - First off, I did something really stupid, I decided to snoop on my partner of 8 years when he accidentally left his iphone @ home. I had a premonition and i just did it. I found some suspicious looking replies to CL ads and then I started reading ...