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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Torn between two lovers, who do I chose

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - Do you love with the one you're with or wait for the one you love? Man 1: I've been dating a guy for 3 years. I love him more than anyone I've ever known before. Whenever I see him, I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him, even after ...

I want to tell this new younger woman what a jerk this guy is but I'm scared of losing him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - i've been having an affair with a married man. he is now divorcing his wife and i found out he is seeing a younger woman. i followed him home from work the other night and he ended up going to her place. i want to confront her and tell her what a ...

Your opinions on this... How can I help my friend to see sense?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - One of my best mates has been sleeping with her ex bf for god nows how many months now, and we have only recently found out about it, The thing is her ex has a gf who is pregnent with his baby and is due this december, I have told my mate to sto...

What are the chances that we will be able to resolve this problem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - My relationship of 4.5 years had developed some problems a few months ago. I think we just got a little too settled and were arguing about some petty things. Then things got much worse, and it turns out that my fiancee had begun talking to an old ...

He has a girlfriend but wants me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - So I've liked this guy for a while but he's had a girlfriend as long as I've known him. I noticed he's been flirting with me somewhat since we first met but I assumed it was just his personality. Recently though, he's been asking me to kiss him and ...

We both have new lives but he wants to resurrect the old

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - hi im really confused here dont know what to do this guy was my first boyfriend as you know relationships has thier ups-downs.iwas 14 years when we started dating and he was 25yrs ,as i was young lot of things happens between us until we end up ...

Now she has found someone else I want her back

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - After a few months of ongoing fights and quarrels, I made the biggest mistake ever: I cheated on her. After a few more fights, we broke up and went our seperate ways. A couple months after we broke up, she started dating this other guy. I realiz...

I am torn between my wife and my lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5190 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - Should I leave after 13 years? I have a 4 year old and a 3 month. I am a 32 year old male I've been with my current girl friend for 13 years we never married. I will refer to her as my wife. I have had my lover for 3 years. off for 1 and on for a...

Should I tell my sister in law that I'm in love with her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I'm in love with my sister in law. My wife's sister. I think about her all the time. I'm just concerned about taking it too far. I am married with a boy and a girl. She is married with 3 girls. We are both in our late 30's but she is a couple of ...

Is not being able to get over a crush normal? How do I get over him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - i reallllllly like a guy that is a known flirt. i dont want to be in a relationship with him cuz he is a known cheater. but at nights i still dream about him and i still check his acebook statuses and stuff. is this healthy will this help me get ...

He used to talk about taking vacations together, now he doesn't answer my calls. What happened?

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30 November 2009 (F) - Hi I saw this guy that I use to work with about 5years ago. When we worked together he was married, but when I saw him, he told me he was divorced.He asked about taking me on a date. He called me the same night. The nights leading up to our first da...

My ex and I are friends, so why does he keep pushing me away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up a year ago, but we have remained friends. He keeps telling me that he loves me but that he can't be in a relationship for various reasons. We are not sleeping together, nor have we since we broke up. I'm smart enough n...

He wants to take me to the beach but is it to meet up with another woman?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - hi im 44 year old female ... i've been living with a guy for 3 years now..about a year ago i found text messages to and from a female coworker.he apparently was interested in..i confronted him about the text and although i was devastated i chose to ...

I just can't trust my husband... help! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I've been married for 12 years now and been with my husband for 15 years. In the second year of our marriage he cheated and conceived a child with another woman. He is not physically seeing his child but talks to him every now and then. he lives in ...

The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...

My jailbird husband holds a get out of jail card, but I have moved on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I have a very complicated situation. Most people would say it is very clear cut but to me it isn't. I married the man of my dreams, who I was very much in love with. Eight months after we married, he strangled me and beat me up. He called the police ...

I want to be friends with my married lovers step son

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - i`m a widow of almost 10 months i have been seeing a married man for about 4 months we have kept a low profile as far as his family is concerned, (no small children)now he is telling me he loves me and i believe him, he also states his wife is ...

he doesn't trust me, if he cheats on me, how do I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - If he cheated on me, how do I move on? Ok, this is my first relationship ever, and we have been together for 3 years, 3 months, exactly. And well, he has issues with my past because he knows a couple of guys I made out with (I was a virgin until I...

My boyfriend has kept his online dating profile, is he cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and its going really great though he used to have an internet dating profile which he told me about but he still uses it. He says he doesnt go to pick up girls but just to check out the 'scene' to ...

I kept it all in the familiy and slept with his brother

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I slept with my current Boyfriends brother about 3 years ago, at the time I had broke up with my boyfriend because a)he moved in with his pregnant gf b)he hit me with my daughter(his 1st kid)in my arms, c)cheated on me with 3 different girls. ...

She says one thing, he says another, who do I believe?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5210 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a 29 years old woman, divorced with 2 kids. I met this guy almost 3 years ago and after 2 years he confessed me that he was still seeing his exgirlfriend behind my back. He accepted he was wrong and promised to change everythi...

Am I just a booty call?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - Ok, here goes I am recently divorced after 14 years of marriage. The last 2 years of my marriage were really hard and I clocked marriage then. I have a crush on my next door neighbor and it has been going on for about 1 year. Recently he has been ...

So why did he do this? Why was he involved in these sex sites, and connecting to women?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for three and a half years now. My man was a very moody person, but I, being passive, could usually take it. Like every other couple, we had our ups and downs. A year ago as I went to use his computer, I saw that he ...

Hair pulled out of head...I never needed advice more in my life as I do now. Whats your thought on this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - Hey guys, Background first of all, I'm in a relationship that is requiring a lot of work to keep going. I love Sarah to bits but its really hard to make us work. We are together for more than 2 years. We took breaks(not seeing other people) a ...

I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...

He has a girlfriend but wants a threesome with my friend and I

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I like this guy and he likes me back. but he is 17 and im 15 so we cant date. we still hang out and go to his car and you know the rest of the story. lately he wants to do somthing with both my bestfriend and i,so i said yes beacuse i thought ...

I thought my life was full of love. I cherished every moment with him - now that is all destroyed.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I have only married once in my mid 20's. It lasted 6 months. I never remarried until 17 years later. I have been married for 7 years, I thought I was careful with whom I married. After we married I found out I was wifie #6. I have just found out in ...

Am I overreacting about his texts to other women?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I want to trust my man but for whatever reason I decided to check his cell phone. I found that he is still texting other females. He sais there is nothing going on with them but I am not so sure of that. Why would he need to text other females to ...

I drank, I kissed too many, now they call me a slag

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - im so confused, im a girl of 16, i went out with a friend last night and had a bit too much to drink, i ended up kissing my ex's best friend and one of his friends,infront of each other, then my ex's friend kissed my best friend straight after. Then ...

Green eyed monster problems

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for the past 4 years, I have huge trust issues with him because I found out he cheated on his first wife and never told me even though I told him stuff about my first marriage..I found this out from old love letter he ...

She has the proof that he is cheating yet she is still with him!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I told my ex husbands girlfriend that he was cheating on her and gave her a CD of him and I talking about getting back together! They live together and he wants his cake and eat it to! I told her everything and she is still with him! Why does she ...

My feelings for him are so strong, I want to be more than just friends with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5264 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago. (He cheated on me and lied about it. Needless to say - if I never saw him again, I wouldn't mind at all) Two or three weeks ago, while at the bar, I met another guy. He's a student at the ...

My husband is a devoted teacher, maybe too devoted to his....work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I can't believe it's come to this-posting an anonymous question on an advice forum. I hope someone can help! It started a while ago, four years ago. My husband is a teacher, a very dedicated devoted teacher who is respected and high up in his s...

She is the love of my life and the air that I breathe... how can I get her back permanently?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - I've been dating this woman on and on for the past 12 years. She is also the mother of our 3 Children. Back in 06, She cheated on my with the guy across the street from our house while I was at work. I found out about it a couple of months ...

Long distance relationship, I'm not sure if it's working! what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years now and it only worked out 'cause ever since we started dating, i've been doing every thing he wants. For example, in the first year that we were together, he was insecure and didn't trust ...

He cheated and I thought I was over it but I still feel paranoid. Is this normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I have a problem. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 years. He is my first true love and I haven't been able to notice any other guy since. I am at Uni now and we are still together as we had agreed (he is still at home). He has...

Husband never around and I'm falling for his friend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - hi all, have been married 2years and my husband is a doctor. he remains busy most of the time in his works and gives very less time in home. i tried to adjust in this for 2 years but this days its becoming hard for me. my husband is a good man ...

How do I stop myself in the future from feeling the need to snoop?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Hi all, Im feeling guilty about something bad that i did, it was shady and not very nice, and i am lucky to still have my gf afterwards (it seems). I promised myself i would never do this, but i managed to, hate myself for it, and i got caught ...

How can I move on and completely forget this man?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I had a short affair with co-worker and end up to a big fight. We became close to each, send SMS and phone each other. He was married with a kid and I'm single mother with 2 kids. He is very vocal to his feelings and running afte...

I was so angry with my married lover that I sent a letter to his son revealing all about our relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Can love be so true when he is with other women at the same time he is with me? I am 38 yrs old and separated. I met a 68 yrs old married man through internet chatting. I fell intensely in love with him and we shared feelings onlin...

I'm afraid I could be falling for the man I am having an affair with!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - i had an affair with a guy i met at work. i work at a hotel which he stays there from time to time cause he travels on his job. hes married and so am i but i was instantly attracted to him and we ended up having sex. it was a really good night for ...

Cheated and fell in love..what now?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5242 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Here's my predicament... I've been married 17 years, contently, i would say, but not always happily. I love my wife but am not in love. we have two children (14 and 7). Two years ago, I started an affair with a co-worker. She and I each seemed to ...

He held me tight all last night and he said he loves me more than anything, but now I am in fear of him leaving...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has Huge trust issues but i trust him completely, he is a very honourable, loving man. he has a bit of a reason though, as i had taken anti-depressents and didn't tell him about it because he was always telling me that i'm such a downer ...

Should I tell my bestfriend her boyfriend is cheating on her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - hey! i have this best friend of mine at school and she has a boyfriend whom she's been with for 4 years or so... he's also at the same school. her boyfriend comes to the same tuition place at me [we go there for extra classes] and there he flirts ...

I don't want to be afraid to love because of one stupid betrayal, how do I move on from this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - How long does it take for one to forget about the pain of break up and move on to another relationship? It had been 6 months since I broken up with my ex because he cheated on me by chasing another girl at the same time when he was with me. I can ...

He's got a girlfriend but wants to sleep with me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - hey im 17 and there this guy on my college course that i thought like me but it turns out he got a girlfriend, but he keeps asking if i want to sleep with him, i mean i wanted too.. but now i know he got a girlfriend i dont know what to do pls ...

Married, had an affair and now wondering if I was just looking through things with rose colored glasses on?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 27 years and we have three children, 17, 13, and 12. For several years my wife had been reluctant to engage in sex, and I had become increasingly frustrated, both physically and emotionally. At work I had got to know a g...

After having an affair with a married man for 18 years he has finally left his wife, but now he is seeing another younger woman!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - i have been having an affair with a married man for 18 years. he and his wife of 28 years have just filed for a divorce. i didn't encouage him in fact i told him to rethink and try an make up with his spouse. he sais that its too late and that its ...

How can I rebuild my trust for him after I found these texts on his phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Iv been with my partner for a couple of months now, and he knows i suffer from really bad trust issues due to a past relationship. But yesterday i was looking on his mobile ( yeah i know its wrong but its something i do to make myself feel better) ...

I know that best thing to do would be to leave him but under all the heartache and pain I still love him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5265 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Help Please!!! So here goes...at this point I'm feeling very helpless. I just found out that my husband of 9 years had a sexual relationship with another women and now she's pregnant... around 5 months. The sad thing about this it that this same thi...