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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I found out my boyfriend has been cheating. Should I take him back?

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23 November 2009 (F) - I been with my bf for 4 months. I love him more than anything, supported him through everything, helped him a little through his financial problems. Anyway, I kinda always been a jealous gf but never checked through his personal things.(I see him ...

Boyfriend gave his phone number to suspected interest.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Heya everyone. Ok so this may seem like a silly problem and i prob shouldnt be bothered by it, but id like peoples opinions and to just rest my mind a bit. Ok well i live about 100 miles away from my boyfriend. He is moving down here tomorrow...

I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...

I am a freshman and he is a senior. and I think I'm falling for him!

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22 November 2009 (F) - okay, so i am a freshman and he is a senior. and i think im falling for him... he is great and is always by me; hugging me, touching me. but he has a gf... what shuld i do?? i think im falling hard...

Can anyone shed some light on this? I don't understand why he DOESN'T want to break up...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

22 November 2009 (F) - Ok, my boyfriend of 6 months recently told me he needed space because he said our relationship was moving too fast which was his fault. However he cheated on me with my best freind and another girl which before he was trying to hide he was talking ...

Texting another girl but says I'm just being jealous

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

22 November 2009 (F) - about a month ago i found online messages from my boyfriend to another girl who he goes to college with they were very flirty and suggestive if you know what i mean. We have been together over a year and a half and i love him so much. i spoke to him ...

Changing wardrobe, acting different, is he cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

22 November 2009 (F) - hii everyone Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3yrs (on and off). And I love him so much, but lately we've been having problems...well mostly its me with the problem bcuz he doesnt feel like hes doing ne thing. just like a couple we...

Dating 2 married men, not sure what to do...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

22 November 2009 (F) - i need to make a decision i have been seeing this married man for bout 10 months, he did say he was having a hard time at home at the beginning it felt rite but during the relationship i started feeling guilty, and we kept ending it then been ...

The woman he cheated on my with is now stalking him and he won't cut contact...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - I to am having a problem that is so very close to yours, I myself am having a problem getting over this. He cheated a year ago, lied to me about it more than once, then finally came clean when he thought he was gonna lose me. We are not married, but ...

I ended the affair but how do I get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - I was married for 15+ years. Events in my life occured and I had an affair. It went on for a year. He never promised me anything. I knew it had to end because it was tearing me up inside. It wasn't fair to my family but I fell in love with him. ...

Partner is keeping secret friendship. Am I just paranoid or is he playing me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 10 years. We have never had any real relationship issues until recently when I discovered he had gone out with a small group and kissed a girl. They exchanged numbers and for 3 weeks where flirting with each other by ...

Cheated now confused... I am sad and lonely... why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

22 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I just need some advice I dont know what to do I cheated on my husband because I wasnt getting the affection I needed, but I knew from the begin that the guy I was cheating with was married and it would never be anymore than sex. Now Im just so ...

He forgets to text me and he forgets our dates! Is he seeing someone else?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted yesterday

21 November 2009 (F) - i've been texing and meeting this boy for about 4-5 months, last week he told me he liked me but didnt want a relationship yet... all of a sudden since that he's been 'forgetting' to text me or ring me and tonight he even forgot we were supposed to ...

He wants to drop child support in case his wife finds out!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted today

21 November 2009 (F) - I had a child with a married man. He has to pay child support and he wants me to drop child support because he doesn't want his wife to find out. He tell's me I need to do the right thing or he'll never see his child again (he only see's once a ...

How can I learn to take a step back and 'chill' before I ruin it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted yesterday

21 November 2009 (F) - I've been single for 2 years.. I had 3 long term relationships and all have cheated on me. This has left me so insecure and when i meet someone i tend to be quite 'clingy'. I fall for that person quite easily, like i crave to be loved..:-(. I'm 35...

I don't know if I should back of and become strictly friends as we're having such a great time!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Ok here is the deal. I met this great guy but I made it clear from the beginning I was not interested in a relationship, which is totally true. It was fine since he has a girlfriend anyway. We became good friends, however we also knew from the ...

He texts his ex and another girl. Is he losing interest in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i got 2gether a couple of months ago. his girlfriend split up him then he got with me but he constantly keeps texting her and texting this other girl that he constantly talks about. he met up with her, had a couple of drinks a...

I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted yesterday

20 November 2009 (M) - Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...

I've loved her for all these years but she's married

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted yesterday

20 November 2009 (M) - Hi I dated my class sweet heart in high school for 4 years, I went into the Army right after school, I broke up with her the day before school got out, because I was off to the Army the next day. 8 years later I got out, about six months later...

What does he mean by 'you have to be more discreet'?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I am married but I also have a guy friend at work who is also married. We both aren't happy in our marriage but neither of us is willing to give up on it yet. We have been exchanging favors if you know what I mean. But it's just what I said it is ...

I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (M) - Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...

Have I lost him for good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - First I'm new to this site. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Well would be two years in twelve days. Everything was perfect. he has a child with another women before we met. His daughter is two. In the first two months of our relationship ...

I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I'm not sure he feels the same way about me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

20 November 2009 (F) - i have asked this questions,he doesn't want to marry a person who already have a child,is he using me until he finds someone for his life and i want to stop cheating but he dont satisfy me sexually.all this questions are from me and it speaks of ...

He just wont touch, kiss or hold me...and we've only been married 46 days!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Hi. I've been married for just under 2 months, been with him 5 years. We're both 25. Lived together for 3 years. In the past 2 years, our sex life has diminished drastically. Mind you, in the past two years, he's been in University doing a ...

I'm paranoid he's cheating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Hello I have been with my boyfriend for seven months now, we love eachother alot, well atleast i hope he does, he tells me alot that he loves me. i have been hurt in the past by a boy and i now find it so hard to trust my boyfriend, but do i have a...

The sum of al fears... My obsession with relationship (sexual) past.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - I've been on this site, and a few others for a while. My question I guess is a combination of many questions, and I'm not totally sure where to begin. Let me start by saying that I love my girl. If I didn't then I wouldn't be worried about an...

How can I move on and be more social?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - hi I went out with a guy for just over a year and in that time found out he was a compulsive liar who lied about his age, (he said he was 23 and he was 27) relationship status (hes married) and having a child. Im glad that I dumped him but Im having ...

We've always had a thing for each other but sex didnt quite go to plan, any ideas why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - This is a long question. Please read and help me the best you can Im 16 years old and for a year and a half now Ive been in love with someone. We spoke about being together, but he'd often say he liked other people and mess me around. He said ...

I think about him all the time...even when I'm with my husband. Am I wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - Ever since I've meet my professor two years ago I've had a crush on him. I'm in college and majoring on the piano, he's my piano teacher as well as the teacher for a few other classes. At first I wasn't worried about it, this isn't the first time ...

Opinions needed - should I be concerned about my husband's female colleague?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - Looking for opinions. Happened a few years ago. Female coworker called our home with sexual joke to my husband. She also confided to him thought she was pregnant with another married mans child. Also, calling his cell phone to find out when he ...

Please give me tips on how to not beg my boyfriend to take me back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - [MODERATOR NOTE: Four different posts from the same person have been combined into one.] Iv been in an on/off relationship for 2 years. I recently came to realise that he basically loved the control he had over me. He has no respect, puts me down...

I feel so stupid because I fooled around with this guy at work!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I need some help, I feel so stupid. This is long - sorry. Me and a guy at work have been flirting for a long time I have always said never to a work thing but one day we were both working late and one thing let to another and we kissed, a bit la...

Why do women sleep with married men?

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted today

18 November 2009 (F) - Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...

Did the father of my baby give me Gardnerella Bacterial Vaginalis?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I want to know what people think are the signs of a cheating man. I am currently pregnant - about the half way mark...and the father of baby has been on and off with me for most of this pregnancy which I finally told him point blank am fed up of the ...

Love Triangle: Should I wait and see how things go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - ok, I'm in a dilemma. I like this guy and he says he likes me too, but he has a gf that he has been on and off with for three years. The complicated thing is that in between their relationship she was married and had 3 kids.(He has no kids with her) ...

My wife intends to file for divorce to be with another man!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 13 years to the love of my life. Like so many other men on this site I too became comfortable in our marrige, and did not give my wife the attention she desired. We have four beautiful children together. I found out about ...

I want to stop cheating but my boyfriend doesn't satisfy me sexually!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (?) - hi evry one i have a serious problem,my boyfriend have got sex problem first i thought may it was me then i cheated with another guy but dat guy was fine.i love him and i want to stop cheating but my problem is he don't satsfy me,i have tried ...

I suspect my girlfriend is having cybersex behind my back, am I just being paranoid?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - It's a long story, I've been with my girlfriend for the last 6 months, we have an internet relationship and we have met up about 10 times (we live an hour away from each other). We love each other to bits but I suspect her of having cybersex...

When is this man going to feel like having sex with me? I'm considering an affair just to get some action!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - im tired an sick of my sexless relationship! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years now. we have a 15 month old baby together. we r not married yet (dont ask) He is been working a lot lately, and I do understand that, but I do too, as ...

I'm very jealous of my boyfriend's close friendship with his galpal! Advice?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Dear cupid, basically i have been going out with someone for a long time now and now we are in an Ldr. It is a great relationship and we are deeply in love. However, as my feelings are growing still more deeply, I am developing an issue over one of ...

Have I fallen in love with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - I need help understanding myself. I am a man living in the US Who moved here about 4 years ago for work from tokyo after being there for 5 years and meeting a woman. In between jobs had a child with her and built her and my daughter a beautiful ...

I have to make a choice between 2 men as I'm hurting them..what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I am torn between two men. The first is my boyfriend of 7 months, he is the best thing that's ever happened to me and is completely devoted to me in every way. We began a long distance relationship in September when I moved away to university, and ...

My boyfriend loves me but wants sex with other women!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey guys so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. we both love each other very much and weve had a happy time together, but recently an issue has got in our way. He's only admitted it once before and somet...

I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...

Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted today

17 November 2009 (M) - Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems ...

I hate the feeling of being lonely and desparate to find someone.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - hey everyone, I'm desperately in need of some advice when it comes to relationships. Right now i feel as though i've been cursed in that area or something :(. My first real relationship was 2 yrs ago, with a guy that i had liked for more then 6y...

My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him, but I'm not, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 8 months. We've been through our ups and downs like most couples but essentially we're very strong. But now I have a big problem. One of his so called friends told him that I was messing him about...

Do I believe that he has learnt his lesson? Or should I walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for a year but a few days ago two girls came to me and told me they had been sleeping with him. i truely love him and i dont doubt how he feels for me but i just cant believe he has done this to me. we had been arguing ...

Why lead me on if nothing is to happen? Or does he want something to happen despite having a girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I started a new job a month ago. Working with a nice guy, but he's giving mixed signals to me (I think). He has a girlfriend and they've been together for 2 years but he flirts with me. He's sent messages/emails saying 'I love you', always...

My wife is willing to forgive my cheating, I love her but I feel I don't deserve her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Well, I will try to keep this short and to the point but sorry if I linger. I am 35 years old, was married to a great 42 year old woman until 2009-04, unfortunately no children, that was a difficult hurdle in our marriage as we kept miscarrying. I ...