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Archived questions from: December, 2013 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

I'm afraid I'll lose my b/f of 4 years if he finds out I cheated on him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3758 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a guy for 4yrs and I'm afraid that I will lose him if he ever finds that i have slept with another guy who have know for about 3days.what can I do to prevent this from happening...

Cheater Cheater!!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3760 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...

Is this marriage worth saving?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - I was dating this man and I should say I really had a bad time with him. He used to call me names, too busy for me, wanted me to plead for sex with him, would never say he wants to see me, and NEVA visited me if I DID NOT PICK HIM UP AND DRIVE HIM ...

Is my husband gay or just trying things out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3773 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - My husband and I have been married 20 years. We got married young. He has never seemed to have as high sex drive as me and initially I just accepted it as that. Over the years I discovered that he had interactions with others....not sure how far it ...

Is it ok to have an affair when your single?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3775 days ago

30 December 2013 (M) - Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...

She already has a boyfriend and I'm the first woman she's been with. Am I making her life too complicated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - I live in johannesburg now in village eastern cape visit my grandmother only my cousins knows that I am swing girls. I meet other cute aNd smart girl she's cute enough and the type of girls I likes she offer to be my friend and close friend but was ...

Found out my boyfriend was using me to cheat on his long-term partner and now my self-confidence is suffering!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - this sounds really pathetic but about 2months i found out the guy who was my boyfriend was actually cheating on his long term girlfriend with me and since then i have lost a lot of confidence. i contastly bodycheck all my fat (im 5'7'' and 140lbs- ...

My husband had an affair but the woman would not leave him alone.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3773 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - Please help. My hubby had an affair with this girl about 2 years ago and we resolved the issue. But now th ex refuses to let go. She calls my husband's phn daily, sometimes with different numbers, even up to more than 10 times each day and says sh ...

I feel so used. Why didn't he value me as a friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3777 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - Ok please help I was very good friends with a guy then he started confiding in me he had problems with the girl he'd been with for 5 years saying she was manipulative and made his life hard Stupidly I became close and we kissed a few times after wh...

He lied to me about being married!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3776 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - I met this guy at a friend's party a little over 2 months ago; he was really sweet and funny and about 2 days after the party, my friend told me that her friend told her that he was asking for my number, because he was not a direct acquaintance of ...

Why is he keeping me in his life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - Merry Xmas to you all, and thank u in advance for reading this. I don't know if my situation is rectifiable or not, so if anybody can help me sort this one I will be truly grateful and if I'm being honest kind of surprised! I know there doesn't so...

After his cruel and bewildering attack it is as if I never existed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I was married for 19 years, no children, knew my ex for 22 years. He filed for divorce and i was not aware of anyone else on the scene. I got to hear about divorce not from him but solicitors email to me... I returned home to a half empty house. He ...

I feel like a weird stalker, which I never was!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3779 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - Really need help so low I can't get over this guy because of how he treated me Ok 2 years ago we were working together he helped me through personal problems and we became close friends he was texting up to 100 a day sending poems etc - we never h...

I can't bear the thought of him kissing another girl!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3782 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - Do you think that kissing is cheating? When I was with my ex, I would have firmly said no - I really didn't think kisses meant that much and weren't personal, I kissed other people and he did too, it was never sober or with the same person more...

My girlfriend told me she doesn't like girls anymore then broke up with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3783 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - My gf of 6yr recently up n told me she doesnt like girls anymore but she loves me. I asked how is that possible and she said it faded. So we ended up breaking up and getting bk together and she started acting distant from me. I came home fromwrk ...

He was still trying to see me while he has a girlfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3784 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - I was dating my ex for 3 months, I broke it off with him. While I was being completely honest, faithful and trustworthy in the relationship he was not, he lied to me about not having social media sites and I basically caught him lying, not to ...

I love my boyfriend but want to have sex with his sister!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3785 days ago

20 December 2013 (F) - I am 25yrs girl who dating guys bt also like girls I do have a BF and his caring and lovely eccidentally he have also a sister who like girls too I love my BF and I also atractive to his sister one day me and her sister go out together and endup ...

MY boyfriend is convinced I'm cheating and I'm not

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3783 days ago

20 December 2013 (F) - Hi there. I am writing because I have no one else to turn to really. So let me just get to it. Ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 8 months. I love him to bits but being with him is litrally killing me. Today I found my boyfriends profile ...

He says his use of gay sex sites is an addiction

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3784 days ago

19 December 2013 (F) - I'm engaged to this really wonderful man. We've been in a relationship for 2 years and counting. We hit off really well as a couple and have had really good times together. The problem started when I discovered that he had online sex chats with ...

I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3778 days ago

18 December 2013 (F) - I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...

He's made a mess of things, what is the best thing for me to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3787 days ago

18 December 2013 (F) - I started seeing my bf sept 2012 .in August 2013 I found him out in a lie about what he was doing due to tbis he confessed that in october 2012 he had been with this other woman on at least 4 occasions and had got her pregnant he wanted her to ...

Has anyone ever out there ever cheated and changed his/her ways?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3787 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - I've been having thoughts of guilt because I cheated on my bf 5 months ago. He obviously found out and he broke up with me. I was aware that what I was doing was wrong, but I still kept on cheating because I didn't feel sexually attracted to him ...

My wife had affairs and I forgave her but now I want a divorce. Should I do so?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3787 days ago

17 December 2013 (M) - The nightmare started when I came to know about her affairs. My wife was not even sure whether the child belongs to me or not. The DNA result claims that its mine. I was deeply in love with my wife, that I wrote her name on my body thru tattoo...

I kissed another man, now my husband wants to sleep with someone to "get even"

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3788 days ago

15 December 2013 (F) - I've been married for 3 years and together for 6. I love my husband but we have had our issues in the past I cheated on him 6 months into our relationship by kissing another man he also touched my breasts. Nothing else happened and all contact with ...

Why cant I leave this bad situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3791 days ago

14 December 2013 (F) - Well I have been on and off with my boyfriend for five years! He has confessed to cheating on me, and Well there has been many times where he has been emotionally abusive, calling me names, even physically! But I would go back to him! Things have ...

In an unhappy relationship. Should I pursue things with the other man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3792 days ago

13 December 2013 (F) - Looking for some advise, I've been with my partner for 23 years. 6 years ago we split up for two years, in that time I met someone else and was with them for seven months. When that finished a while after I got back with my long term partner. Thi...

My ex asked me if I was willing to have sex with him but he has a girlfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3785 days ago

11 December 2013 (F) - So, there's a lot going on. Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago. We only dated for about a month in a half but we have been friends for about 4 years prior. After we broke up i started having feelings for him and I think I love him. So back ...

He had a girlfriend the entire time we were dating and now he wants to meet up!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3793 days ago

11 December 2013 (F) - I was dating this guy for two months. Everything was perfect, we got along, we had the same common interest and we were going to college, both of our majors went hand in hand with each other and we really helped pushed and motivate each other in ...

I want him to help with our children. But can I trust him? Should I trust him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3794 days ago

11 December 2013 (F) - Ok so here's the situation! I've been with my man going on three years and 2 months! It's been a heck of roller coaster I'll tell you this! Although I should have seen all the signs and signals to leave him in the beginning but being in "love" a...

How do we mend our relationship once the trust has been broken?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3784 days ago

10 December 2013 (F) - I met this guy a year ago, We dated but he cheated on me with this girl who hated me( his ex). I know he cared for her but I also know she did it to break us up. I didn't want to give her the satisfaction so I tried to work it out with him, but she ...

I feel my husband is much too close to another woman. He says I'm making it up. Who's right?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3783 days ago

9 December 2013 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles. I have a question about my husband´s choice. He has many female friends since I met him, and ex girl friends, and ex ``love of his life `` in high school time. So,I knew that he kinda have contact always with them. But since a ...

How do I leave my wife and my children?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3794 days ago

9 December 2013 (M) - Dear Cupid, How can I leave my wife and two kids? I know these columns are normally reserved for women , but being a man with out any one to talk to and with a story I want to share with you I feel, I can tell no one else in the world, not my br...

I dated a guy who turned out to have a girlfriend. Who, or what, was I to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3796 days ago

9 December 2013 (F) - I met this guy three months ago at school. We hit off well and started dating, then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Things went well for the first week we were together, after that he became a little distant and we only saw each other once a week ...

How do I get rid of this loser from my head and my life????

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3796 days ago

9 December 2013 (F) - I've been in love with a loser for two and a half years. He is 7 years older than me. I believe he is addicted to drugs (cocaine, addy, maybe even speed). And I believe he is a cheater. I have found articles of women's clothing/accessories, ...

Is he cheating or was it a harmless joke?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3796 days ago

9 December 2013 (F) - Last night at a party, I overheard my boyfriend of 7 years tell his friend that they should go to some town because the "chicks will like them better there." He didn't know I ha just walked in the room at the time. I confronted him about it as ...

My ex and his ex, how do we deal with them now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3796 days ago

8 December 2013 (F) - I recently ended a three-year long relationship because I realised that I no longer loved my partner (at least, not in a romantic way). A friend of mine also ended his relationship on the same day - I'll call him "Bob". It'd been pretty obvious o...

Should I tell my housemate that his girlfriend cheated on him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3796 days ago

8 December 2013 (F) - Basically, I haven't known my housemate for a long time. Only about 3 months and he and his girlfriend have been together for about 7 months. This guy is a wonderful, decent and honest who absolutely adores her. Last night, I discovered from ...

He has been cheating for eight years, and I have collected the proof!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3798 days ago

7 December 2013 (F) - Hi I've been with the same guy 8 years I've been by his side through the roughest of times i had met him while he was married he left her for me . I've done everything possible to make him happy I've never cheated I've never been attract ed to any ...

Am I horrible or justified because their relationship was dead?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3799 days ago

6 December 2013 (F) - I feel like a horrible person. I'm in such a mess. I had a bad break-up and I met a guy online who I poured my soul out to. He was married to a woman who he hated and she hated him. She verbally and sometimes physically abused him (throwing ...

Why would my B/f give the woman his new phone number if she meant nothing to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3800 days ago

4 December 2013 (F) - my boyfriend works for the union and travels to jobs three weeks to four weeks out at a time. almost on every job he becomes friends with a woman and gets her number. one job he was working with this woman who he told me they joked around all the ...

Found out he cheated before we broke up

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3800 days ago

4 December 2013 (F) - I just found out that my ex-boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me the last 2 weeks of our relationship. We broke up in May, about 6 months ago, and I just found this out last night. We have been arguing/talking ever since but now that I officially know ...

My boyfriend cheated on his girlfriend to be with me and now I am having a hard time trusting him!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3799 days ago

4 December 2013 (?) - Hello. How do you learn to trust someone? My boyfriend cheated on a girlfriend to be with me. He left her for me. Now we are a couple. We have been for about 6 months. He claims how much he cares about me and treats me well over all. Spea...

I still love this man. So be nice. But we've been separated 3 years. We have adult children. Yet he tells his Gfs that he can't divorce, due to our children. What's he playing at?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3801 days ago

4 December 2013 (?) - We've been separated for 3 years! He is telling his so called girlfriend he hasn't sought a divorce because of our kids. Our kids are adults!! I don't think he doesn't want to divorce me, I caught him cheating, I was devastated he begged...

Why has he moved on so quick if he really loved me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3801 days ago

3 December 2013 (F) - I have ended a very turbulent relationship, which went on for over three years, due to his continued determination to continue using dating sites, while at the same time swearing blind that he loves me. After being broken up, for less than two week...

What about AFTER an affair?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3802 days ago

2 December 2013 (F) - How do you think men feel after having a long term affair on their partner? Do the feel regret? Do they even care? What if their current relationship was on the rocks and they were together "for the kids".... would there be less guilt? ...

Can you forgive a cheating husband?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3803 days ago

2 December 2013 (F) - Hey all, im devastated , found my husband of 6 years cheating, he had changed for a while and i suspected something. I took his mobile while asleep and found love msgs.. I was soo shocked, im young and we hav two adorable girls... He then started ...

Why is he still friends with his ex if she cheated on him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3802 days ago

2 December 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months or so now, and I really love and care for him. His family and I get along really well, and I care for them a lot too. We never really have problems or fight, he's really nice and respectful, and we seem to ...

Husband and I agreed to break off our affairs but now his mistress is pregnant!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3800 days ago

2 December 2013 (F) - I am 41 and I have been married for 6 1/2 yrs..been with my husband for 11yrs total. We have no children together..both our children are all adults. I found he was cheating on me in April so I confronted him. He lied to me that he wouldn't do it ...

How can I prove I'm not messing around?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3804 days ago

1 December 2013 (M) - I have met up with this girl. We were getting on fine for a month, then I stayed there one night, and the next morning. She asked me to leave, she said she was unwell. I left and rang her in a hour, she told me that I was cheating on her, while I ...