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Archived questions from: August, 2013 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...

I have a HUGE crush on a co worker.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - I am in a great relationship with my girlfriend. We have been together for many years. My girlfriend is bisexual but I cannot admit to her that I am as well. At work, I really like this guy. He makes me laugh and makes me feel good when I see ...

I snooped on her computer and don't like what I found!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - a couple of months ago i was visiting my LD girlfriend and i had lots of time alone at her place while she was at school. i snooped into her computer historial out of couriosity and i found she had visited some hook up site afew times for the last ...

Secretive girlfriend! How do I approach this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3890 days ago

30 August 2013 (M) - Been reading through articles on here and they are very useful. However I need some advice still. My g/f has become extremely secretive with texts and calls over the past month or so. There's a guy she's been speaking to and she has become quite ...

My long distance is into role playing and its startin to really get to me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

30 August 2013 (F) - Before I start, I'm going to say that I know part of my worries come from jealousy and maybe even insecurity, but I really just have to ask others to because I know there's more to it than that. Also, it may be hard to read because I'm venting a ...

She would have left me for someone better than me, did I do the right thing ending things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

28 August 2013 (M) - It is after the breakup I initiated last week. I am writing trying to hear more from other people's point of view about my situation and decision. Almost two years of relationship with this girl, and I will call this girl H throughout this post. ...

Emotional affair that I'm having trouble getting over

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

28 August 2013 (F) - I was in a long distance relationship and at this time I met another guy I had a crush on. Since it was just a crush, I never mentioned it to him and we became friends. The more we got to know each other, the more I realized he was recovering from a ...

I need both my husband and my lover

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - So ive been married for 18 years, we have 4 children all teens. Extremely unhappy since 2007. We always had a sort of toxic relationship. Fighting (just words) , making up, great sex..etc. In 2005 he was involved in a business that required alot of ...

I'm worried about boyfriend's immaturity and lack of boundaries

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - Hi, I'm trying to figure out if my relationship is good for me or not, me and my boyfriend have had a fair few disagreements, we do usually talk it through sensibly and both feel good afterwards. But there has been one topic that keeps coming...

I found a pair of women's sunglasses in his hotel room. Is my b/f cheating on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of four years is staying at a hotel for work for a month and this is the second time I've come to visit him while I can't work (rain). Today I arrived at the hotel and found a pair of womens sunglasses under one of the bedside tables ...

Has he been cheating on me this whole time !

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - Please more than one person help me out! I need tons of advice ! My ex is a compulsive liar and the guy I'm talking to, ill just call him my bf, is a player. And they're friends Well in the beginning my boyfriend would text me all day ...

What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...

Boyfriend's former friend-with-benefits talked to him. Should I let it go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

26 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend used to have a friend with benefits. My boyfriend and I live together now. She broke it off with him. It's been about 5 years from the break up. The town is not large. So far they have kept their distance from each other. This woma...

My wife came back to me after an affair but she's pregnant and I don't know if it's mine

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

26 August 2013 (M) - My wife left me for another man last year, she was carrying this hidden affair for a while. I was clueless or chose to be blind about it. She broke my heart because I really do love her, I tried really hard to get her to come back and she did. She ...

Do I have the right to feel jealous if my on-and off bf sleep with another girl?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3896 days ago

24 August 2013 (F) - Hello, So technically my boyfriend broke up with me a year and half ago (in Jan 2012) but he still keeps me around. He said long distance isn't for him but I still love him and have a hard time letting him go. So, every break when I get a chance, ...

Ex boyfriend has sexual photos/videos of me that I'm afraid he'll use. How do I get him to move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

22 August 2013 (F) - I broke up for good with my ex in February. We had a rocky 6 year long relationship. There was a lot of chemistry between us, but there were also trust issues. It all began with him finding out about my past. He reacted so badly that I feared being ...

I've been involved with a guy from work who also has a girlfriend. Things were great but I feel like he's backing off. How can I keep him interested?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

22 August 2013 (F) - I've been seeing a guy from work for a while, i started there in April and I've had so much fun working with him and flirting away. We get on great! The flirting increased about two months ago and we started sending dirty texts and pics, which ...

Does my wife's behavior mean she is cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

21 August 2013 (M) - In the last year,my wife has talked sexier and much more than in the pastwhile having sex,started to exercise,swallowed several times giving me oral sex a couple times in one week when she. Has only did that twice before in 20yrs and became ...

He's acting like I cheated on him! I did not!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

20 August 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. Recently I turned 21, my boyfriend however will not be 21 until June. On my birthday we spent the whole day together and later that night I was going to go out with friends. Since the ...

One of them is lying. Who do I believe?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - i m 18 girl from india. i met a guy when i was in 12 th grade . we are together for 1 year and 3 months . we have all ups and downs as normal couple now the problem is he had created a new fb acc . he dnt share his password. he shared photos...

How do I tell her I looked into her phone and saw explicit messages?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

19 August 2013 (M) - I have a dilemma and need to find a way to resolve it. I have been dating a lovely lady for 18 months. 10 months into our relationship, work took me away to South East Asia, where my roots are. I was supposed to return after 5 months, however ...

Could my daughter's cheating cause a family feud to develop?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

18 August 2013 (F) - Thank you for your help with my question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-daughter-was-cheating-on-her-fiance-with.html - I appreciate it. However, the thing I was most worried about was a family feud developing between the two families - e...

My daughter was cheating on her fiance with her best friend's father. How do I contain this situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - My 27 yr old daughter has recently admitted to me she's been cheating on her fiance with her best friend's dad, and she's thinking about ditching her fiance and marrying her best friend's dad. She admitted she was discreet about the affair. I am...

I want him to feel love for me, not just lust!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3905 days ago

16 August 2013 (F) - I m in a relationship with a guy...before dating him i was in love with someone else...but yet i m dating someone who i was friends with for 1 year. but i m not able to forget my past love. i want him desperately...but hes a complete ...

My girlfriend has been ignoring my messages, I feel like she is seeing someone else

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3906 days ago

16 August 2013 (M) - So I want to keep this short because most people wont read it if its really long. My girlfriend has been short with me this week and distant she doesn't send me cute good morning texts and goodnight which makes me lead to the decision that she is ...

Can a man who is willing to cheat on his wife ever be faithful?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

15 August 2013 (F) - Please help me. I have been married for 12 years. I love my husband like a dear friend, but I have never been in love with him. We have been to counseling and I have even told him that when we married I was in a bad place and I am not sure I ...

Cougar needs advice - does he like me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

15 August 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. I am a 32 year old mother of 2 children. But I am stuck in a loveless marriage with an uncaring husband. However I have recently fallen for another man who is intelligent, has many of the same qualities as me, and ohh so gorgeous ...

He's cheated in the past and I don't trust my husband fully now. Should I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3906 days ago

14 August 2013 (F) - Married for 12 yrs. im a SAHM( Stay at home mom) with two kids 6 and 2 yr olds. Husband seeked escorts while 2nd pregnancy. Found out 2 yrs late. He says he is clean now no more a cheater but no matter how hard I try I find myself spying on him ...

I cheated on my girlfriend of 3 months...what do I do now? Tell her or not?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3907 days ago

14 August 2013 (M) - Hi. I did a terrible thing and cheated on my girlfriend of 3 months. I was out with work mates having drinks (a lot) and on the way home I kissed one of the girls. I absolutely regret it. I am in so much guilt that its eating me inside out. I think ...

My married man is too busy for me but I don't want to let him go!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

13 August 2013 (F) - Im in love with a married guy, 6years older than me. He lives about a 5hour drive away from me and he comes once or twice a month to oversee his projects (he's a building contractor). Last weekend was a long weekend and we chilled from thurs to ...

How can I trust him when he was having webcam sex with his ex for months?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3909 days ago

13 August 2013 (F) - Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to handle my situation. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I thought we were happy in every aspect, and I could tell him anything, and I thought also could tell me anything. He ...

My married ex called me to say he still has feelings for me. I feel the same but what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3909 days ago

13 August 2013 (F) - I'm 21 years old my whole life I have only had 3 serious relationships. I have a 2 year old with my ex. We broke up march 15th of last year and it was so hard i was devastated i thought i'd never get over it. I always knew that he was the one but ...

Back to ack devastation in relationships. I don't know how to deal with it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

12 August 2013 (M) - Hello, I dated a girl for 16 months in what was an extremely rocky relationship. In our best times together (which was about 20% of the time), she was the perfect girl I always dreamed of. Great personality, similar interests, funny, gorgeous, ...

He says he'll leave his girlfriend for me when she comes back. Can I trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3910 days ago

12 August 2013 (F) - Hi everyone so I'm 16 and I need help! I became bestfriends with a guy(also 16) from my school when I moved near him as I didn't know anyone he was really nice and we went to work in the same place we'd walk to work together. I knew we were just ...

Is she still entitled to her privacy after she has had a clear disrespect for our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

9 August 2013 (M) - Let me start by saying, I have posted here several times regarding this subject. I asked if it was normal that my girlfriend was occasionally speaking to her exes and kept me a secret to her family. Recently she told her family about me - after...

Am I cheating if its just in my thoughts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

9 August 2013 (F) - I just don't know whether it is right or wrong to be in the situation which I am in right now. I am in a very fulfilling relationship with an amazing person. He loves me so much and ofcourse I love him back so much. And I am looking forward to ...

Feeling sexually amped -- except with my wife

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

8 August 2013 (M) - I've been married for 5 years with two kids. Lately I've had little sexual attraction to my wife but I still watch porn and stuff. Lately, I've been getting hit on by female coworkers, one in particular (gorgeous). Lately, I've felt particularly ...

Am I getting subconsciously turned on by his jealousy and total devotion?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

8 August 2013 (F) - As I wrote on a separate page on here, a few days ago I was unfaithful to my boyfriend. I cheated on him with colleague after spending the whole night having superamazing sex at his. Now, something incredible happened. I've been with my boyfrien...

Torn between two men--is it possible to love them both?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3913 days ago

8 August 2013 (F) - I Have Been In Various Relationships Over The Years I Have Been Living With My Boyfriend For Over 15 Years He Is A Good Man But He Doesn't Take Me Anywhere Or Go Out With Me I Am With His Mom More Than Him I met A Man Who Is 15 Years Older Than Me ...

I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

7 August 2013 (F) - Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...

It doesn't have to be complicated

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7 August 2013 (F) - I've been the agony aunt among the people I've known for a while. Those much older than me come to me. What would I know right? Thing is, I've always learned from the mistakes of others and gather What-Not-To-Do from that. Ever heard "A fo...

I called my partner out on his lies, he promised to stop but doesn't show me as much affection anymore.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3914 days ago

7 August 2013 (F) - I met my partner a year ago. It was wonderful to begin with, then I discovered his lies. Started with hiding porn, then he was mailing women behind my back when I was at work, then one evening on his phone he had signed up to a swingers website ...

Cheated on my boyfriend last night and feel so guilty! Should I tell him?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

7 August 2013 (F) - I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out the taxi too and we ended up ...

My brother's wife cheated and doesn't know who the father of her baby is!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

7 August 2013 (F) - So my sister in law cheated on my brother for two years and now she's pregnant but doesn't know who the baby's dad is. Great! I'm so mad at her I could hit her and mind you i'm not a violent person at all. I've never hit anyone out of anger in my ...

My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3916 days ago

5 August 2013 (M) - As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...

My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

4 August 2013 (F) - I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...

Found my LDR Husband had considered playing around and now I can't move on!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3915 days ago

4 August 2013 (F) - My husband and I have been together for a year, separated by distance for 2 years and got married after and separated again for months now. As I opened his Facebook account because of the game we played thats why I know his password. I unin...

I'm married and don't want to be in love with another man but I am!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3919 days ago

3 August 2013 (F) - Hi all I have a huge dilemma and I desperately need help. I'm a 38-year old woman, my husband is 45 and we have been married for 10 years. My hubby is a wonderful man and we've been very happy together. A couple of years ago we began tal...

We have a baby but I've found out she kissed another boy when we had been together for a month!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

2 August 2013 (M) - Im 22 and she's 19 we have a baby now and were doing just fine being together,we've also been together for more than a year.i loved her without a doubt before she kissed a guy when we were about a month together she said that it was a dare they were ...

Threesomes/ group sex after an adulterous like history, Good idea?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

2 August 2013 (M) - in the past me and my gf broke up for two weeks and got back together. where she was with other men while we were not together. i was not with anyone, we came back and tried a mutually exclusive friends with benefits thing. and that's when i caved ...