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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Is he getting it somewhere else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Men get off quicker when they havent had it in a while. Thats from my experience. Is that true or does it depend on the person? Because my b/f and I havent had sex in 3 1/2 months and then when we did he didnt go quickly. Not that I am c...

Is it normal for attached guys to flirt with other women via email?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I need a mans point of view please. My question is: Do guys write/email etc.. other girls in a flirting/even inappropraite way even when your in a relationship with another? Is it an ego thing? Do guys usually intend on something to happen or...

Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?...

Was I wrong to check up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - hi, me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost three years. In that time he has cheated once with a woman for a month, that ended once i found out. He has persued another woman but she didnt want anything with him. Why did i stay? because ...

If she's not in love with him anymore, why is our love so wrong?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 49 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I have fallen completely in love with my best friend's husband and I don't know how to stop it. It has been going on for over nine months. I love my best friend, but knowing her and him I know they have been having lots of problems (for years). They ...

Nothing concrete but more seems to be going on than meets the eye!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm new around here and could do with a bit of advice, sorry for the novel. I have two young children with my husband of 7 years, he is a builder an works quite closely with his customers in his home, which normaly I dont have a problem with. ...

How to tell my girl of 6 years that its just not there anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok so i have been with a girl for six years and we have had our ups and downs like every one else, but the problem is ive sat down for a long time and asked myself do i really love her? i have feelings for her and i do like seeing her but not being ...

If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...

How can you love someone and get turned on by other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Here's my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I am now convinced that I'm in love with her. So here's why I'm writing now... A few weeks into our relationship I found out that she gave me several STDS, some were easily...

Cheaters: how do you know if they have changed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Do men that cheat ever genuinely change??? if they do how do you know that they changed?...

Does this mean he likes me back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - hey people i have a problem i realy like this guy but he has a gf and every day that i see him he sais some thing diffrent like today he said that some one told him i want to have sex with him and make out with him does this mean he likes me back?...

If I talk to another guy, is that cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I have been talking to this guy for about 3 months and i finaly asked him what are we and he told em that we are dating... if i talk to another guy is that cheating ?...

Do you think she'll give me another chance even though I cheated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - me and my ex met wen i was 18 and she was 16 we was going out for about six months wen she told me she loved me and i felt the same but about a month later one of her friends started texting me and we became close i ended up seeing both of them on ...

Cheating, playing around and suddenly she disappears?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Both Married ben strongly flirting and playing arround i suddenly told her ((i love you)) she suddenly dissapeared afterwords what happended did i lose her??...

Men's point of view on extramarital affairs

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I was wanting some male input into extra marital affairs. Often on here there are questions from women who have become involved with men who are married. Everytime there are answers from women who chastise the women from getting involved in the ...

Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...

Relationship Crisis: he cheated but I want it to work!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - So this month has been my worst month ever, boyfriend cheated on me and everything. I took him back we had a long conversation and I told him that it will be a long time for me to trust him and I continue to ask him to keep 100 with me all the time. ...

Why am I so heartbroken over a girl who lied to me and cheated on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok, I had been going out with a girl for a whole year and just this week we have split for good. I am totally heartbroken. Thing is,during our time together, I got nothing but lied to, talked to like crap, not allowed to have any feelings, cheated ...

I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I am inlove with my girlfriends best friend and i realy don't know what to do. I once kiss her, which has makes me fall inlove with her more. What must i do?...

How can I truly make this relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi...i'm an 18 year old female in a complicated relationship. it all started last year when i met a guy at my college. we clicked instantly and became very good and close friends. he had a girlfriend at the time, but told me they were on the rocks ...

I can't take this marriage anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - We got married december 2008 we met on the internet, hes too controlling..i see red flags, emotional ones, i came back once before he gave me an std. I feel dirty dont want to pursue my marriage with him no more..dont want to have sex with hi...

How do I get past this sexual block?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband off and on since we we're both 17 and married him at 22. Once we got married we were completely faithful to eachother, though things didnt stay that way. back in the beginning of "04 i became friends with this girl. i had ...

I can't stop flirting and sleeping with men!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am 21 yrs old and have 2 beutifull children with my boyfriend of 5 yrs who i love dearly and who dearly loves me, but I cant stop flirting and sleeping with other men. I flirt all the time online as i cant sleep with the men online, but if i go ...

B/f asked me to get rid of phone numbers but then sends a text from the old number? Is he cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I wonder if you guys can help me handle a problem I have got. During the course of our 2 year relationship, my boyfriend has had 3 mobile phones which is not a problem as we keep our old phones (I have had 2) in case our new ones go wrong which ...

The day I was going to ask her to marry me she told me she had cheated on me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - My gf of 4 yrs went on a all girls trip south and when she came home she told me she hooked up with another guy. She claims they never had sex just made out and did alot of touching. The day she came home I actually had plan to ask her to marry me. ...

Pregnant, cheated and now don't know who the father is

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - my last period was in august.i am not sure of the date although it was round about the end.i had sex with my long term partner on the 4th,5th,6th and 10th of september and although i hate myself for doing it i cheated on the 12th.my boyfriend is ...

I'm finding it so hard to let her go, but if she wants to live her life like this should I just accept it and move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years, I am 64 my wife is 48. We have a son aged 15. It has been a happy marriage, we were both in love and have a wonderful life, great house, great cars, health, great holidays. My wife also has a great stable ...

Should I tell my ex why I'm mad at him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - So my cheating ex who has not talked to me in 8months and blocked me from everything...facebook, yahoo, games we played, his cell decided to contact me 2 weeks ago it started with a friend and on yahoo well then he started texting me and talkin...

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 35 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

Are my resentful thoughts called for and how long should I allow myself to recover?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - My partner left me after 18 years together. Three weeks later I found out that she was with someone else. She wasnt upset in anyway and ended it with a twn minute coversation in a supermarket coffee shop with her friend sat next to her. It really ...

Is he cheating on me and how can I stop us from falling apart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - So, Im 18 and My Boyfriend Is 20, we've been together 2 years but i just don't know if he loves me anymore.. he tells me he does but would rather be out with his friends than spend time with me, he always seems to be on his phone which is making ...

My husband's 3rd affair and I feel nothing

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I am at a cross roads, I confirmed on Friday, what I knew in my mind for a couple of months, that my husband is having another affair. This will be the third affair I know of, and in the very early days he had a few one night stands. We have been ...

My best friend is cheating on his girlfriend and it bothers me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - OK I'm in a fix! My very best friend is a guy. We're very close and he tells me a lot of 'things'. Well, my friend, lets call him M, has a girlfriend named N. Being a country of racial differences, his mom opposes. He says she's very understanding ...

Are all the men on the internet cheaters?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I met a French man who lives in Rochester NY, in a dating website. He is a CEO and chairman one of big company is NY. He told me that he separated with his wife 5 years and had an unhappy marriage and already sent divorce dox to the court just ...

Should I stay and be with number 2 or go home and be with number 1???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - My problem is that, About 4 years ago I was with a great man who adored me. We were together for 2 years but I really wasn't ready for the relationship at the time and made the worst mistake and cheated on him near the end of the relationship (which ...

Having an affair with my first love, but he confuses me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 57 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Sorry a long question... i have been married for 22 years .. not always great but managed to bring up two kids. 12 months ago i meet up with my first love , he had split up from his wife ... we started a affair.. i know , stupid . at Christmas he ...

I'm married want to know if its ok to indulge in sex with someone else?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - i am a married for last 3 years, last year i met a guy who is single. intially it was a good friendship. he is 3 years younger to me. we used to talk a lot. gradually he started expressing his feeling and talking all about himself. one day i saw his ...

I think husband's affair is still on after 2 years but he denies it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I have been married 11 years - was a passionate afair which lead to us getting married. husband is 2 yrs younger. he is still good looking muscular, I was a bomb but am now very fat around 100 kgs but still considered attractive and charming. my ...

In love with a married woman and don't know what to do

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

26 September 2009 (M) - This is a bit of a long story. We first met in our teens. I had the hots for her in a major way... and she felt the same way for me. The problem, neither of us was brave enough to tell the other how we truly felt inside. We spent many of ou...

I don't have the proof of an affair..but don't feel right about this

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - My situation is a little different than I've read here. I haven't don't have proff of an affair but... My hubby of 10 months had an ex-girlfriend call him out of the blue. She first called his cell but we have poor reception where we live. She cal...

Do I give my ex bf another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I asked for advice at the beginning of this year when i had split with my ex boyfriend. I was in heartache and agony and was spiralling out of control, i had lost over a stone in weight when i discovered he'd been texting other women. this all ...

Was my exgirlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. My gut feeling always had this thought that she was cheating on me. She had a facebook account for almost one year but she disclosed this on me in the first week o...

Would a guy say they're single if they're not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hi this guy has a crush on me and has shown it for almost 3 months then he call me and I never answer him he left the following day, in early September I saw him again and we said hi, he still notice me he said "hey" and again i never answer ...

Cheating with a co-worker/friend of my husband!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for 16 years and have two children. My husband has been unresponsive and ignoring me for probably 5 of those years. I have considered leaving him many times but haven't for the sake of the children. We have now unofficially ...

Can he be so cold to not acknowledge the wrong that he's done?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 1/5 years and we spoke and emailed every day, several times a day, for several hours. We somehow managed to make it work. Last week I was away on business and told him i'd talk with him on sunday as ...

I'm a babysitter and the father asked me out to lunch!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I babysit a couple's child. His wife is expecting a baby in the new year. The husband asks me out to lunch when he picks up his child. Is this inappropriate?...

Is my boyfriend falling for his roomate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has moved in with our mutual friend, who is a girl. They are also living with two of his guy friends. They have been getting really close. They are extremely flirty. In fact, they are closer at this point than I am with him. The...

I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...

Even though he's been going behind my back, I don't want to leave him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My husband had a realtionship with another female for years. I was with him first but it started before we were married. Then We all started having threesomes together. I did not know that they were doing it behind my back. I just recently found out ...

Is our love fixable after 20 yrs together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - We have been together for 20 years I am 40 and he is 39 . We were college sweethearts and very intensely in love. HE would play guitar and serenade me outside my window. Bring me flowers the whole thing. THen we had a child. I watch enough OPRAH to ...