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writes:Hey everyone well how to start im 17.. my ex is 18.. we went out for about 1 year .. i love her to death, i would do anything for her.. she broke up with me about 1 month ago, the day she broke up with me she went to some party,got drunk,high, ended up sleeping with some guy but she claims they didnt have sex i really dont care.. but anyways this past month i have been crying like crazy we havent had contact till last friday.. she told me she still loves me but she doesnt want to go out with me again.. this wasnt any love, she lived with me we spent 24/7 together we were deeply in love we would make future plans etc.. anyways when we saw each other she told me she met some guy but she kinda likes him, she was crying, holding my hand, telling me how much she loves me etc.. then we ended up going out again i was so happy.. then she goes home goes to sleep etc.. wakes up and tells me.. i dont want to be with you sorry.. so im like wtf? then she ignored me the whole day and at night im like can we see each other ? she says yea.. but only for a little bit.. so same thing happens but we didnt go out again.. this time she was on top of me so we had sex in her car.. she ignored me for 2 damn days after.. then she adds me on face book we talk like friends.. then deletes me idk whats up with her? like i really really love her so much.. i cant move on. please tell me what i can do? she says she never wants to go out with me again .. btw im a high school student she lives on-college, im so sorry for all the bad grammer and how long it is but im so depressed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): yeah she was my first love "/.. thank you everybody, by the way i have parents but they just laugh at me if i tell them
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Lots of women like to play games. Instead of being her puppy dog, show her two can play that game. make sure to be the one who always ends the conversations first. Tell her you met someone new and interesting even if you didnt. Dont pick up the phone right away or respond to her texts right away. always keep her guessing. remember women love drama. You always have the option to never speak to her anymore.
you're only a kid and you'll eventually meet more and better women, who will give you the proper respect. this one obviously doesn't respect you. I say move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Oh the amount of times i've been through this as a young piscean haha... It's not easy but you must cut her out of your life. The other three people have hit the nail on the head, NOBODY is worth your life. Your 17, you have a whole life ahead of you, and believe me plenty more girls ahead of you too. Girls that will actually mean it when they say they love you. She is obviously a very mixed up person, she needs help herself. Do you honestly believe that shes crying over you?? No. She's out there living her life and so should you. You have every right to get out there and do your best. She doesnt care about your feelings and i think its about time you should quit caring about hers. She's a selfish spineless bitch, and you deserve better young man! I'm not saying it will be easy to move on but talk to someone, a friend, a relative or a counselor if you need to. Anytime you want to cry, just do it. Dont hold back, just got for it. Any opportunity that comes your way, go for it. Dont waste your life on such a cold hearted woman! Get out there and see what the world has to offer! I wish you all the best x
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (29 May 2009):
 Young man, take a deep breath, relax for a second...
Both Gina and DrBritto are giving you good advice here.
I just want to add that it is true she is immature and selfish. I want to let you also know that although this may seem like the worst thing that has happened in your young life, please do NOT under any circumstances let those thoughts of suicide enter your head.
As a young man about your age in HS I had a similar (in some ways) experience with a girl who was I thought of at the time "The One". I myself was very distraught at the situation and I made a weak attempt at ending it all myself. A weak attempt because I knew deep down that no woman (or man) is worth ending your life for. Becuase they live on.
Just consider the fact that this is not the last relationship you will have. She has a disregard for you (evidenced by the fact that she breaks up with you and sleeps with a guy at a party the same night). She simply has not matured to the point that sher can see anybody's feelings but her own. Believe me there are people of all ages like that. I myself am 44 going on 19...lol(I bet most of the Aunts and Uncles would agree with me too from my answers on the forum).
what I am trying to tell you is to get your butt off the ground, dust yourself off, and as hard as it is, just cut this girl off. It will be hard at first, but if she is in college, you can bet your bottom dollar that with all the new experiences she is having that this will not get any better any time soon. And she will do the same crap to the next guy she dates,that is a given.
If you just want a piece of ass off her occasionally (sorry ladies I know thats crude, no offense to the gender) then do it. She will continue to break your heart though.
You have so much to look forward and you are so young. I'd give anything to be your age again. Go live your life, and be successful,for it is the best revenge of all.
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reader, drrbritto +, writes (29 May 2009):
My dear, you have it bad. I am not being funny, I was like this once and it is sooooooo painful, I am serious. But this too shall pass just give yourself some time. Time heals all wounds and broken hearts. Do you have parents? if you do please go to them and tell them that you need to see a counselor at once. Tell them that you thought that you wanted to kill yourself at one time. If you don't have parents or someone to help you, go to your counselor at at school, please do something now! No one is worth you dying for,especialy when they don't love you in return. You have a beautiful life ahead of you don't throw it away. Think about your future and how great you are going to be when you finish growing up and get your educaton . You must think clearly. Do you really want someone in your life that do not love you? I think that you should ask the Lord to help you get over her and help you go on with your life. Is she your "first love?" Then that is why it is so painful. Life must go on please get help as soon as you can. God bless!
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